Step Nine - Made direct amends wherever possible except when to do so woulds injure them or others.
1. What doubts do I have about my amends injuring someone?
2. Do I have any amends to make that could result in serious consequences for my family?
3. Who on my amends list will never be available for direct amends?
4. Can I make amends in another way?
Hugs - Dot
-- Edited by dott at 19:53, 2007-10-26
getoverit said
Nov 4, 2007
Step Nine - Made direct amends wherever possible except when to do so woulds injure them or others.
1. What doubts do I have about my amends injuring someone?
2. Do I have any amends to make that could result in serious consequences for my family?
3. Who on my amends list will never be available for direct amends?
4. Can I make amends in another way?
Hugs - Dot
T u Dot 4 this segue to step nine:
Step Nine - Made direct amends wherever possible except when to do so woulds injure them or others.
doubts to my making direct amends -- could I be considered a stalker in tracking down a potential offended person is number one on my list in some cases, in other cases to leave it on the alter i cherish in my mind for / to the other individual involved is a constant and a safe choice to whomever I have in someway offended.
my family -- they have the same coding as I psychologically speaking, however, my family holds offenses of their own design. I out lived a medical staff prediction and I have a sense of disappointing my family by my very living / recovery. I have embraced program more deeply since that life changing event, never the less and am working to help dissolve my families resentments due to these being shaped by our teachers' and only real then for them in the face of the reality these teachers' held to due to their needs in / of their time.
Never available for amends -- those who have essentially disappeared our of my life or I've elected to let go due to my being wounded to my soul by the acts between us in our interactions.
Amends made in other ways are to polish up my communication skills, to develop and to implement a plan to increase honesty in all of my interactions is all I can think of now.
Regards again Dot for this opportunity to dance thru step nine.
Oceans of love,
getoverit
Baffled said
Nov 11, 2007
1. What doubts do I have about my amends injuring someone?
There are people in my life who tell me they cannot handle me so I'm sure that speaking to them about amends would unsettle and injure them. I feel uneasy about making direct amends because I don't know how the other person will take it. Not so much if they are indifferent or reject me, but it could dredge up hurtful memories.
2. Do I have any amends to make that could result in serious consequences for my family?
Some amends can end up being "confessions" that reveal illegal activities such as stealing, abuse or assault and battery. While I have been abusive during certain fights with individuals, I managed to avoid other illegal activities. Having trouble with the law, which would have serious consequences, could happen if there is more fighting.
Another serious consequence is the possibility of splitting up the family. Very few people are speaking to me becaue of some family politics and some bad choices on my part. Some people in my life feel that I really owe them amends. I feel that amends are more to ease my own guilty conscience.
Financial consequences from amends could be that my working relationships could be threatened and there could be a need to leave the job.
3. Who on my amends list will never be available for direct amends?
My relatives who are no longer alive will not be available. There are some people I do not want to have anything to do with right now. I may be able to change.
4. Can I make amends in another way?
I could volunteer in a domestic violence shelter or offer support to people who are suffering from some kind of misfortune or just don't have anybody.
1. What doubts do I have about my amends injuring someone?
2. Do I have any amends to make that could result in serious consequences for my family?
3. Who on my amends list will never be available for direct amends?
4. Can I make amends in another way?
Hugs - Dot
-- Edited by dott at 19:53, 2007-10-26
2. Do I have any amends to make that could result in serious consequences for my family?
3. Who on my amends list will never be available for direct amends?
4. Can I make amends in another way?