1. Our common welfare should come first, personal recovery depends on ACA unity.
I have been asked to post the twelve traditions of ACA, but I am not versed on them or what they mean, to be perfectly honest. So I welcome your opinions and discussions.
This first tradition definitely could use some explanation. Our common welfare should come first before...what? And how does our personal recovery hinge on ACA unity and what does ACA unity mean.
I have some theories on the answers, but I would like to hear others first.
DavidG said
May 17, 2012
Hi James- good on you!
A way to learn and to enjoy. I have done the Alanon Traditions alongside of AA- at the same meeting.
But of course I have not done the ACA ones!
This may give me a change to pull out the BRB and check it out.
Actually they are all the same traditions... I will be looking for a unifying factor...
cheers mate...
-D.
DavidG said
May 19, 2012
Back again, James...
The BRB has a good section on the 12 traditions.
My own view is that it is good for some group members
to know and understand the traditions. Do help deal with
conscious issues. I have observed in online groups that
there are some individuals who take on this role- it is
a learning role.
my 'header' for coming into this MIP programme came
from the Alanon 4th Concept:
"Participation is the key to harmony/unity."
So I think things work well when everyone is doing
their experience strength and hope...
I am aware that there is a wider organisation out there
which provides guidance and resources for adult children.
The service offered is invaluable. There are lines of communication.
There are also lines of communication with other 12 step groups.
The three primary groups are represented on this 12 Step Forum-
I think this is a really good thing.
In some ways the traditions are there as a backstop. But I think
they can be incorporated into day by day recovery. What the traditions do,
imo, is encourage us to review and reflect on our group life. To kick back, or as i say 'kick the can around the yard with other members'.
I belive this keeps our groups healthy, and also ourselves honest and working towards a true maturity.
Thanks heaps James... for you service, and for creating this opportunity to share...
Nakoda said
May 23, 2012
I am sort of clueless on these as well but if I rephrase "my" welfare should come first, and "my" personal recovery depends on ACA unity, it resonates for that I should but myself, my welfare, my recovery first, and that I can only accomplish that through ACA. For me Al-Anon alone is just not enough, I need the AC literature and support of other ACs to heal those wounds that are so deep and ingrained.
flopadopilus said
May 24, 2012
I knew my local Al-anon meetings were ran well when I first understood the traditions. I have heard of other meetings with issues and it comes to me if only they were practicing tradition __ things would flow better. I am glad that I have learned to keep to my side of the street where my energy is better put to use. I used to judge others on their beliefs, different opinions on things, but I eventually saw that their program is for them to use and no one persons is the same. I stopped distracting myself and got to work on my recovery program and leave others to work their own however they see fit.
-- Edited by flopadopilus on Thursday 24th of May 2012 03:50:41 AM
Casey1 said
May 24, 2012
Can you tell me what BRB is please?
DavidG said
May 25, 2012
Hi Casey, and welcome...
The BRB is the Big Red Book- it is the manual for
Adult Children of Alcoholics [and others...]
cheers,
DavidG
Casey1 said
May 25, 2012
Hi DavidG!
Thank you! Where do I find a copy of the Big Red Book? Is there access to it on this site or do I purchase it somewhere?
I'm so happy to have found this site.
Casey1 said
May 25, 2012
Thank you! There is a wealth of information there. Yeah!
-- Edited by Casey1 on Friday 25th of May 2012 08:48:14 PM
DavidG said
May 26, 2012
Hi Casey,
This forum has its own set of resources...
ACA WSO has a complete set, and access
to publications...
you will get to it by googling ACA WSO, or
http://www.adultchildren.org/
cheers,
-D.
DavidG said
Jul 6, 2012
I think it is important for us to connect with the wider ACA
community. For me, as a ACA it is important, essential for
me to talk and discuss with others, the issues that concern me.
This is not a crisis item- no, no... on the contrary... it is a
routine thing. I accessed this draft policy from the ACA
1. Our common welfare should come first, personal recovery depends on ACA unity.
I have been asked to post the twelve traditions of ACA, but I am not versed on them or what they mean, to be perfectly honest. So I welcome your opinions and discussions.
This first tradition definitely could use some explanation. Our common welfare should come first before...what? And how does our personal recovery hinge on ACA unity and what does ACA unity mean.
I have some theories on the answers, but I would like to hear others first.
Hi James- good on you!
A way to learn and to enjoy. I have done the Alanon Traditions alongside of AA- at the same meeting.
But of course I have not done the ACA ones!
This may give me a change to pull out the BRB and check it out.
Actually they are all the same traditions... I will be looking for a unifying factor...
cheers mate...
-D.
Back again, James...
The BRB has a good section on the 12 traditions.
My own view is that it is good for some group members
to know and understand the traditions. Do help deal with
conscious issues. I have observed in online groups that
there are some individuals who take on this role- it is
a learning role.
my 'header' for coming into this MIP programme came
from the Alanon 4th Concept:
"Participation is the key to harmony/unity."
So I think things work well when everyone is doing
their experience strength and hope...
I am aware that there is a wider organisation out there
which provides guidance and resources for adult children.
The service offered is invaluable. There are lines of communication.
There are also lines of communication with other 12 step groups.
The three primary groups are represented on this 12 Step Forum-
I think this is a really good thing.
In some ways the traditions are there as a backstop. But I think
they can be incorporated into day by day recovery. What the traditions do,
imo, is encourage us to review and reflect on our group life. To kick back, or as i say 'kick the can around the yard with other members'.
I belive this keeps our groups healthy, and also ourselves honest and working towards a true maturity.
Thanks heaps James... for you service, and for creating this opportunity to share...
I knew my local Al-anon meetings were ran well when I first understood the traditions. I have heard of other meetings with issues and it comes to me if only they were practicing tradition __ things would flow better. I am glad that I have learned to keep to my side of the street where my energy is better put to use. I used to judge others on their beliefs, different opinions on things, but I eventually saw that their program is for them to use and no one persons is the same. I stopped distracting myself and got to work on my recovery program and leave others to work their own however they see fit.
-- Edited by flopadopilus on Thursday 24th of May 2012 03:50:41 AM
Hi Casey, and welcome...
The BRB is the Big Red Book- it is the manual for
Adult Children of Alcoholics [and others...]
cheers,
DavidG
Hi DavidG!
Thank you! Where do I find a copy of the Big Red Book? Is there access to it on this site or do I purchase it somewhere?
I'm so happy to have found this site.
Thank you! There is a wealth of information there. Yeah!
-- Edited by Casey1 on Friday 25th of May 2012 08:48:14 PM
Hi Casey,
This forum has its own set of resources...
ACA WSO has a complete set, and access
to publications...
you will get to it by googling ACA WSO, or
http://www.adultchildren.org/
cheers,
-D.
I think it is important for us to connect with the wider ACA
community. For me, as a ACA it is important, essential for
me to talk and discuss with others, the issues that concern me.
This is not a crisis item- no, no... on the contrary... it is a
routine thing. I accessed this draft policy from the ACA
mothership... I found it inspiring...
http://www.adultchildren.org/abc/docs/Good_enough.pdf
take care, and God bless...
Da.