Step Work

lollyloopp · lollyloopp

Hi all! I am new here and been reading up on the step work. First, I'd like to introduce myself: I am a 28 year old married mom of 4, ages 9, 5, almost 4, and 3 weeks! I am also a professional and take pride in my accomplishments with my career. I work for a religious-based non-profit...

cedarpines · cedarpines

What does "exact nature of our wrongs" mean? If i am a perfectionist - is it because i was taught to be that way? Any esh? Thanks Cedarpines

Carla · Carla

Hello all, I feel that I'm not ready for step 5. Am I avoiding it or did not really complete 1,2, 3 and 4.? I still have many questions and the feeling that step work is too fast. What do I do? best, carla (toto)

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Fifth Step - Admitted to God, to ourselves and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs. 1. If I have completed my Fourth Step inventory, how do I feel about sharing details of my past with another human being? 2. How can telling someone else the exact nature of my wrongs enhance my a...

amanda2u2 · amanda2u2

from "The 12 Steps for Adult Children" "Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs." "Step 5 requires that we engage in honest confrontations with ourselves and others by admitting our faults to God, to ourselves, and to another person. By doing so, w...

amanda2u2 · amanda2u2

from the '12 Steps and 12 Traditions' book: "Made a searching and fearless inventory of ourselves" "Creation gave us instincts for a purpose. Without them we wouldn't be complete human beings. If men and women didn't exert themselves to be secure in their persons, made no effort to harvest food...

gsdgirl36 · gsdgirl36

This is a tough one. My A keeps telling me NOTHING is my fault, but I know that's not true.... I AM TOO CONTROLLING of others and situations In an effort to keep my life in one piece, I have become a control freak. I used to have the ability to be flexible and spontaneous, but that is gone. Everythin...

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Step Four - Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves. From: Paths to Recovery - pg. 42 (copyright 1997, by al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc. Limited use by express written permission of Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc.) It is often said at meetings that the...

angelinme908 · angelinme908

Is it the time of year? There are so few people posting on the steps in the last few weeks. I know that as I am still working on step four, I haven't posted for step 5 but what about others? Missing the ESH. Angelina

Carla · Carla

Hi, One of the things that turned up in step 4 works is a childhood memory. I was the oldest of 5 children , both parents were dysfunctional. When one child was sick, we usually gave it to the next and we all stayed in bed. I remember when it was our turn with the mumps. The 3 bo...

DeSpErAtEinLV · DeSpErAtEinLV

Hi, I am new to this forum. I have been in and out of these rooms for three years now. I am currently doing step three and it is really hard for me. When I was a little girl, The God that I knew didn't keep me safe. He didn't protect me. How am I supposed to turn my will and my life over to him? I want to. I want to trus...

Carla · Carla

Hello Fellow Acoas, Well, I understand that you are on step 3, right? Well, here is my confusion. I was one who thought I had to earn love and approval with my deeds and my deeds were never enough, so, of course, it follows that I turned into a superachiever and everyone hated me eve...

barbara · barbara

What exactly is Step 3? I understand its a Letting Go, feeling like we have a safety net. But is it giving up obsessing over something we have no control over? or is it letting others decide the outcome?

amanda2u2 · amanda2u2

Step 3 was the hardest of all of them for me. Trust is a big issue for me, as described in the ACoA Step 3. Having been abused in one way or another for most of my life, I trusted absolutely no one, including myself, and including God. My 'understanding' of God at that point was that he was like my father, slig...

Carla · Carla

Hi acoa friends, Yep, step 4, 150 negative, criticizing thoughts did I find. I thought for step 4, I would make a list of fearless inventory items, so I came up with 152 negative realizations! Ha! You would think I could at least find 10 positive thoughts about myself! So, item 153 is: "a...

wille · wille

hello to all, Happy new year! The steps are so grounding and central to recovery. Heck I am still figuring out whut it means to recover. I have put up boundaries with or to some members of my family and open doors to other family members as they show their knowing to program ideolog...

bobl · bobl

What is my concept of a HP at this time? What would it take to allow my concept of my HP to change? Have past experiences affected my concept of a HP? If so, how? What do I hope to gain from accepting the concept of a Power greater than myself? Do...

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I stayed at Step Three for several years because I couldn't seem to turn anything over for very long - consequently without believing in a Higher Power I felt I was failing. Then one night at an AA/Al-Anon discussion meeting an AA friend pointed out to me that the only thing I had to do in Step Three wa...

pscsquint · pscsquint

Hello, I am new to this site, and new to ACOA. There was no alcohol or drug abuse in my family. They were just so totally dysfunctional that I can identify with the Laundry List, the Problem, the traits and now am seeking the solution. I have just started to write in my journal about ever...

rollie · rollie

Hi, I am new to all this and I thought it would be nice to share my story, although I am finding that everyone's story is very similar to mine. My husband, the addict, has been sober for over a year now. YEAH!!! Although he is not living the AA philsophy like he has in the past. But I thought I would feel be...

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	New here! Working the steps (Preview) Hi all! I am new here and been reading up on the step work. First, I'd like to introduce myself: I am a 28 year old married mom of 4, ages 9, 5, almost 4, and 3 weeks! I am also a professional and take pride in my accomplishments with my career. I work for a religious-based non-profit...	lollyloopp	10	1127	Feb 10, 2006 by Pluto14
	Step 4 Question (Preview) What does "exact nature of our wrongs" mean? If i am a perfectionist - is it because i was taught to be that way? Any esh? Thanks Cedarpines	cedarpines	2	1293	Feb 7, 2006 by cedarpines
	Am I ready? step 5 (Preview) Hello all, I feel that I'm not ready for step 5. Am I avoiding it or did not really complete 1,2, 3 and 4.? I still have many questions and the feeling that step work is too fast. What do I do? best, carla (toto)	Carla	6	1300	Feb 6, 2006 by dot
	Fifth Step Questions (Preview) Fifth Step - Admitted to God, to ourselves and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs. 1. If I have completed my Fourth Step inventory, how do I feel about sharing details of my past with another human being? 2. How can telling someone else the exact nature of my wrongs enhance my a...	dot	1	1597	Feb 4, 2006 by Carla
	Step 5 - ACoA (Preview) from "The 12 Steps for Adult Children" "Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs." "Step 5 requires that we engage in honest confrontations with ourselves and others by admitting our faults to God, to ourselves, and to another person. By doing so, w...	amanda2u2	1	1709	Jan 31, 2006 by notcrazy62
	Step 4 - AA (Preview) from the '12 Steps and 12 Traditions' book: "Made a searching and fearless inventory of ourselves" "Creation gave us instincts for a purpose. Without them we wouldn't be complete human beings. If men and women didn't exert themselves to be secure in their persons, made no effort to harvest food...	amanda2u2	1	1485	Jan 29, 2006 by maresie
	Step 4 Inventory (Preview) This is a tough one. My A keeps telling me NOTHING is my fault, but I know that's not true.... I AM TOO CONTROLLING of others and situations In an effort to keep my life in one piece, I have become a control freak. I used to have the ability to be flexible and spontaneous, but that is gone. Everythin...	gsdgirl36	2	2038	Jan 29, 2006 by maresie
	Step Four - Al-Anon (Preview) Step Four - Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves. From: Paths to Recovery - pg. 42 (copyright 1997, by al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc. Limited use by express written permission of Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc.) It is often said at meetings that the...	dot	3	1447	Jan 29, 2006 by maresie
	Few postings (Preview) Is it the time of year? There are so few people posting on the steps in the last few weeks. I know that as I am still working on step four, I haven't posted for step 5 but what about others? Missing the ESH. Angelina	angelinme908	3	1089	Jan 27, 2006 by amanda2u2
	Step 4-Who has the mumps? (Preview) Hi, One of the things that turned up in step 4 works is a childhood memory. I was the oldest of 5 children , both parents were dysfunctional. When one child was sick, we usually gave it to the next and we all stayed in bed. I remember when it was our turn with the mumps. The 3 bo...	Carla	2	1345	Jan 20, 2006 by dot
	Confused about 3rd Step (Preview) Hi, I am new to this forum. I have been in and out of these rooms for three years now. I am currently doing step three and it is really hard for me. When I was a little girl, The God that I knew didn't keep me safe. He didn't protect me. How am I supposed to turn my will and my life over to him? I want to. I want to trus...	DeSpErAtEinLV	3	1215	Jan 20, 2006 by dot
	The Fine Line- Step 3 (Preview) Hello Fellow Acoas, Well, I understand that you are on step 3, right? Well, here is my confusion. I was one who thought I had to earn love and approval with my deeds and my deeds were never enough, so, of course, it follows that I turned into a superachiever and everyone hated me eve...	Carla	4	1302	Jan 18, 2006 by lollyloopp
	Step 3 AlAnon - is it not obsessing or letting others walk over us? (Preview) What exactly is Step 3? I understand its a Letting Go, feeling like we have a safety net. But is it giving up obsessing over something we have no control over? or is it letting others decide the outcome?	barbara	4	1634	Jan 18, 2006 by lollyloopp
	Step 3 shares (Preview) Step 3 was the hardest of all of them for me. Trust is a big issue for me, as described in the ACoA Step 3. Having been abused in one way or another for most of my life, I trusted absolutely no one, including myself, and including God. My 'understanding' of God at that point was that he was like my father, slig...	amanda2u2	5	1520	Jan 18, 2006 by lollyloopp
	150 negative thoughts! (Preview) Hi acoa friends, Yep, step 4, 150 negative, criticizing thoughts did I find. I thought for step 4, I would make a list of fearless inventory items, so I came up with 152 negative realizations! Ha! You would think I could at least find 10 positive thoughts about myself! So, item 153 is: "a...	Carla	4	1626	Jan 13, 2006 by wille
	It ain't 4 sissies (Preview) hello to all, Happy new year! The steps are so grounding and central to recovery. Heck I am still figuring out whut it means to recover. I have put up boundaries with or to some members of my family and open doors to other family members as they show their knowing to program ideolog...	wille	2	1161	Jan 13, 2006 by wille
	Some Step 2 Questions from P2R. (Preview) What is my concept of a HP at this time? What would it take to allow my concept of my HP to change? Have past experiences affected my concept of a HP? If so, how? What do I hope to gain from accepting the concept of a Power greater than myself? Do...	bobl	11	1863	Jan 13, 2006 by lollyloopp
	Getting past Step Three (Preview) I stayed at Step Three for several years because I couldn't seem to turn anything over for very long - consequently without believing in a Higher Power I felt I was failing. Then one night at an AA/Al-Anon discussion meeting an AA friend pointed out to me that the only thing I had to do in Step Three wa...	dot	3	1482	Jan 12, 2006 by bobl
	Online Meetings (Preview) Hello, I am new to this site, and new to ACOA. There was no alcohol or drug abuse in my family. They were just so totally dysfunctional that I can identify with the Laundry List, the Problem, the traits and now am seeking the solution. I have just started to write in my journal about ever...	pscsquint	6	1336	Jan 12, 2006 by pscsquint
	I'm new... (Preview) Hi, I am new to all this and I thought it would be nice to share my story, although I am finding that everyone's story is very similar to mine. My husband, the addict, has been sober for over a year now. YEAH!!! Although he is not living the AA philsophy like he has in the past. But I thought I would feel be...	rollie	3	1280	Jan 12, 2006 by lollyloopp
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