Step Work

deedee51 · deedee51

Hi, I started going to Al-Anon a few months ago and I'm starting step 4. After reading a lot of posts here,it seems to be for geared for the alcoholic, is that what it is? If were the spouse of the alcoholic do we bypass this step 4? I'm confused. Any help will be appreciated. Al-Anon has really been helping...

Jerry F · Jerry F

After looking at the evidence of my 1st and 2nd step I had a question supported by the rooms of Al-Anon. I was given the definition of insanity as, "doing the same things over and over expecting different results." That was a very accurate definition and I was very very sick from trying to...

itsmichael · itsmichael

"We admitted we were powerless over alcohol-- that our lives had become unmanageable." I used to think that the occasions on which I could exhibit some small amount of control over my drinking and using was proof that I was NOT powerless over alcohol and substances. For instance, if I went...

Red Carter · Red Carter

I'm working on step four. i know honesty and a few others are values but i need help understanding this so i can keep moving forward in this i don't want to get stuck on step four. i've ssen others put it off for years & i need to change & stay active in the 12 steps. any help understanding would be gr...

hotrod · hotrod

Second Step "Came to Believe that a Power Greater Than Myself Could Restore Me to Sanity.I do like the reading in the C2C that states: First I came (to meetings) then I came to(I became aware and out of denial and pretend) then I was able to believe. When I first arrived at alanon many years ago I...

Cay · Cay

I don´t know why but I am holding on better than I have in years. I am determined to stay off the stuff. I don' t have a lot of meetings ...they are mainly full of young men and I am an older female and find it difficult to relate. I am glad they are there but just can't relate. I spend a lot of time on line and journ...

rosyred3 · rosyred3

I've been clean for 1 year on March 28th. I missed half of my life with a complete blur. Blinded by the smoke if you can understand that. I lost my 2 sons when I was deep into my use 17 years ago. I havent seen either one since they were 2 and 6 years old. Now Jesse James is 23 and I havent seen him since he was 6 year...

lynnd · lynnd

I recently finished my 4th (and 5th) steps. I attend Al-Anon, although I have not identified a particular alcoholic in my life. All I know is, my life has been full of dysfunctional people (including me!) At any rate, my husband inadvertently read my 4th step. He appeared in it several times, and some o...

shell1987 · shell1987

hi my name is michelle im new to the fellowship i would like some help to do step one this is so important to me my partner is in recovery iam supporting him but i need help to i want to understand this illness my parents are both alcaholics

tamara38me · tamara38me

just joined the site. not sure exactly what to do. can someone help me please?

serenity76 · serenity76

Hi everyone! I'm new at this and a year and a half into this program. Here is my question, and I would really appreciate your feedback on this. I have a sponsor, whom I love and respect dearly. I am currently on my fourth step, (have been for the last 4-5 months at least) I feel the reason why this is taking so...

kateindublin · kateindublin

Hi, I would appreciate your advice or suggestions on my issue. I've been in a fellowship for about 6 months and have been doing well, starting to find my own voice and deepening my relationship with my Higher Power. A potential conflict has arisen with my father and it has led me into questioning my High...

Raven68 · Raven68

I find step 1 easy when it comes to my mom. She is the alcoholic. It is my step dad I want to change. He is verbaly abusive to me when she drinks. I live with them.

dmcdonald1121 · dmcdonald1121

hey i need help geting started i have been a drunk for a long time and alcohal has ruined my life to many times. i have a fiance that is about to leave me and take my kids with her and i dont want that to happen so if i can quit drinking our problems will be gone. i just missed work today because of my drinking so no...

PugMom · PugMom

hello, I just joined this group and am in need of some guidance. How does this page work? How do I participate and make the proper changes I need to in my life? I am an adult child of 2 alcoholics and a drug addict. I have serious abandonment and anger problems. I am just learning that it is time to face...

cleanandsoberfemale · cleanandsoberfemale

god grant me the serenity to accept the things i cannot change the courage to change the things i can and the wisdom to know the difference.

Dave Harm · Dave Harm

Step Four: Forgive Thine Self conniving, manipulating, deceiving playing games to stay ahead to keep a secret buried which was already known as things begin to change wonder can forgiveness be achieved not from others but from one self more then a dream its a destiny no way around it be kind forgive y...

Me · Me

I have a feeling my family and relatives and some people around me are lifetime addicts, I have been clean and sober for 2 years and 4 months, but I feel stunted and I think this is the reason, because I didnt know these people were lifetime addicts. I started using about 8-10 years prior to my clean and s...

MarketingMark · MarketingMark

Hi This is my first post to this forum. I have been in Al-anon for a while, I'm an adult child and used to go to weekely meetings in Glasgow. Recently my situation has changed and I can't go to meeting because of work committments that I can't get out of. I'm on Step 5 and I want to share but I have no sponsor an...

Vicky R · Vicky R

'Came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could resort us to sanity' From: Hope for Today - p 109 (copyright 2002, by Al-Anon Group Headquarters, Inc. Limited use by express written permission of Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc.) "When I expressed difficulty with the word '...

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	Confused with Step 4 (Preview) Hi, I started going to Al-Anon a few months ago and I'm starting step 4. After reading a lot of posts here,it seems to be for geared for the alcoholic, is that what it is? If were the spouse of the alcoholic do we bypass this step 4? I'm confused. Any help will be appreciated. Al-Anon has really been helping...	deedee51	10	2977	May 10, 2010 by deedee51
	Step #3...A short journey. (Preview) After looking at the evidence of my 1st and 2nd step I had a question supported by the rooms of Al-Anon. I was given the definition of insanity as, "doing the same things over and over expecting different results." That was a very accurate definition and I was very very sick from trying to...	Jerry F	6	1918	May 7, 2010 by Dave Harm
	My AA Step One (Preview) "We admitted we were powerless over alcohol-- that our lives had become unmanageable." I used to think that the occasions on which I could exhibit some small amount of control over my drinking and using was proof that I was NOT powerless over alcohol and substances. For instance, if I went...	itsmichael	2	1890	May 4, 2010 by Jerry F
	values and priciples (Preview) I'm working on step four. i know honesty and a few others are values but i need help understanding this so i can keep moving forward in this i don't want to get stuck on step four. i've ssen others put it off for years & i need to change & stay active in the 12 steps. any help understanding would be gr...	Red Carter	3	1569	May 4, 2010 by Jerry F
	Step 2 (Preview) Second Step "Came to Believe that a Power Greater Than Myself Could Restore Me to Sanity.I do like the reading in the C2C that states: First I came (to meetings) then I came to(I became aware and out of denial and pretend) then I was able to believe. When I first arrived at alanon many years ago I...	hotrod	9	2355	May 4, 2010 by Jerry F
	holding on (Preview) I don´t know why but I am holding on better than I have in years. I am determined to stay off the stuff. I don' t have a lot of meetings ...they are mainly full of young men and I am an older female and find it difficult to relate. I am glad they are there but just can't relate. I spend a lot of time on line and journ...	Cay	1	964	Apr 25, 2010 by debbievonne
	Hello I am Cindy and I am a cocaine addict and alcoholic (Preview) I've been clean for 1 year on March 28th. I missed half of my life with a complete blur. Blinded by the smoke if you can understand that. I lost my 2 sons when I was deep into my use 17 years ago. I havent seen either one since they were 2 and 6 years old. Now Jesse James is 23 and I havent seen him since he was 6 year...	rosyred3	3	1596	Mar 25, 2010 by tlcate
	someone reading my 4th step inventory (Preview) I recently finished my 4th (and 5th) steps. I attend Al-Anon, although I have not identified a particular alcoholic in my life. All I know is, my life has been full of dysfunctional people (including me!) At any rate, my husband inadvertently read my 4th step. He appeared in it several times, and some o...	lynnd	3	2283	Mar 2, 2010 by freya
	from shell (Preview) hi my name is michelle im new to the fellowship i would like some help to do step one this is so important to me my partner is in recovery iam supporting him but i need help to i want to understand this illness my parents are both alcaholics	shell1987	1	1125	Feb 28, 2010 by tlcate
	step 1 (Preview) just joined the site. not sure exactly what to do. can someone help me please?	tamara38me	15	2572	Feb 27, 2010 by shell1987
	Help!! Al-anon Step 4 Question... (Preview) Hi everyone! I'm new at this and a year and a half into this program. Here is my question, and I would really appreciate your feedback on this. I have a sponsor, whom I love and respect dearly. I am currently on my fourth step, (have been for the last 4-5 months at least) I feel the reason why this is taking so...	serenity76	4	4106	Feb 11, 2010 by sealegs
	Struggling with 'Where was my Higher Power when bad stuff happened?' (Preview) Hi, I would appreciate your advice or suggestions on my issue. I've been in a fellowship for about 6 months and have been doing well, starting to find my own voice and deepening my relationship with my Higher Power. A potential conflict has arisen with my father and it has led me into questioning my High...	kateindublin	16	2973	Jan 22, 2010 by Raven68
	Step 1Help (Preview) I find step 1 easy when it comes to my mom. She is the alcoholic. It is my step dad I want to change. He is verbaly abusive to me when she drinks. I live with them.	Raven68	0	1099	Jan 22, 2010 by Raven68
	i need help (Preview) hey i need help geting started i have been a drunk for a long time and alcohal has ruined my life to many times. i have a fiance that is about to leave me and take my kids with her and i dont want that to happen so if i can quit drinking our problems will be gone. i just missed work today because of my drinking so no...	dmcdonald1121	3	1581	Dec 24, 2009 by Ryan C
	lost soul here (Preview) hello, I just joined this group and am in need of some guidance. How does this page work? How do I participate and make the proper changes I need to in my life? I am an adult child of 2 alcoholics and a drug addict. I have serious abandonment and anger problems. I am just learning that it is time to face...	PugMom	3	1426	Oct 17, 2009 by Avril G
	hi (Preview) god grant me the serenity to accept the things i cannot change the courage to change the things i can and the wisdom to know the difference.	cleanandsoberfemale	1	900	Oct 14, 2009 by lilbiT
	Step Four: Forgive Thine Self (Preview) Step Four: Forgive Thine Self conniving, manipulating, deceiving playing games to stay ahead to keep a secret buried which was already known as things begin to change wonder can forgiveness be achieved not from others but from one self more then a dream its a destiny no way around it be kind forgive y...	Dave Harm	1	1371	Oct 14, 2009 by lilbiT
	Lifetime Addicts (Preview) I have a feeling my family and relatives and some people around me are lifetime addicts, I have been clean and sober for 2 years and 4 months, but I feel stunted and I think this is the reason, because I didnt know these people were lifetime addicts. I started using about 8-10 years prior to my clean and s...	Me	2	1199	Oct 12, 2009 by Carlotta
	Sharing Step 5 (Preview) Hi This is my first post to this forum. I have been in Al-anon for a while, I'm an adult child and used to go to weekely meetings in Glasgow. Recently my situation has changed and I can't go to meeting because of work committments that I can't get out of. I'm on Step 5 and I want to share but I have no sponsor an...	MarketingMark	1	1351	Sep 21, 2009 by Dave Harm
	Al-Anon Step 2 (Preview) 'Came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could resort us to sanity' From: Hope for Today - p 109 (copyright 2002, by Al-Anon Group Headquarters, Inc. Limited use by express written permission of Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc.) "When I expressed difficulty with the word '...	Vicky R	0	3443	Aug 25, 2009 by Vicky R
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