Hi, I have been wanting to do my step five for a few months now but could do with some suggestions. Does it need to be your sponsor. I decided that my relationship with my sponsor was not very healthy she has given me so much but her objectivity had gone and she had strted to direct me/control. I began to feel very uncomfortable and left my home group and joined another group , I am finally starting to settle. However this experience has shook me up a little. I have revisited my old meetings and do tend to make amends for just diconnecting when I get to steps 8/9. However I neeed to move on as she would shake her head when I had slips or was not meeting her expectations, I knew it was not al anon but felt I could not say nothing as she was an old timer. i have been looking around for a new sponsor but i am having problems identifying someone. I really do feel ready to do this step i do believe I am doing steps 6 and 7 already but really want to sit a do step five with someone. do you have any suggestions ror tips on how to identify the right person or how to pick a new sponsor.
thanks
-- Edited by tracy on Saturday 1st of January 2011 08:21:37 PM
Desirae said
Jan 10, 2011
I will be praying for clarity for both of us on this hon... I have the same question.
Hi,
I have been wanting to do my step five for a few months now but could do with some suggestions. Does it need to be your sponsor. I decided that my relationship with my sponsor was not very healthy she has given me so much but her objectivity had gone and she had strted to direct me/control. I began to feel very uncomfortable and left my home group and joined another group , I am finally starting to settle. However this experience has shook me up a little. I have revisited my old meetings and do tend to make amends for just diconnecting when I get to steps 8/9. However I neeed to move on as she would shake her head when I had slips or was not meeting her expectations, I knew it was not al anon but felt I could not say nothing as she was an old timer. i have been looking around for a new sponsor but i am having problems identifying someone. I really do feel ready to do this step i do believe I am doing steps 6 and 7 already but really want to sit a do step five with someone. do you have any suggestions ror tips on how to identify the right person or how to pick a new sponsor.
thanks
-- Edited by tracy on Saturday 1st of January 2011 08:21:37 PM