Step Work

Palgigo · Palgigo

My boyfriend keeps trying to stop and is back in AA, but when he starts to think about drinking again he picks fights, argues about unimportant things. I ignore it for and then I get mad and argue back. I don't mention the alcohol, I keep that out of the subject, but he won't stop until he can have an excus...

JamesCT · JamesCT

10. Continued to take personal inventory and, when we were wrong, promptly admitted it. This is where you make it stick, where the new methods of the previous steps are committed to, where you keep making inventories and keep admitting it and making amends. This is where you do it differently

hotrod · hotrod

Step FiveAdmitted to God, to ourselves and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongsQuote from Paths to Recovery; "in Step Four, we made a thorough inventory of ourselves both assets and defects. Step Five asks us to take another action with what we learned about ourselves. We are...

hotrod · hotrod

Step Six Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of characterFrom Paths to RecoverySpiritual growth in Al-Anon includes gaining an understanding of our relationship and trust with the God of our understanding.In Step six we are asked to be entirely ready to have God remove the de...

JamesCT · JamesCT

9. Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others. Part of the process of healing yourself is healing those you've harmed. And so amends are a necessary part of the program. But making up for past wrongs shouldn't create present wrongs. When decid...

hotrod · hotrod

Step Four Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves From Paths to Recovery 'Steps one, two and three taught us about the disease of alcoholism, that we are powerless over it and that there is a power greater than ourselves that we can turn to for sanity, if we so desire. As in climbin...

JamesCT · JamesCT

8. Made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all. One of the amends you might have to make are people who you have harmed who have also harmed you. You don't want to make amends to them because you "know" you're never getting amends made back to you. But t...

hotrod · hotrod

Step Three Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood him. From Paths to Recovery.Working step three will change our concepts of God and change our lives. We will find a friend who will always be there for us and be the God of our understanding. Once I understood...

JamesCT · JamesCT

7. Humbly asked God to remove our shortcomings. Let's parse this brief sentence. Humbly -- We become so relentlessly self-reliant that we get very good at making things happen and we begin to believe we can handle anything. We develop hubris and contort our reasoning or logic to keep from admitting t...

JamesCT · JamesCT

6. Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character. In order for the trapeze artist to get to the other trapeze, he must let go of the one he's holding onto. He cannot hang onto both. So too must we be ready to let go of our behaviors that served us to a degree but limit us from going beyon...

JamesCT · JamesCT

5. Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs. The first step of problem solving is knowing what the problem is. By admitting the exact nature of your wrongs, acknowledge your issues and can begin to heal and to grow from there. But it's not enough to know it....

catlover2 · catlover2

I am not sure where to start in this program. What step are we working on currently? thanks

simplysno · simplysno

I've been reading some of these posts. I am not exactly new to Alanon. I've been in/out over the past four years but I've never taken on the steps and tried to interpret them and apply them. How do you start?

hotrod · hotrod

Second Step "Came to Believe that a Power Greater Than Myself Could Restore Me to Sanity.I do like the reading in the C2C that states: First I came (to meetings) then I came to (I became aware and out of denial and pretend) then I was able to believe. My ShareIn the beginning of my journey, I re...

hotrod · hotrod

Step nine Made direct amends to such people whenever possible accept when to do so would injure them or others.Paths to recovery page 90 Step Nine is an action step. It calls for direct amends except when to do so might cause further injury. We want to be careful that we are not trying to achieve our pers...

JamesCT · JamesCT

4: Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves. Please do this step. I have seen people procrastinate on this step, make excuses, skip, or even quit working the steps over it. I took a long time to do this step myself because I was afraid I'd start beating myself up and would never stop. H...

Luna22 · Luna22

I am new to this board and going to my first meeting on Tuesday. I have been married to an alcoholic for 7 years. He has been sober for most of our marriage with two short relapses. This one was the worst and he left the house Sunday. We have 3 kids under the age of 6. If it wasn't for them I would never have him ba...

JamesCT · JamesCT

3: Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understand God. If you have settled the issue of having a higher power (or God as the step says) then now it's time to make a choice: you can admit that you can't do it alone and accept the help of the universe or you can continue to suf...

El10 · El10

Hi I am new to this. I have never done the 12 steps and I am not sure now it works or how it works online. Can someone give me a few pointers on how I go about it? I think read somewhere on this site that I need to join a group but I haven't been able to find that page since. Thanks in advance. El

JamesCT · JamesCT

Tradition 12:Anonymity is the spiritual foundation of all our Traditions, ever reminding us to place principles before personalities.

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	Thought i was ready for Step 4 but realized I have not really done Step 1 (Preview) My boyfriend keeps trying to stop and is back in AA, but when he starts to think about drinking again he picks fights, argues about unimportant things. I ignore it for and then I get mad and argue back. I don't mention the alcohol, I keep that out of the subject, but he won't stop until he can have an excus...	Palgigo	1	1537	Dec 12, 2015 by hotrod
	Adult Children of Alcoholics - Step 10 (Preview) 10. Continued to take personal inventory and, when we were wrong, promptly admitted it. This is where you make it stick, where the new methods of the previous steps are committed to, where you keep making inventories and keep admitting it and making amends. This is where you do it differently	JamesCT	0	1276	Dec 8, 2015 by JamesCT
	(9-2015 ) ALANON STEP 5 (Preview) *Step Five*Admitted to God, to ourselves and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongsQuote from Paths to Recovery; "in Step Four, we made a thorough inventory of ourselves both assets and defects. Step Five asks us to take another action with what we learned about ourselves. We are...	hotrod	10	7237	Dec 3, 2015 by hotrod
	ALANON STEP 6 (10-2015) (Preview) *Step Six* Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of characterFrom Paths to RecoverySpiritual growth in Al-Anon includes gaining an understanding of our relationship and trust with the God of our understanding.In Step six we are asked to be entirely ready to have God remove the de...	hotrod	7	3103	Nov 19, 2015 by hotrod
	Adult Children of Alcoholics - Step 9 (Preview) 9. Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others. Part of the process of healing yourself is healing those you've harmed. And so amends are a necessary part of the program. But making up for past wrongs shouldn't create present wrongs. When decid...	JamesCT	0	1226	Nov 17, 2015 by JamesCT
	Alanon Step 4 (9-7) (Preview) Step Four Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves *From Paths to Recovery* 'Steps one, two and three taught us about the disease of alcoholism, that we are powerless over it and that there is a power greater than ourselves that we can turn to for sanity, if we so desire. As in climbin...	hotrod	9	3792	Nov 17, 2015 by IamHere
	Adult Children of Alcoholics - Step 8 (Preview) 8. Made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all. One of the amends you might have to make are people who you have harmed who have also harmed you. You don't want to make amends to them because you "know" you're never getting amends made back to you. But t...	JamesCT	0	1310	Nov 4, 2015 by JamesCT
	Alanon Step 3 (Preview) *Step Three* Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood him. *From Paths to Recovery*.Working step three will change our concepts of God and change our lives. We will find a friend who will always be there for us and be the God of our understanding. Once I understood...	hotrod	19	8899	Oct 27, 2015 by akk
	Adult Children of Alcoholics - Step 7 (Preview) 7. Humbly asked God to remove our shortcomings. Let's parse this brief sentence. Humbly -- We become so relentlessly self-reliant that we get very good at making things happen and we begin to believe we can handle anything. We develop hubris and contort our reasoning or logic to keep from admitting t...	JamesCT	0	1341	Oct 20, 2015 by JamesCT
	Adult Children of Alcoholics - Step 6 (Preview) 6. Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character. In order for the trapeze artist to get to the other trapeze, he must let go of the one he's holding onto. He cannot hang onto both. So too must we be ready to let go of our behaviors that served us to a degree but limit us from going beyon...	JamesCT	0	1292	Oct 6, 2015 by JamesCT
	Adult Children of Alcoholics - Step 5 (Preview) 5. Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs. The first step of problem solving is knowing what the problem is. By admitting the exact nature of your wrongs, acknowledge your issues and can begin to heal and to grow from there. But it's not enough to know it....	JamesCT	1	1224	Oct 4, 2015 by ifnotforgrace
	confused (Preview) I am not sure where to start in this program. What step are we working on currently? thanks	catlover2	1	1187	Oct 4, 2015 by hotrod
	How do you start? (Preview) I've been reading some of these posts. I am not exactly new to Alanon. I've been in/out over the past four years but I've never taken on the steps and tried to interpret them and apply them. How do you start?	simplysno	3	1320	Oct 1, 2015 by ifnotforgrace
	Alanon Step 2 (Preview) *Second Step* "Came to Believe that a Power Greater Than Myself Could Restore Me to Sanity.I do like the reading in the C2C that states: First I came (to meetings) then I came to (I became aware and out of denial and pretend) then I was able to believe. *My Share*In the beginning of my journey, I re...	hotrod	10	6037	Sep 20, 2015 by hotrod
	Step 9 Alanon (12- 2014) (Preview) Step nine Made direct amends to such people whenever possible accept when to do so would injure them or others.Paths to recovery page 90 Step Nine is an action step. It calls for direct amends except when to do so might cause further injury. We want to be careful that we are not trying to achieve our pers...	hotrod	8	1452	Sep 7, 2015 by hotrod
	Adult Children of Alcoholics - Step 4 (Preview) 4: Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves. Please do this step. I have seen people procrastinate on this step, make excuses, skip, or even quit working the steps over it. I took a long time to do this step myself because I was afraid I'd start beating myself up and would never stop. H...	JamesCT	0	1513	Sep 7, 2015 by JamesCT
	New to board- children come first (Preview) I am new to this board and going to my first meeting on Tuesday. I have been married to an alcoholic for 7 years. He has been sober for most of our marriage with two short relapses. This one was the worst and he left the house Sunday. We have 3 kids under the age of 6. If it wasn't for them I would never have him ba...	Luna22	2	1471	Sep 1, 2015 by ldbobay
	Adult Children of Alcoholics - Step 3 (Preview) 3: Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understand God. If you have settled the issue of having a higher power (or God as the step says) then now it's time to make a choice: you can admit that you can't do it alone and accept the help of the universe or you can continue to suf...	JamesCT	0	1197	Aug 18, 2015 by JamesCT
	Newbie — How do I work the 12 steps online? (Preview) Hi I am new to this. I have never done the 12 steps and I am not sure now it works or how it works online. Can someone give me a few pointers on how I go about it? I think read somewhere on this site that I need to join a group but I haven't been able to find that page since. Thanks in advance. El	El10	2	1860	Jul 29, 2015 by hotrod
	Adult Children of Alcoholics Tradition 12 (Preview) Tradition 12:Anonymity is the spiritual foundation of all our Traditions, ever reminding us to place principles before personalities.	JamesCT	0	1207	Jul 6, 2015 by JamesCT
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Learn how the 12 Steps work. Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps of recovery together! We discuss each of the Twelve Steps In the order they are written, one step at a time, every two weeks.