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Lyne · Lyne

I am powerless over my spouse and her drinking, gambling, lying, and eating.

JamesCT · JamesCT

3: Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understand God. Assuming you've made any necessary adjustments to that word God (meaning to read that as Higher Power), the focus here is decision making. This for me was the hard part, committing to accepting help, not just fr...

hotrod · hotrod

Alanon 12 Steps and 12 Traditions page 1 IN ALANON WE BELIEVE LIFE IS FOR GROWTH -PHYSICAL, EMOTIONAL AND SPIRITUAL Step 3Made a decision to turn my will and our will and lives over to the care of God as we understood HimPath to Recovery page 35 Working S...

coniolga · coniolga

We're going to marriage counseling through the church per my alcoholic. I start thinking maybe this will work after all. Then Monday I come home from work & he's with a hooker in my home. She actually going out the window. She's immaterial/insignificant in this. He had a beer sitting around &...

JamesCT · JamesCT

2: Came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. The Higher Power. This is one of the great stumbling blocks for any of the 12 Step programs. But it doesn't have to be a wall. Here first is what the Yellow Workbook has to say on the subject, and then afterward is a private me...

JC · JC

I need the contact from others that understand...I need to work the steps. You know step one is not the hard step...it is easy to see I need help....I have tried with all my will power to fix everything....guess what, it did not work...and I am crazier for trying. I have remarried...things change but...

hotrod · hotrod

SECOND STEP STORY An old Cherokee is teaching his grandson about life. "A fight is going on inside me," he said to the boy. "It is a terrible fight between two wolves." "One is evil - he is anger, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, lies, infe...

coniolga · coniolga

1: We admitted we were powerless over the effects of alcoholism or other family dysfunction, that our lives had become unmanageable. I've been clean & sober in AA for 34 years. I still have problems with co-dependence issues. I was left alone on the streets when I was 13 years old & had some bad...

BOUNDnoMORE · BOUNDnoMORE

1: We admitted we were powerless over the effects of alcoholism or other family dysfunction, that our lives had become unmanageable. I have spent my entire life trying to control alcoholics, taking it personal, believing that there was something wrong with me. Not believing that it was them that ha...

hotrod · hotrod

12TH STEPHAVING HAD A SPIRITUAL AWAKENING AS A RESULT OF THESE STEPS, WE TRIED TO CARRY THIS MESSAGE TO OTHERS AND TO PRACTICE THESE PRINCIPLES IN ALL OUR AFFARIS.COURAGE TO CHANGE PAGE 166SLOWLY AS I BEGAN TO RECOVER, I REALIZED WHAT A WONDERFUL GIFT THE AL ANON PROGRAM WAS. IT GAVE ME AN UNDERSTAND...

Lyne · Lyne

I want to start step 3. I found step 1 & 2 very OK but now I need help and will find a sponser. For all the years I have been in program I have never had a sponser. I guess I have felt I could do it without one, but no more! So I appreciate the help all of you are giving me, Lyne

schooner · schooner

Hi Guys/Gals Just wanted some ideas how you bring your sponsee' into STEP 3 I usually read with them and tell him to write on it. What feelings/thinks, etc,etc. Thanks GOD BLESS YOU ALL Schooner : -)

Lyne · Lyne

Today I feel really down and out and it is harder to hold onto the idea that my HP will take care of me. My A lives in denial. I'm not good at that. Blessing or a curse? But I do think one way to be successful in life is to be able to sit with my feelings. Some days are harder than others, Lyne

Lyne · Lyne

The last few days I feel almost in shock that I have accepted my A's behavior which has been especially bad the last 7 yrs. A couple wks ago, when she drank and drove, that somehow was a bottom for me. That behavior is unacceptable. She is allowed to destroy herself but no one else. What if she killed so...

amanda2u2 · amanda2u2

from "The 12 Steps for Adult Children" "Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves" "Just as any business takes inventory of its stock, we take inventory of our lives in Step 4. With clipboard in hand, we walk down the aisles of our lives and note areas of weakness and strength. Whe...

hotrod · hotrod

IN ALANON WE BELIEVE LIFE IS FOR GROWTH-PHYSICAL, EMOTIONAL AND SPIRITUAL STEP 10CONTINUED TO TAKE PERSONAL INVENTORY AND WHEN I WAS WRONG PROMPTLY ADMITTED IT.COURAGE TO CHANGE PAGE 288DO NOT SEARCH FOR THE TRUTH, SAID AN ANCIENT PATRIARCH,ONLY CEASE TO CHERISH OPINIONS. THIS IS A PART OF TH...

Lyne · Lyne

For about the last 3 yrs I now realize I have joined her insanity by trying to track her people and places and behaviors. I accept I can't stop or control her. I also don't think I like her very much and feel very cold. I am blaming her for ruining our marriage, but I think I'm supposed to blame the disease...

hotrod · hotrod

Alanon 12 Steps and 12 Traditions page 1 IN ALANON WE BELIEVE LIFE IS FOR GROWTH-PHYSICAL, EMOTIONAL AND SPIRITUAL STEP 11SOUGHT THROUGH PRAYER AND MEDIATATION TO IMPROVE MY CONSCIOUS CONTACT WITH GOD, AS I UNDERSTOOD HIM PRAYING ONLY FOR KNOWLEDGE OF HIS WILL AND THE POWER TO CARRY IT OUTCOURAGE...

Lyne · Lyne

So I caught my A spouse in yet another lie, this time about our medical ins., and when I got off the phone with the med co my heart was racing. Another lie. But then I reminded myself that she is not changing, only I can change. My goal is not to accuse her of anything. Just calmly tell her what I found out t...

JamesCT · JamesCT

11. Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God, as we understand God, praying only for knowledge of God's will for us and the power to carry it out. This step is another one of those who have the word God in it which can trip people up. Again, substitute Higher Power f...

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	step 1 (Preview) I am powerless over my spouse and her drinking, gambling, lying, and eating.	Lyne	15	1308	May 6, 2013 by KayCee
	ACoA Step 3 (Preview) 3: Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understand God. Assuming you've made any necessary adjustments to that word God (meaning to read that as Higher Power), the focus here is decision making. This for me was the hard part, committing to accepting help, not just fr...	JamesCT	0	951	May 5, 2013 by JamesCT
	STEP 3 ALANON (Preview) Alanon 12 Steps and 12 Traditions page 1 IN ALANON WE BELIEVE LIFE IS FOR GROWTH -PHYSICAL, EMOTIONAL AND SPIRITUAL Step 3Made a decision to turn my will and our will and lives over to the care of God as we understood HimPath to Recovery page 35 Working S...	hotrod	0	1267	May 5, 2013 by hotrod
	Self Loathing (Preview) We're going to marriage counseling through the church per my alcoholic. I start thinking maybe this will work after all. Then Monday I come home from work & he's with a hooker in my home. She actually going out the window. She's immaterial/insignificant in this. He had a beer sitting around &...	coniolga	3	1229	Apr 29, 2013 by hotrod
	ACoA Step 2 (Preview) 2: Came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. The Higher Power. This is one of the great stumbling blocks for any of the 12 Step programs. But it doesn't have to be a wall. Here first is what the Yellow Workbook has to say on the subject, and then afterward is a private me...	JamesCT	2	1186	Apr 23, 2013 by DavidG
	Step 1 I am powerless over others..my life is unmanagable. I have been gone from alnon for a while..I had to come back (Preview) I need the contact from others that understand...I need to work the steps. You know step one is not the hard step...it is easy to see I need help....I have tried with all my will power to fix everything....guess what, it did not work...and I am crazier for trying. I have remarried...things change but...	JC	7	1418	Apr 6, 2013 by Lyne
	STEP 2 ALANON (Preview) SECOND STEP STORY An old Cherokee is teaching his grandson about life. "A fight is going on inside me," he said to the boy. "It is a terrible fight between two wolves." "One is evil - he is anger, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, lies, infe...	hotrod	17	12679	Apr 5, 2013 by hotrod
	Step 1 ACA (Preview) 1: We admitted we were powerless over the effects of alcoholism or other family dysfunction, that our lives had become unmanageable. I've been clean & sober in AA for 34 years. I still have problems with co-dependence issues. I was left alone on the streets when I was 13 years old & had some bad...	coniolga	6	1604	Mar 29, 2013 by Davie
	STEP ONE ACA (Preview) 1: We admitted we were powerless over the effects of alcoholism or other family dysfunction, that our lives had become unmanageable. I have spent my entire life trying to control alcoholics, taking it personal, believing that there was something wrong with me. Not believing that it was them that ha...	BOUNDnoMORE	3	1043	Mar 29, 2013 by lin34
	STEP 12 ALANON (Preview) *12TH STEP*HAVING HAD A SPIRITUAL AWAKENING AS A RESULT OF THESE STEPS, WE TRIED TO CARRY THIS MESSAGE TO OTHERS AND TO PRACTICE THESE PRINCIPLES IN ALL OUR AFFARIS.COURAGE TO CHANGE PAGE 166SLOWLY AS I BEGAN TO RECOVER, I REALIZED WHAT A WONDERFUL GIFT THE AL ANON PROGRAM WAS. IT GAVE ME AN UNDERSTAND...	hotrod	2	894	Mar 28, 2013 by hotrod
	step 3 (Preview) I want to start step 3. I found step 1 & 2 very OK but now I need help and will find a sponser. For all the years I have been in program I have never had a sponser. I guess I have felt I could do it without one, but no more! So I appreciate the help all of you are giving me, Lyne	Lyne	1	771	Mar 28, 2013 by hotrod
	What's the best way to start a sponsee on step 3 (Preview) Hi Guys/Gals Just wanted some ideas how you bring your sponsee' into STEP 3 I usually read with them and tell him to write on it. What feelings/thinks, etc,etc. Thanks GOD BLESS YOU ALL Schooner : -)	schooner	2	1409	Mar 22, 2013 by schooner
	step 2 (Preview) Today I feel really down and out and it is harder to hold onto the idea that my HP will take care of me. My A lives in denial. I'm not good at that. Blessing or a curse? But I do think one way to be successful in life is to be able to sit with my feelings. Some days are harder than others, Lyne	Lyne	1	766	Mar 22, 2013 by hotrod
	step 2 (Preview) The last few days I feel almost in shock that I have accepted my A's behavior which has been especially bad the last 7 yrs. A couple wks ago, when she drank and drove, that somehow was a bottom for me. That behavior is unacceptable. She is allowed to destroy herself but no one else. What if she killed so...	Lyne	0	600	Mar 21, 2013 by Lyne
	Step 4 - ACoA (Preview) from "The 12 Steps for Adult Children" "Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves" "Just as any business takes inventory of its stock, we take inventory of our lives in Step 4. With clipboard in hand, we walk down the aisles of our lives and note areas of weakness and strength. Whe...	amanda2u2	7	1919	Mar 19, 2013 by lostinoz
	STEP 10 ALANON (Preview) IN ALANON WE BELIEVE LIFE IS FOR GROWTH-PHYSICAL, EMOTIONAL AND SPIRITUAL *STEP 10*CONTINUED TO TAKE PERSONAL INVENTORY AND WHEN I WAS WRONG PROMPTLY ADMITTED IT.COURAGE TO CHANGE PAGE 288DO NOT SEARCH FOR THE TRUTH, SAID AN ANCIENT PATRIARCH,ONLY CEASE TO CHERISH OPINIONS. THIS IS A PART OF TH...	hotrod	7	3605	Mar 18, 2013 by hotrod
	powerless (Preview) For about the last 3 yrs I now realize I have joined her insanity by trying to track her people and places and behaviors. I accept I can't stop or control her. I also don't think I like her very much and feel very cold. I am blaming her for ruining our marriage, but I think I'm supposed to blame the disease...	Lyne	1	729	Mar 18, 2013 by hotrod
	STEP 11 ALANON (Preview) Alanon 12 Steps and 12 Traditions page 1 IN ALANON WE BELIEVE LIFE IS FOR GROWTH-PHYSICAL, EMOTIONAL AND SPIRITUAL *STEP 11*SOUGHT THROUGH PRAYER AND MEDIATATION TO IMPROVE MY CONSCIOUS CONTACT WITH GOD, AS I UNDERSTOOD HIM PRAYING ONLY FOR KNOWLEDGE OF HIS WILL AND THE POWER TO CARRY IT OUTCOURAGE...	hotrod	4	1051	Mar 18, 2013 by hotrod
	Practice step 1 (Preview) So I caught my A spouse in yet another lie, this time about our medical ins., and when I got off the phone with the med co my heart was racing. Another lie. But then I reminded myself that she is not changing, only I can change. My goal is not to accuse her of anything. Just calmly tell her what I found out t...	Lyne	0	731	Mar 13, 2013 by Lyne
	Adult Children of Alcoholics: Step 11 (Preview) 11. Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God, as we understand God, praying only for knowledge of God's will for us and the power to carry it out. This step is another one of those who have the word God in it which can trip people up. Again, substitute Higher Power f...	JamesCT	1	830	Mar 13, 2013 by Davie
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