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I have young children.

This is my first post and admittedly I'm not even sure I should be posting here, or if this is the right board. Don't get me wrong, I'm positive I belong in Al-Anon (I've attended meetings in the past),I'm just not sure if this forum is the right place. So forgive me If I've hijacked your board.

My husband is an alcoholic. He's been in inpatient, IOP, has a sponsor and has been going to mtgs for years. I know he's trying. I know his family means the world to him.  But his backslides are numerous and it's just not ok with me. 

Most importantly, we have three young kids under the age of 6. They're a far cry from self-sufficient and I don't know how to operate without my husband in my life. As a sober man he's an amazing father and I have doubts that I can go it alone... we don't live anywhere near family. 

His parents (who are both addicts, one of alcohol and another of marijuana) are no help as they blame me for his drinking.

I am the primary breadwinner and need to have some stability and calmness in my life. 

Does anyone have any advice for me in dealing with an alcoholic husband with young children?

-- Edited by REALITYJM on Thursday 6th of April 2017 12:20:11 AM




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Hello Reality, You have posted your message to a 12 step board, which does not have much activity except for people that are working the Steps.  

We do have an Al-Anon message board, which is very active, and where you will receive the support and compassion that you deserve. Here is the link:


You are not alone. Alcoholism is a dreadful, progressive, chronic disease over which we are powerless.  You didn't cause it, you cannot control it and you cannot cure it. Alcoholism affects everyone it comes in contact with and that is the reason that Al-Anon was founded. Al-Anon is a recovery program for family members who need support, compassion and understanding as well as new tools to live by.  In living with the insanity of the disease of alcoholism, many of us developed negative coping mechanisms that no longer work. Many meetings provide babysitting services .

Al-Anon holds face-to-face meetings in most communities and the hotline number is in the white pages. I urge you to attend. It is here that I broke the isolation caused by living with the disease found people who understood as few others can and developed new constructive tools to live by


Please search out meetings and attend.  You are not alone and you are worth it.  





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