Hello, I'm very new at this but have lived with alcoholics all my life. My life is now a mess. I suffer from depression and health problems that the doctors feel are stress related. I have no ambition to do anything and feel trapped in my life. I need to find the strength to change things and would like to start here. I don't know who I am anymore. Any ideas of what I can do or where to start.
Sincerely said
Nov 2, 2008
Hello, You have come to the right place. My world was upside down when I found this group. Keep reading the post, come to the meetings and use the tools provided, you will get in a good place in life. I believe that you have ambition for that! Take care, Tonya
slowlearner said
Nov 2, 2008
Thanks, I was beginning to wonder if there was anyone out there. I have been reading the Al-anon book which has been helping. It's making me realize I need to help myself and not have someone rescue me. I'll keep reading and coming back here. Thanks.
shellyj123 said
Nov 2, 2008
Hi Nancy.......and welcome to MIP....You are definitely at the right place. I am a newbie here too and am starting to feel the positive changes that this place can bring into your life.......Keep coming back!!
bethmck said
Nov 17, 2008
Hi Nancy, Shelly, Tonya and everyone else--
I'm new here too-- have been doing both phone and face-to-face meetings, and just found this thread. I heard a wonderful quote at a meeting on "stinkin' thinkin'-- which is just one of my character defects. "My very best thinking earned me my chair in Al Anon." Keep coming back!
Beth
-- Edited by bethmck at 03:00, 2008-11-17
shamana said
Nov 18, 2008
I am new here too. I am working the steps and I do admit I am powerless.
I will keep working and hope to talk to others.
Vicky R said
Nov 22, 2008
Hi everyone, wow I am struck again by how much you support each other. Shame I can't be here more often! Not knowing who you are - yes I know what you mean. The tools of the programme can be really helpful for that. Like the Just for Today card which kind of puts it in a nutshell for me. Bye for now look forward to reading you again,
llol Vickyr x
From: Hope for Today - pg 164 - (copyright 2002, by Al-Anon Group Headquarters, Inc. Limited use by express written permission of Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc.)
"Sometimes it takes me a while to figure out whom or what I can't control. When I figure it out, I can put the appropriate word into Step One. Today the usefulness of Step One is broader for me because I can substitute all manner of people and situations for "alcohol". This breadth also helps me work Step Twelve because each and every one of my affairs contains elements I can't control."
shamana said
Nov 26, 2008
My life is crumbling also. The holiday stuff always gets me. I will be alone tomorrow. Thanksgiving. Christmas too. Probably every "holiday" forever.
Oh, I know, HP.
Well, hope HP stays close. I am hearing Xmas songs on the radio already. I want to cry every time. I am powerless over it . The addictions and attitudes and uncaring of others. Powerless. I will ask HP to get me through alive and in a home.
One day at a time. Maybe one minute at a time.
Jules said
Nov 28, 2008
Shamana,
You are not alone. I am not having a holiday, now or x-mas. The "poor me" attitude that comes out bothers me even more than not being part of the general sense of celebration. And yet, the air is on my skin, cool and crisp. I am alive. It is the best I can do, some moments. One at a time, certainly, and if I can muster some genuine gratitude for air, sun (albeit cool), wind and the beauty that is an expression of love, for me, for you.
Hello,
You have come to the right place. My world was upside down when I found this group. Keep reading the post, come to the meetings and use the tools provided, you will get in a good place in life. I believe that you have ambition for that!
Take care,
Tonya
I'm new here too-- have been doing both phone and face-to-face meetings, and just found this thread. I heard a wonderful quote at a meeting on "stinkin' thinkin'-- which is just one of my character defects. "My very best thinking earned me my chair in Al Anon."
Beth
-- Edited by bethmck at 03:00, 2008-11-17
I will keep working and hope to talk to others.
Hi everyone, wow I am struck again by how much you support each other. Shame I can't be here more often! Not knowing who you are - yes I know what you mean. The tools of the programme can be really helpful for that. Like the Just for Today card which kind of puts it in a nutshell for me. Bye for now look forward to reading you again,
llol Vickyr x
From: Hope for Today - pg 164 - (copyright 2002, by Al-Anon Group Headquarters, Inc. Limited use by express written permission of Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc.)
"Sometimes it takes me a while to figure out whom or what I can't control. When I figure it out, I can put the appropriate word into Step One. Today the usefulness of Step One is broader for me because I can substitute all manner of people and situations for "alcohol". This breadth also helps me work Step Twelve because each and every one of my affairs contains elements I can't control."
Oh, I know, HP.
Well, hope HP stays close. I am hearing Xmas songs on the radio already. I want to cry every time. I am powerless over it . The addictions and attitudes and uncaring of others. Powerless. I will ask HP to get me through alive and in a home.
One day at a time. Maybe one minute at a time.
You are not alone. I am not having a holiday, now or x-mas. The "poor me" attitude that comes out bothers me even more than not being part of the general sense of celebration. And yet, the air is on my skin, cool and crisp. I am alive. It is the best I can do, some moments. One at a time, certainly, and if I can muster some genuine gratitude for air, sun (albeit cool), wind and the beauty that is an expression of love, for me, for you.