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Post Info TOPIC: Alanon Step One (9-18-2017)


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Alanon Step One (9-18-2017)


We admitted we were powerless over alcohol--- that our lives had become unmanageable

Courage to Change, page 14  ." I learned in Al-Anon that I am bound to fail to make someone else stop drinking. Because I am powerless over alcoholism" "our spiritual growth is unlimited and our rewards end less if we try to bring this program into every phase of our daily lives.":

My share

When I first entered program and read these steps, I thought, how difficult it is going to be to practice this program.  I did not have a clue how I could admit that I was powerless over something that seemed to be destroying my life.  My reasoning suggested that I had to exert power or I would be destroyed. I had spent all my life, pretending, that my family was perfect and that we  were in perfect control and happy, it took quite a bit for me to acknowledge that the un manageability in my life was within my own thinking patterns and inability to handle life in a constructive manner

I'm glad I kept coming back, listening at meetings and reading literature, so that I finally comprehended this first step. We are all powerless over each other's choices. We can suggests constructive ways to live life to others, but we cannot force solutions.  Once I could grasp this concept and accept it. deep down within, I could finally surrender and embrace the First Step.  I also must add that I needed to move quickly to Step Two,in order to let go of control and allow a Power Greater than Myself to be in Control.

Step one questions;

Do I accept that I cannot control another persons behavior?

Do I trust my own feelings? Do I know what they are?

How well do I take care of myself?

How do I feel when I'm alone?

If I say yes when I want to say no. What happens to my life when I do that?

Do I take care of others easily but find it difficult to take care of myself?

 

 

 On to Step Two

 

 



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Betty


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hi hotrod,this is Lookingup .under new nic.
I've read and reread this ,just gonna take me some time to answer ,
I may write ?on paper before typing them here,
Any way letting you know I'm on it now,thank you for posting......lu


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Good job SARIAH --DO Whatever works for you --looking forward to sharing this Step journey

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Trying to figure this out. Newbie and trying to do the self care thing. Tough to separate self from the drinker. The boundary setting with all my loved ones is hard to do. I prefer to be with others rather than be by myself. I am a caregiver and a professional in Health Care. I have boundaries with my job but not the same with loved ones. Hmm Will bring out my book and read about the step 1 again. Thank you Margaret


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Welcome Margaret Please do keep coming back. Recovery is process

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I have attended one meeting in person almost a year ago and did my first on-line meeting last night.  I want to learn how to apply the 12 steps so that I can learn how to live again, not really sure that I have been living at all really.  Alcohol has been apart of my life in some way since childhood.  I have lost so much and I don't even drink.  I like many of us here am affected by someone else's addiction to alcohol.  I plan to attend a face to face meeting on Monday and more on-line meetings until then.  I am here to share and learn.  Thank you all and God bless.



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I am in the same situation.  I feel like staying is a risk and walking away is a loss.  Hoping to find support and some way to make sense of all of this here.  One day at a time



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Hi Kathy This is a "Step Mesasage Board" and has few members. Please post to the main alanon Board for support and search out face to face meetings in your . There is hope and help,

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Sorry I'm late.

Step one for me was difficult because I pride myself on being a rational and intellectual person. I did not want to admit i was powerless over another person because I took it as a failure of myself as a child and a partner.  When life became unmanageable I became wiling to examine the possibility of being powerless and this was helped by hearing at a meeting the concept of almighty brain and allowing it to resign. 

I sometimes take care of myself and sometimes do not.  Sometimes i am sabotaging my progress by asserting my will in situations that will only end up hurting me.  

But i am comitted to trying newer and better ways of being. I do get blindsided when i am around active alcoholics. It draws me back into old ways of thinking and reacting and controlling. So I must always remind myse;f I am powerless over the thoughts feelings beleifs and behaviours of others.



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Hi A41 Thank you for sharing your thoughts with such such honesty, clarity and wisdom. I agree recovery is a process and as long as we keep coming back and  attempting to use the tools, I know that I will continue to grow.

Accepting powerlessness was certainly the key to my being able to face life on life's terms.

Thanks for sharing the journey



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I'm new and starting Step 1. I attended the online meeting last night. Happy to be here.

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WelcomeLike2dance Glad to see you are willing to embrace the Steps to recovery.

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After going through this with ex husband and our son I thought I'd walked recovery road of accepting powerlessness to my core.  I was wrong.  With our daughter just accepting and asking for help, I'm learning all over again about relinquishing any illusion of control! Thankful to find this online way to review again... To begin again.

 



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Welcome Robin I have found that I can rework the steps every year and discover new destructive territory that has been uncovered by my working the program. Glad that you joined in.

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Hi this is Marsol

Happy to be here studying this first step. I hope to attend a live meeting soon. It was difficult for me to come to the conclusion that I can do nothing to help my alcoholic daughter. It is sad to see her killing herself drinking but after so many times and abuse from her .... I can do nothing to help her if she does not want to help herself. My life turned crazy ... trying to look for help for help..... looking for an open door that I never found, until somebody told me about al-Anon then my mind began to heal.

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