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Tee50


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"We admitted we were powerless over alcohol - that our lives had become unmanagable".


When I admit that I am powerless over alcohol, then I realize that no matter what I do, I can't control it. All I can do is take care of me and the effects of alcohol on me. When I acknowledge that my life is unmanagable then I can learn to step back and try it another way. Doing it the way I was, was not working, but causing me more grief everytime I tried to change them, control them, cure them. I had to come to the realization deep down in my intermost self that I could not continue on the way I was going. My life was a mess and I didn't know how to make it better.



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Gwen


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Dear Tee,


Unmanagability comes to mind.  Change, control, cure, "Them" or "me."  The manageable list to work on becomes real clear if I look at it like that.  Great share. 


w/love Gwen 



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Take what you like and leave the rest. Be good to yourself and encourage others to do so as well. With love, Gwen
spacetrader


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I am working through step one with my sponsor and am looking forward to using this site as a resource.  Just trying out my new status as a participant.    Step one seems to be the key.  Getting it is essential to making progress.  Have been in the program for 18 very serious months, and am loving it!

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We admitted we were powerless over alcohol and that our lives had become unmanageable.


No problem realizing my life had become unmanageable...it had become a "royal" mess!


Powerlessness = having no power...scary thought...but is it?  Powerlessness can be viewed in a couple of ways.  I have no power over alcohol addiction, or any other addiction for that matter....I am a victim, poor me, this must be my lot in life, sigh! 


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Powerlessness = having no power...not a scary thought...it is all in perception.  If I have no power then there is nothing humanly possible that I can do to change this alcohol addiction or any other addiction.  I am free.  If I am powerless over addiction, and I am also powerless over myself, then "I" have a problem I need to address.  The problem is not powerlessness, but how I perceive it.  For you see I do have power over me...I have power in the way I choose to think, power in the way I choose act/react, power in what I choose to say/not say and the manner in which I say it.  I have all kinds of power, but the key is appropriate use of that power in taking good care of myself and to be the best person that I can be with the help of my HP (God) and Al-Anon.



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captcodee


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I found step one the hardest so far, and it is the one I visit most often. 


I think it took me about two years in alanon before I TRULY found out just how powerless over alcohol I really was.  I didn't think that it was necessary, and I used to substitute alcohol for "the alcoholic".  Then, one day my husband ended up in the psych ward as a direct result of his disease.  I could not make any decisions for him, his doctor would not take one single minute to talk to me, and even prescribed narcotics!  He called bawling, and I could not visit.......I was truly powerless.


I am finding that with most of the steps it takes a huge crisis for me to TRULY understand the impact of the step, or the intention God has for me to use the step constructively.....


Captcodee (Aron)



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