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Post Info TOPIC: Alanon Step 9( 11-14- 2017)


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Alanon Step 9( 11-14- 2017)

Step Nine ; "made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others."

C2C page 196 "let me remember that the reason for making amends is to free my own mind of uneasiness.

My share

When I first worked this step, I placed myself at the top of the amends list and proceeded to make amends to myself by attending Al-Anon meetings, and  using the tools so  that I could, learn how to say  what I mean, mean what I say without saying it mean.. Once I had  accomplished  making  amends to myself, I found it  easier to make amends to others. I could then  honestly see how my behavior and actions had caused disharmony, and  confusion and had injured many relationships. In fact I walked away from many relationships, without even a word. This step. really did help me to clear up the wreckage from past . Guilt  was lifted and today I make sure that I perform a 10th step every evening, so that i will not have  a  back log of amends or guilt to carry around 

Step nine questions:

Which people on my list do I need to make a direct amends to first?

How can I plan what I'm going to say in my direct amends clear and concise and avoid blaming another?

What is the difference between an apology in making amends? Which amends the best on my changes in my behavior?

What amends am I putting off? Why?  
Can I write in amend letter to myself?

When I finish this step, what can I do to celebrate?
Have I remembered to appreciate and reward my good deeds? The good deeds of others?



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