Sought through Prayers and Mediation to Improve our Conscious Contact with God, As We UNDERSTOOD HIM, Praying Only for the Knowledge of His Will for Us and the Power to Carry That Out
One Day at a Time in Alanon Page 177
It is in Step 11 That I find the actively spiritual prescription for the practice of the alanon program.
Sought through Prayers and Mediation to improve our Conscious Contact with God, as we UNDERSTOOD HIM, Praying only for the Knowledge of His Will for us and the Power to carry that out
If we are living the alanon counsel of First Things First prayer and meditations must come before all else, since it is this way we receive guidance for our decisions.
Am I too busy to pray? Have I no time for mediation? Then let me ask myself if I have been able to solve my problems without help. As I face them day by day, I want to acknowledge my need for His guidance. I will not let this day pass- nor any day from now on without making myself consciously aware of God
It is God who girth me with strength and maketh my way perfect
Again with this Step, I worked it out of order. After I had reconciled with the God of my understanding in Step 2, I reviewed all the other Steps and thought it an impossible task for me. I knew that these Steps held the key to living my life differently and I was determined to continue on this journey. I decided that in order to get the courage to move forward I needed to jump the Steps so that I could obtain the clarity and courage to do the work of Steps 4 thru 9
Reading the Steps was very easy--- Acting on them and using them in my life very very hard.
I looked thru each Step and Slogan and found I could do Step 11 with ease The reason for that is in Step 11, I not only pray for the knowledge for HPs will for me but I also ask for and receive the Power to carry it out!!! What a gift!! What a promise!!! HP is not going to ask anything of me that He does not provide the courage, wisdom and strength for me to succeed.
I started small. Each morning I asked HP to show me His will today and give me the power to go forth. Then I said the serenity prayer and started my day.
Any time during the day that I felt angry, resentful, sad, I would repeat the serenity prayer and trust HP to guide my actions and words. At the end of the day my sponsor and I would review the day as in a 10th Step and would see clearly how HP had guided my actions and what courage I had been given. I handled/ handle situations that use to confuse me and make me want to run. I spoke my truth with courtesy and kindness all this was new for me. I usually tried to manipulate situations so I would obtain my will. Here I was trusting HP, being Honest, Open and Willing and my days were falling into place like never before.
I work this Step each and every day . I ask HP for the courage, wisdom and serenity to live through this day only and trust that I will be lead.
Just a note, my MY HP did not promise a Rose Garden. I have had many a heart break on this Spiritual Journey. Some that sent me into a tail spin. The loss of my precious son to this disease was major. I felt the sadness; the anger, the grief the huge loss and I also felt deep down a peace that surpasses understanding. I did receive the power to face this very difficult loss with HPs help I will always miss and love my child and have a deep sadness at his loss however I also am oh so grateful that this beautiful gift from HP, was in my life for over 40 years and I can recall the many joys and love we shared.
I love this Step
Thanks for letting me share.
Activities1. Have you begun the discipline of prayer in your life? What does that consist of? What are your feelings and fears about praying, about talking to God? What time of day works best for prayer? Do you have a favorite place?2. How do you meditate? Do you like meditation books? Which are your favorites? When is you best time for reading a meditation? Do you like tapes? Have you experimented with any other forms of meditation?3. What other activities help you relax and get in touch with yourself?4. The next time you get stressed, instead of pushing harder, you might want to walk away from what you are doing and find a way to get quiet and centered. If you are at work, you may want to retreat into a private area-your office, if you have one, or even a bathroom will do. Breathe deeply, then let go of your thoughts, worries, and chaos. Allow peace and healing to enter your body. Stay with it as long as you can or as long as you need to.
Not all of my days are priceless, but none of my days are worthless, anymore.
THANKS FOR SUPPORTING THE STEP BOARD BERNIE I LOVED YOUR SHARE I TOO TREATED GOD AS SANTA AND WAS VERY ANGRY WHEN MY LIST OF DEMANDS WERE NOT GRANTED.I HAD TO HAVE THE "GIFT OF DESPERATION" IN ORDER TO SURRENDER MY CHILDISH FANTASY AND GROW UP.APPRECIATE YOUR WISDOM
and hello Bernie :>)
I am reading this over breakfast, preparing for a day's work out there...
I too love steps 2 and 11. Because God loves me. This is a Sunday but we are harvesting and nature does not wait for man's laws. But it is also a great time to witness to the love of God amongst people of many nations- and to gather from them their own insights- their own hopes and joys...
may write some more when I have time for more reflection...
Ka whiti te ra, kia hanga te kai...
Make hay while the sun shines...
"Recovery isn't winning, it's not playing" and "Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional"
F.E.A.R. = false evidence appearing real
INSANITY = doing the same thing over nad over again and expecting different results.
Thank you Flopadopilus
Your share truly insipired me . Your trust and faith in your HP and as a result in your choices and decisions is a wonderful gift to share.
It's what you do next, that matters.
Thank you so much for sharing your God Box and Prayer Tree.
I too have a GOd Box into which I out all I turn over to my HP. I utter words of gratitude but have never thought of giving actual symbolic offerings of thanks as well as the words.
That action feels very powerful and I will begin to do so
By sharing experinces I grow Thanks again
This step is something that for me I think I have to look at a little differently. I grew up in private Christian school and church. I've always had a relationship on some level with my HP.
The statement "As We UNDERSTOOD HIM, Praying Only for the Knowledge of His Will for Us and the Power to Carry That Out"
I know how much Al-Anon has given me. I know that I have my own views and beliefs, and they are important to me. Something I try to be very cognizant of is that many who come to the board and come to the F2F meeting do not need me beating them over the head with what I believe. Instead they have to have their own understanding of their HP.
I don't want to scare someone else away from the wonderful benefits of discovering their own path of recovery because I am unwilling to allow them to find HP as they understand him.
The absolute beauty of the alanon program stands out in each Step This one is no exception. We are each asked to choose our own Understanding of the God and to use the alanon tools to connect with that Higher Power.
It is applicable to every belief system and shows not preferences
Thanks for sharing.
I TOO LOVE THIS STEP WORK BOARD
SHARING OUR IDEAS ON THE STEPS ENRICHES US ALL .
THANKS FOR THE SUGGESTION ABOUT PLACING SOME SOME CHARACTER TRAITS IN THE GOD BOX AND THEN CONCENTRATING ON THAT TRAIT DURING THE DAY.
Thanks for your thoughts and insights. Love the expression of :
"allowing the now to be all". That sums it up perfectly.