Step Ten - Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.
Step Ten for me is an important part of my daily program. It keeps me grounded in today - away from yesterday and tomorrow.
Each night, before I go to sleep, I review my day as honestly as I can. Did I do my best for that day? Do I need to make changes in my attitude - my actions or my REACTIONS. Reactions are one of my biggest problems - I tend to act or speak before I think.
If I have been wrong and didn't make amends at the time I need to do so as soon as possible.
I'm not always ready to admit I'm wrong - sometimes I'm not sure that I am - so I need to go back to Step Five and share with my sponsor. She won't hesitate to help me look at myself honestly and decide if amends are needed.
Anytime I feel I've been wrong and don't promptly make amends I get an ache in the pit of my stomach - I don't feel good about myself and - one more time - my life becomes unmanageable.
The program has given me the freedomm to be wrong and the courage to admit it.
Love in recovery - Dot
GammyRose said
Apr 10, 2005
Thanks for the share Dot. I really like the " The program has given me the freedom to be wrong and the courage to admit it."
That was so imprtant for me learn, I didn't want to admit when I was wrong. How freeing that has been for me. Just one of my character defects I am still working on.
Have a great day.
(((Hugs)))
GammyRose
amanda2u2 said
Apr 11, 2005
When I was wrong, as a child, and it became known,,, that made me a target of abuse. Some people still are into abusing people who have made mistakes. But I am committed now to recovery, which means change, which means admitting the things that need changing. First I need to really look at what is happening, as soon as I can, and if I see that I am doing old schtick,,, admit it right then and there,,, whatever they are going to think and however they are going to react. If I am so caught up in something that I go through with a behavior that is not good,,, then as soon as I can I review and when I see that I have done, or ommitted doing, something that needs correcting I try to correct it. This is very important in my life,,, elsewise I just keep on with my habitual schtick never giving a thought to it and making a lot of needless messes and then not knowing why or how to straighten them out.
love in recovery,
amanda
Smarti said
Apr 12, 2005
I dont know quite how to start, I feel sad, alone and scared to death! Looking at step 10 brings tears to my eyes, because I know that I have done so many things wrong, to the people that I love, and who love me.
I always say I am sorry, only do repeat the actions. Today is my 1st attempt at trying to seek out the help that I know that I need.
Any tips from anyone on how I can keep moving forward and stay strong would be greatly appreciated.
Thank you for your time.
amanda2u2 said
Apr 12, 2005
I don't kn ow enuff about your situation , and am not qualified to give advice... we don't give advice... but it looks like you have made the first move in recovering by admitting that you need to recover. If you are an Alcoholic then we have an AA board with great members who can help you to connect to AA near you. If you are an abuse survivor we have the CAS board with great people who can help you get connected with a recovery support system of that type.
Have you called anyone to connect with some counseling there? A professional counselor is invaluable for being able to make referrals to appropriate resources for us. And you are welcome to participate on these boards too,, though they are a supplement and not a replacement for face2face groups and people in your area.
Thanks for the share Dot. I really like the " The program has given me the freedom to be wrong and the courage to admit it."
That was so imprtant for me learn, I didn't want to admit when I was wrong. How freeing that has been for me. Just one of my character defects I am still working on.
Have a great day.
(((Hugs)))
GammyRose
When I was wrong, as a child, and it became known,,, that made me a target of abuse. Some people still are into abusing people who have made mistakes. But I am committed now to recovery, which means change, which means admitting the things that need changing. First I need to really look at what is happening, as soon as I can, and if I see that I am doing old schtick,,, admit it right then and there,,, whatever they are going to think and however they are going to react. If I am so caught up in something that I go through with a behavior that is not good,,, then as soon as I can I review and when I see that I have done, or ommitted doing, something that needs correcting I try to correct it. This is very important in my life,,, elsewise I just keep on with my habitual schtick never giving a thought to it and making a lot of needless messes and then not knowing why or how to straighten them out.
love in recovery,
amanda
I don't kn ow enuff about your situation , and am not qualified to give advice... we don't give advice... but it looks like you have made the first move in recovering by admitting that you need to recover. If you are an Alcoholic then we have an AA board with great members who can help you to connect to AA near you. If you are an abuse survivor we have the CAS board with great people who can help you get connected with a recovery support system of that type.
Have you called anyone to connect with some counseling there? A professional counselor is invaluable for being able to make referrals to appropriate resources for us. And you are welcome to participate on these boards too,, though they are a supplement and not a replacement for face2face groups and people in your area.
love in recovery,
amanda