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sweetpea · sweetpea

I have a teenage daughter who is drinking. Who would have thought? Me an alcoholic and all. I have been in the program of recovery three months now and my daughter has been coming home more often drunk. Today I let my anger get the best of me. Now she is out there already started...

sweetpea · sweetpea

Hi there, I am a new member and I am having trouble with step 4. I have mostly hurt myself with my alcoholic thinking and actions. My parents are both deceased so I cannot make amends to them except to keep sober. My children have suffered and the only way I can think to make amends to th...

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Step Ten - Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it. From: Al-Anon's Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions pg. 63-64. (copyright 1981, by Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc. Limited use by express written permission of Al-Anon Family Group Headquar...

Robinks · Robinks

Today, I am powerless over my dysfunctional neighbors. I have been harrassed by my neighbors because we put up a carport that they don't like. Now I am getting notes from my neighbors asking me to come over for coffee to "get to know me better". I don't want to go have coffee with these dysfunctional peop...

amanda2u2 · amanda2u2

from "The 12 Steps for Adult Children" "Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others" Natural disasters are always gripping news... for a brief time, they are a major focus of our energy. But rarely do we have an opportunity to...

April306 · April306

As I can see you are on Step 9 and I am only starting step one - I will go back and start working on my own from your earlier posts and eagerly join you again when you start the step one again. So relieved to find you here. My son is 31 years old and I have been enabeling him since he was in his teens. ...

amanda2u2 · amanda2u2

from 'Sober Transitions' Step Nine "Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others." After we have made the list of people we have harmed, have reflected carefully upon each instance, and have tried to possess ourselves of the right attitud...

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Step Nine - Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others. 1. Which people on my list do I need to make direct amends to first? What's stopping me? 2. What are my motives for making amends? Am I willing to accept the outcome, whatever it may b...

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Step Nine - Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injuse them or others. From: Al-Anon Works pg. 60. (copyright 1995, by Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc. Limited use by express written permission of Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc. ...

amanda2u2 · amanda2u2

from "The 12 Steps for Adult Children" "Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all" "'Mom! Sarah hit me!' R.J. screamed like a siren. 'But he kicked me first!,' Sarah answered in defense. 'Yeah, but she took my game.' 'He shouldn't be so to...

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Step Eight - Made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all. 1. Am I willing to make amends? If not, why not/ If yes, am I willing to write about my experience? 2. How willing am I to be completely honest? 3. In reviewing my list, is there a pattern reflecti...

teresas · teresas

Good Morning, My name is Teresa, I'm an alcoholic and I have 2 days sober today. I don't feel too good, but it's 9:01 a.m. (pac time) and I'm writing this. I'm at a friend's apartment (the only friend I got left) detoxing. I have to pay my rent soon (yes, 11 days late with a penalty) and I hate my apartmen...

amanda2u2 · amanda2u2

from the '12 Steps and 12 Traditions' book: "Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all" "Steps 8 and 9 are concerned with personal relations. First, we take a look backward and try to discover where we have been at fault; next we make a vigorous attempt to r...

Vicky R · Vicky R

hi Alanon , ACOA , AA ! been to lots of 2f meetings and recently exploring the idea of using the online resources. I worked through alot of stuff with sponsors and find now I'm left still with alot of 'codependent guilt' , which I don't feel will ever entirely go away . ie getting over invol...

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Step Eight - Made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all. From: Paths to Recovery pg. 81 (copyright 1997, by al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc. Limited use by express written permission of Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc.) In Step Eight...

sierra · sierra

I am so happy that I found this site. It gives me a glitter of hope, even though I feel like shit. It is so easy for me to judge, hate, and destroy myself, I can barley take it any longer. I am trying to admit that I am powerless, sure feel that way, but I find it hard because that will mean that I am weak and it...

barbara · barbara

Do you read a 12step book, make comments, think through your own life and then tell a sponsor? Do you also read other materials like Courage to Change? Once you realize what needs work do you then read and talk about more on that subject? How do YOU do it?

powerless · powerless

I find that as I work the steps, I keep going back to the basics. I have to keep starting with step one. I think I have step one down and then realize that step one is an everyday struggle for me. How can I move on to other steps when I have trouble Letting Go and turning things over to my HP?...

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Step Seven - Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings. 1. How d I humbly ask God to take my shortcomings? 2. What can I do to cooperate with my Higher Power in removing y shortcomings? 3. What slogan could remind me to find a substitute for a negative behavior I wish to release? 4. As I...

amanda2u2 · amanda2u2

from 'The 12 Steps for Adult Children' Step 7 - "Humbly asked God to remover our shortcomings" "Step 7 requires prayer... Our condition, our honesty , and our pain have humbled us so now we must open our mouths and pray... If we were thorough, our Step 4 inventory listed each character defect separ...

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	Teenage Drinking (Preview) I have a teenage daughter who is drinking. Who would have thought? Me an alcoholic and all. I have been in the program of recovery three months now and my daughter has been coming home more often drunk. Today I let my anger get the best of me. Now she is out there already started...	sweetpea	0	497	Apr 15, 2006 by sweetpea
	Step 4 (Preview) Hi there, I am a new member and I am having trouble with step 4. I have mostly hurt myself with my alcoholic thinking and actions. My parents are both deceased so I cannot make amends to them except to keep sober. My children have suffered and the only way I can think to make amends to th...	sweetpea	3	670	Apr 14, 2006 by amanda2u2
	Step Ten Al-Anon (Preview) Step Ten - Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it. From: Al-Anon's Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions pg. 63-64. (copyright 1981, by Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc. Limited use by express written permission of Al-Anon Family Group Headquar...	dot	3	758	Apr 14, 2006 by dot
	Step One (Preview) Today, I am powerless over my dysfunctional neighbors. I have been harrassed by my neighbors because we put up a carport that they don't like. Now I am getting notes from my neighbors asking me to come over for coffee to "get to know me better". I don't want to go have coffee with these dysfunctional peop...	Robinks	3	1179	Apr 11, 2006 by Vicky R
	Step 9 - ACoA (Preview) from "The 12 Steps for Adult Children" "Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others" Natural disasters are always gripping news... for a brief time, they are a major focus of our energy. But rarely do we have an opportunity to...	amanda2u2	0	833	Apr 6, 2006 by amanda2u2
	Hello - New Here (Preview) As I can see you are on Step 9 and I am only starting step one - I will go back and start working on my own from your earlier posts and eagerly join you again when you start the step one again. So relieved to find you here. My son is 31 years old and I have been enabeling him since he was in his teens. ...	April306	3	678	Apr 11, 2006 by Vicky R
	Step 9 - AA (Preview) from 'Sober Transitions' Step Nine "Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others." After we have made the list of people we have harmed, have reflected carefully upon each instance, and have tried to possess ourselves of the right attitud...	amanda2u2	0	1729	Apr 4, 2006 by amanda2u2
	Step Nine Questions (Preview) Step Nine - Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others. 1. Which people on my list do I need to make direct amends to first? What's stopping me? 2. What are my motives for making amends? Am I willing to accept the outcome, whatever it may b...	dot	0	507	Apr 2, 2006 by dot
	Step Nine Al-Anon (Preview) Step Nine - Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injuse them or others. From: Al-Anon Works pg. 60. (copyright 1995, by Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc. Limited use by express written permission of Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc. ...	dot	4	1071	Apr 4, 2006 by Vicky R
	Step 8 - ACoA (Preview) from "The 12 Steps for Adult Children" "Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all" "'Mom! Sarah hit me!' R.J. screamed like a siren. 'But he kicked me first!,' Sarah answered in defense. 'Yeah, but she took my game.' 'He shouldn't be so to...	amanda2u2	1	1577	Apr 1, 2006 by wille
	Step Eight Questions (Preview) Step Eight - Made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all. 1. Am I willing to make amends? If not, why not/ If yes, am I willing to write about my experience? 2. How willing am I to be completely honest? 3. In reviewing my list, is there a pattern reflecti...	dot	3	1045	Mar 23, 2006 by Harry01854
	Early Sobriety (Preview) Good Morning, My name is Teresa, I'm an alcoholic and I have 2 days sober today. I don't feel too good, but it's 9:01 a.m. (pac time) and I'm writing this. I'm at a friend's apartment (the only friend I got left) detoxing. I have to pay my rent soon (yes, 11 days late with a penalty) and I hate my apartmen...	teresas	2	2579	Apr 3, 2006 by JohnV
	Step 8 - AA (Preview) from the '12 Steps and 12 Traditions' book: "Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all" "Steps 8 and 9 are concerned with personal relations. First, we take a look backward and try to discover where we have been at fault; next we make a vigorous attempt to r...	amanda2u2	1	8389	Jun 27, 2007 by Blessed
	rings doorbell ! (Preview) hi Alanon , ACOA , AA ! been to lots of 2f meetings and recently exploring the idea of using the online resources. I worked through alot of stuff with sponsors and find now I'm left still with alot of 'codependent guilt' , which I don't feel will ever entirely go away . ie getting over invol...	Vicky R	2	846	Mar 17, 2006 by Vicky R
	Step Eight Al-Anon (Preview) Step Eight - Made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all. From: Paths to Recovery pg. 81 (copyright 1997, by al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc. Limited use by express written permission of Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc.) In Step Eight...	dot	1	748	Mar 12, 2006 by dot
	NEW TO ACOA (Preview) I am so happy that I found this site. It gives me a glitter of hope, even though I feel like shit. It is so easy for me to judge, hate, and destroy myself, I can barley take it any longer. I am trying to admit that I am powerless, sure feel that way, but I find it hard because that will mean that I am weak and it...	sierra	4	1118	Mar 19, 2006 by Vicky R
	how do YOU "work the steps"? alanon (Preview) Do you read a 12step book, make comments, think through your own life and then tell a sponsor? Do you also read other materials like Courage to Change? Once you realize what needs work do you then read and talk about more on that subject? How do YOU do it?	barbara	2	2998	May 12, 2006 by Sandy W
	General Step Question (Preview) I find that as I work the steps, I keep going back to the basics. I have to keep starting with step one. I think I have step one down and then realize that step one is an everyday struggle for me. How can I move on to other steps when I have trouble Letting Go and turning things over to my HP?...	powerless	1	836	Mar 10, 2006 by dot
	Step Seven Questions (Preview) Step Seven - Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings. 1. How d I humbly ask God to take my shortcomings? 2. What can I do to cooperate with my Higher Power in removing y shortcomings? 3. What slogan could remind me to find a substitute for a negative behavior I wish to release? 4. As I...	dot	6	1578	Mar 14, 2006 by raman
	Step 7 - ACoA (Preview) from 'The 12 Steps for Adult Children' Step 7 - "Humbly asked God to remover our shortcomings" "Step 7 requires prayer... Our condition, our honesty , and our pain have humbled us so now we must open our mouths and pray... If we were thorough, our Step 4 inventory listed each character defect separ...	amanda2u2	0	1744	Feb 27, 2006 by amanda2u2
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