Step 6 Questions

1. What are the hard-to-handle beliefs, behaviors, feelings, wants, or needs that you're struggling with right now? You may want to begin affirming that you are becoming ready to let go of these issues.
I'm finding it hard to let go of the belief that my AD would be happy and healthy and successful if we did a good job of parenting. I'm finding it hard to let go of my role as a mother to help get my AD into the right program. I'm finding it hard to not feel hurt by my AD's angry accusations.


2. How would it make your life different if you believed that you could just relax and let this process called recovery happen to you?
I would feel peaceful and I could enjoy the day that is before me. I could have fun with my husband and family, and I could put energy into my creative writing again. I could sleep at night without worrying about my AD, and I could have a brain that doesn't worry about my AD underneath. I could think other thoughts.


3. Make a list of everything you would like changed about yourself. Include on it the things you would like to stop doing, things you would like to start doing, any family-of-origin work you'd like to accomplish, things you'd like to get and have. Put everything you can think of on the list, everything you'd like to be part of your future. Then put the list away and let go of everything on it.
I would like to worry less about things and not feel responsible for people's happiness. I would like to stop feeling responsible for my AD's happiness. I would like to be able to get into a peaceful state more easily. I would like to nurture and help people in a way that is positive for them and for me. I would like my AD to be part of my family's future in a healthy way. I would like all my family members to be safe and healthy and happy and successful in life.



4. Do you believe it's safe to trust God and this process called recovery?
I do believe it's best to trust God and this process called recovery; I'm not sure I feel it's safe yet. I'm not quite there.

Hi, I am on step 6 and I love the "Let go and let God."  I cannot wait until I can really do it, life would be a dream!  But, I can do it sometimes.  I am ready to have God remove my character defects.  Including, raising my voice/reacting.  My lack of trust in myself and in God.  My desperation, worry, negative thinking, anxiety, anger, low self esteem and I think I am done blaming others for my unhappiness.  I did not even realize I was doing it.  

As I am in recovery the people who drove me crazy are getting better.  They are being more helpful and easy to get along with, too.  I am letting a lot more slide that is not important to my goals.  For example, I am working on a big project with an architect who is unpleasant, I am letting it slide to get to the completion of the project and to make my life better.  I am taking responsibility for my lack of clear communication.  I have a co-worker who I am now texting and emailing instead of having to engage.  I have a sister who I have some business items to finish and I am writing and emailing instead of engaging.  I am taking back my power and making my boundaries.

 

I am relaxing more, hiking and watching movies and going to bed early.  I am kindly asking for help.  I am appreciative of all the great things God has given me, especially that my parents gave me God and took the time for me to get to know him.  I am going to put my trust and faith in God and follow his will, not mine, because I think it is the only chance of getting thru life happy.  Thanks, Liz