Step Work

Lyne · Lyne

I want to start step 3. I found step 1 & 2 very OK but now I need help and will find a sponser. For all the years I have been in program I have never had a sponser. I guess I have felt I could do it without one, but no more! So I appreciate the help all of you are giving me, Lyne

schooner · schooner

Hi Guys/Gals Just wanted some ideas how you bring your sponsee' into STEP 3 I usually read with them and tell him to write on it. What feelings/thinks, etc,etc. Thanks GOD BLESS YOU ALL Schooner : -)

Lyne · Lyne

Today I feel really down and out and it is harder to hold onto the idea that my HP will take care of me. My A lives in denial. I'm not good at that. Blessing or a curse? But I do think one way to be successful in life is to be able to sit with my feelings. Some days are harder than others, Lyne

Lyne · Lyne

The last few days I feel almost in shock that I have accepted my A's behavior which has been especially bad the last 7 yrs. A couple wks ago, when she drank and drove, that somehow was a bottom for me. That behavior is unacceptable. She is allowed to destroy herself but no one else. What if she killed so...

amanda2u2 · amanda2u2

from "The 12 Steps for Adult Children" "Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves" "Just as any business takes inventory of its stock, we take inventory of our lives in Step 4. With clipboard in hand, we walk down the aisles of our lives and note areas of weakness and strength. Whe...

hotrod · hotrod

IN ALANON WE BELIEVE LIFE IS FOR GROWTH-PHYSICAL, EMOTIONAL AND SPIRITUAL STEP 10CONTINUED TO TAKE PERSONAL INVENTORY AND WHEN I WAS WRONG PROMPTLY ADMITTED IT.COURAGE TO CHANGE PAGE 288DO NOT SEARCH FOR THE TRUTH, SAID AN ANCIENT PATRIARCH,ONLY CEASE TO CHERISH OPINIONS. THIS IS A PART OF TH...

Lyne · Lyne

For about the last 3 yrs I now realize I have joined her insanity by trying to track her people and places and behaviors. I accept I can't stop or control her. I also don't think I like her very much and feel very cold. I am blaming her for ruining our marriage, but I think I'm supposed to blame the disease...

hotrod · hotrod

Alanon 12 Steps and 12 Traditions page 1 IN ALANON WE BELIEVE LIFE IS FOR GROWTH-PHYSICAL, EMOTIONAL AND SPIRITUAL STEP 11SOUGHT THROUGH PRAYER AND MEDIATATION TO IMPROVE MY CONSCIOUS CONTACT WITH GOD, AS I UNDERSTOOD HIM PRAYING ONLY FOR KNOWLEDGE OF HIS WILL AND THE POWER TO CARRY IT OUTCOURAGE...

Lyne · Lyne

So I caught my A spouse in yet another lie, this time about our medical ins., and when I got off the phone with the med co my heart was racing. Another lie. But then I reminded myself that she is not changing, only I can change. My goal is not to accuse her of anything. Just calmly tell her what I found out t...

JamesCT · JamesCT

11. Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God, as we understand God, praying only for knowledge of God's will for us and the power to carry it out. This step is another one of those who have the word God in it which can trip people up. Again, substitute Higher Power f...

hotrod · hotrod

Twelve StepsAlanon 12 Steps and 12 Traditions page 1 IN ALANON WE BELIEVE LIFE IS FOR GROWTH-PHYSICAL, EMOTIONAL AND SPIRITUAL. GROWTH BEGAN FOR MOST OF US WHEN WE ACCEPTED THE FACT THAT COMPULSIVE DRINKING WAS NOT A WEAKNESS BUT A DISEASE AND OUR OWN ATTITUDES AND REACTIONS WERE NOT HEALTHY. ...

hotrod · hotrod

IN ALANON WE BELIEVE LIFE IS FOR GROWTH-PHYSICAL, EMOTIONAL AND SPIRITUAL STEP 6were ENTIRELY READY TO HAVE GOD REMOVE ALL THESE DEFECTS OF CHARACTER I will pray for self fulfillment and through conscious effort makes some headway of being at peace with myself, WHICH is my ultimate goal embrac...

hotrod · hotrod

EXPERIENCE "Experience is not what happens to a man. It is what a man does with what happens to him." -- Aldous Huxley STEP 5 ADMITTED TO GOD TO OURSELVES AND TO ANOTHER HUMAN BEING THE EXACT NATURE OF OUR WRONGS ONE DAY AT A Tme IN ALANON PAGE 171AS I UNDERSTAND THE DIFICULT TASK OF FAC...

hotrod · hotrod

Alanon 12 Steps and 12 Traditions page 1 IN ALANON WE BELIEVE LIFE IS FOR GROWTH-PHYSICAL, EMOTIONAL AND SPIRITUAL STEP 4MADE A SEARCHING AND FEARLESS MORAL INVENTORY OF OURSELVES ONE DAY AT A TIME IN ALANON let me learn to understand myself first; that will occupy myself so fully that I will ha...

hotrod · hotrod

Step 10Continued to Take Personal Inventory and when I was Wrong Promptly Admitted it.COURAGE TO CHANGE PAGE 164Since the tenth step is part of my daily routine, I try to think of it as a gentle, warm and loving way to take care of myself. By continuing to take my own inventory and promptly admitting wh...

JamesCT · JamesCT

2: Came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. Sometimes people who have problems with conventional religion or the concept of God have trouble with this step. What the Yellow Workbook has to say on the subject. A note to the atheist or agnositc: The ACA progam is fo...

JamesCT · JamesCT

From the ACA Steps: 1: We admitted we were powerless over the effects of alcoholism or other family dysfunction, that our lives had become unmanageable. It sounds so simple, but it's hard. I was at first unaware of my behaviors at all, other than to notice that things kept going wrong. It's like that o...

JamesCT · JamesCT

10. Continued to take personal inventory and, when we were wrong, promptly admitted it. This is the glue step. This cements your new path. You've changed and you're going to stay changed. This step also commits you to going through the steps as needed. You continue to take personal inventory. That...

gettinsober · gettinsober

I've been doing this for a while. Staying sober is not easy but you HAVE TO WORK THE STEPS! I try to work the steps from beginning to end and then take a short break and start all over! I read the big book from end to end and what really helps me is listening to the Audiobook of Alcoholics Anonymous while I read...

JamesCT · JamesCT

9. Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others. How much does it mean for you to say that you're sorry? How much would it mean to you if someone who wronged you told you they were sorry? Apologize and make amends if you can. But think about what you...

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	step 3 (Preview) I want to start step 3. I found step 1 & 2 very OK but now I need help and will find a sponser. For all the years I have been in program I have never had a sponser. I guess I have felt I could do it without one, but no more! So I appreciate the help all of you are giving me, Lyne	Lyne	1	829	Mar 28, 2013 by hotrod
	What's the best way to start a sponsee on step 3 (Preview) Hi Guys/Gals Just wanted some ideas how you bring your sponsee' into STEP 3 I usually read with them and tell him to write on it. What feelings/thinks, etc,etc. Thanks GOD BLESS YOU ALL Schooner : -)	schooner	2	1472	Mar 22, 2013 by schooner
	step 2 (Preview) Today I feel really down and out and it is harder to hold onto the idea that my HP will take care of me. My A lives in denial. I'm not good at that. Blessing or a curse? But I do think one way to be successful in life is to be able to sit with my feelings. Some days are harder than others, Lyne	Lyne	1	826	Mar 22, 2013 by hotrod
	step 2 (Preview) The last few days I feel almost in shock that I have accepted my A's behavior which has been especially bad the last 7 yrs. A couple wks ago, when she drank and drove, that somehow was a bottom for me. That behavior is unacceptable. She is allowed to destroy herself but no one else. What if she killed so...	Lyne	0	658	Mar 21, 2013 by Lyne
	Step 4 - ACoA (Preview) from "The 12 Steps for Adult Children" "Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves" "Just as any business takes inventory of its stock, we take inventory of our lives in Step 4. With clipboard in hand, we walk down the aisles of our lives and note areas of weakness and strength. Whe...	amanda2u2	7	1986	Mar 19, 2013 by lostinoz
	STEP 10 ALANON (Preview) IN ALANON WE BELIEVE LIFE IS FOR GROWTH-PHYSICAL, EMOTIONAL AND SPIRITUAL *STEP 10*CONTINUED TO TAKE PERSONAL INVENTORY AND WHEN I WAS WRONG PROMPTLY ADMITTED IT.COURAGE TO CHANGE PAGE 288DO NOT SEARCH FOR THE TRUTH, SAID AN ANCIENT PATRIARCH,ONLY CEASE TO CHERISH OPINIONS. THIS IS A PART OF TH...	hotrod	7	3758	Mar 18, 2013 by hotrod
	powerless (Preview) For about the last 3 yrs I now realize I have joined her insanity by trying to track her people and places and behaviors. I accept I can't stop or control her. I also don't think I like her very much and feel very cold. I am blaming her for ruining our marriage, but I think I'm supposed to blame the disease...	Lyne	1	794	Mar 18, 2013 by hotrod
	STEP 11 ALANON (Preview) Alanon 12 Steps and 12 Traditions page 1 IN ALANON WE BELIEVE LIFE IS FOR GROWTH-PHYSICAL, EMOTIONAL AND SPIRITUAL *STEP 11*SOUGHT THROUGH PRAYER AND MEDIATATION TO IMPROVE MY CONSCIOUS CONTACT WITH GOD, AS I UNDERSTOOD HIM PRAYING ONLY FOR KNOWLEDGE OF HIS WILL AND THE POWER TO CARRY IT OUTCOURAGE...	hotrod	4	1123	Mar 18, 2013 by hotrod
	Practice step 1 (Preview) So I caught my A spouse in yet another lie, this time about our medical ins., and when I got off the phone with the med co my heart was racing. Another lie. But then I reminded myself that she is not changing, only I can change. My goal is not to accuse her of anything. Just calmly tell her what I found out t...	Lyne	0	796	Mar 13, 2013 by Lyne
	Adult Children of Alcoholics: Step 11 (Preview) 11. Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God, as we understand God, praying only for knowledge of God's will for us and the power to carry it out. This step is another one of those who have the word God in it which can trip people up. Again, substitute Higher Power f...	JamesCT	1	896	Mar 13, 2013 by Davie
	ALANON STEP ONE (1) (Preview) Twelve StepsAlanon 12 Steps and 12 Traditions page 1 IN ALANON WE BELIEVE LIFE IS FOR GROWTH-PHYSICAL, EMOTIONAL AND SPIRITUAL. GROWTH BEGAN FOR MOST OF US WHEN WE ACCEPTED THE FACT THAT COMPULSIVE DRINKING WAS NOT A WEAKNESS BUT A DISEASE AND OUR OWN ATTITUDES AND REACTIONS WERE NOT HEALTHY. ...	hotrod	28	30112	Mar 7, 2013 by hotrod
	Step 6 Alanon (Preview) IN ALANON WE BELIEVE LIFE IS FOR GROWTH-PHYSICAL, EMOTIONAL AND SPIRITUAL STEP 6were ENTIRELY READY TO HAVE GOD REMOVE ALL THESE DEFECTS OF CHARACTER *I will pray for self fulfillment and through conscious effort makes some headway of being at peace with myself, WHICH is my ultimate goal embrac...*	hotrod	12	11370	Mar 7, 2013 by hotrod
	ALANON STEP 5 (Preview) EXPERIENCE "Experience is not what happens to a man. It is what a man does with what happens to him." -- Aldous Huxley *STEP 5* *ADMITTED TO GOD TO OURSELVES AND TO ANOTHER HUMAN BEING THE EXACT NATURE OF OUR WRONGS* *ONE DAY AT A Tme IN ALANON PAGE 171*AS I UNDERSTAND THE DIFICULT TASK OF FAC...	hotrod	4	1061	Mar 7, 2013 by hotrod
	4 th Step ALANON (Preview) Alanon 12 Steps and 12 Traditions page 1 IN ALANON WE BELIEVE LIFE IS FOR GROWTH-PHYSICAL, EMOTIONAL AND SPIRITUAL *STEP 4MADE A SEARCHING AND FEARLESS MORAL INVENTORY OF OURSELVES* ONE DAY AT A TIME IN ALANON let me learn to understand myself first; that will occupy myself so fully that I will ha...**	hotrod	4	3669	Mar 7, 2013 by hotrod
	Step 10 ALANON (Preview) **Step 10Continued to Take Personal Inventory and when I was Wrong Promptly Admitted it.COURAGE TO CHANGE PAGE 164Since the tenth step is part of my daily routine, I try to think of it as a gentle, warm and loving way to take care of myself. By continuing to take my own inventory and promptly admitting wh...**	hotrod	6	1959	Feb 28, 2013 by shenny
	Adult Children of Alcoholics: Step 2 (Preview) 2: Came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. Sometimes people who have problems with conventional religion or the concept of God have trouble with this step. What the Yellow Workbook has to say on the subject. A note to the atheist or agnositc: The ACA progam is fo...	JamesCT	6	1218	Feb 27, 2013 by JamesCT
	Adult Children of Alcoholics: Step 1 (Preview) From the ACA Steps: 1: We admitted we were powerless over the effects of alcoholism or other family dysfunction, that our lives had become unmanageable. It sounds so simple, but it's hard. I was at first unaware of my behaviors at all, other than to notice that things kept going wrong. It's like that o...	JamesCT	14	9783	Feb 27, 2013 by lostinoz
	Adult Children of Alcoholics: Step 10 (Preview) 10. Continued to take personal inventory and, when we were wrong, promptly admitted it. This is the glue step. This cements your new path. You've changed and you're going to stay changed. This step also commits you to going through the steps as needed. You continue to take personal inventory. That...	JamesCT	0	728	Feb 26, 2013 by JamesCT
	Listen to The Big Book (Preview) I've been doing this for a while. Staying sober is not easy but you HAVE TO WORK THE STEPS! I try to work the steps from beginning to end and then take a short break and start all over! I read the big book from end to end and what really helps me is listening to the Audiobook of Alcoholics Anonymous while I read...	gettinsober	1	690	Feb 14, 2013 by hotrod
	Adult Children of Alcoholics: Step 9 (Preview) 9. Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others. How much does it mean for you to say that you're sorry? How much would it mean to you if someone who wronged you told you they were sorry? Apologize and make amends if you can. But think about what you...	JamesCT	1	752	Feb 12, 2013 by DavidG
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