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Post Info TOPIC: Alanon Step 7 (11-1-2017)


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Alanon Step 7 (11-1-2017)

Step Seven; "Humbly asked him to remove our shortcomings."

C2C, page 161; "there are many things that I can do to improve my life and to further my recovery, but I cannot heal myself. Today I can ask for help of becoming free of all the blocks me from my true self."

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I have worked many Step Seven in my  time  in program and I do believe I have  finally learned to" humbly ask.".  In the beginning of this journey, being humble felt like making myself invisible and then needing to ask  for something  was so foreign as I had never learned how to do so. .  To my mind asking for something always indicated I was giving someone power to refuse or manipulate me so I never asked.
That meant that   this step was extremely difficult to accept and work . Finally, after many, many years have discovered that" humbly"  simply means that I have accepted the fact that I am not God and that only God or r my higher power can remove these defects
. Learning how to ask was a constructive tool that I picked up the program and am so grateful that I can now ask directions, ask for help with the understanding that I may not receive it, but that it is okay to ask.

As I said in step six. I became very ready to ask for my defects to be lifted when I saw them in action in my life. I saw how they hurt my self-esteem,self-worth, injured my relationships with others and  were  a very destructive force in my life. I was extremely happy to ask HP to lift them-. Knowing that underneath my defects were a whole host of constructive, supportive tools that I had ignored such as compassion, empathy,  courtesy, respect as  well as a little wisdom..\
I must say that it makes  a bit of faith to practice this step, but it's really worth it. One day I discovered I was responding differently in situations where I always became angry and then I knew HP had been removed a defect without my knowing it and I was/ am  eternally grateful

Step Seven Questions

What does humility mean to me?

What defects am I ready to have removed?

How can I treat myself with compassion and ask for the willingness to keep trying

Am I ready to ask God to remove my defects?

Do I have a sponsor?

What positive changes can I make myself?

What can I do this week to practice a positive trait?

As I work Step Seven do I see a change in my relationship with my Higher Power? 

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