IN ALANON WE BELIEVE LIFE IS FOR GROWTH-PHYSICAL, EMOTIONAL AND SPIRITUAL
STEP 7
HUMBLY ASKED HIM TO REMOVE OUR SHORTCOMINGS
ONE DAY AT A TIME IN ALANON 173
THE FIRST WORD IS THE KEY TO STEP 7
MY SHARE
AGAIN CONFUSION ON HOW TO DO THIS STEP.HUMBLE WAS A WORD I COULD NOT UNDERSTAND.I THOUGHT HUMBLEMEANT GROVELING,INSIGNEFICANT AND UNIMPORTANT.THE NEXT WORD ASK I NEVER KNEW HOW TO DO THAT.in MY FOO ASKING FOR ANYTHING WAS A SURE WAY NOT TO GET IT.AS SOON AS IT WAS FOUND THAT I WANTED SOMETHING IT WAS USED AS A WEAPON TO CONTOL ME AND NEVER DELIVER IT. I LEARNED EARLY NOT TO ASK OUTRIGHT FOR ANYTHINGthat IS WHY I Developed THE ABILITY TO MANIPULATE PEOPLE AND TO BE KIND AND SWEET IN ORDER TO GET what I WANTED.SO NOW I AM HERE AT STEP 7 AND MUST FIGURE OUT HOW TO GET HUMBLE.THANK Heaven FOR SPONORS
SHE EXPLAINED HUMBLE WAS SIMPLY ACKNOWLEDGING THAT I WAS POWERLESSS Over THESE DEFECTS and THAT TRY AS I MIGHT I COULD NOT REMOVE THEMI COULD NOT CHANGE PERMANATELYI COULD CHANGE BEHAVIOR FOR A MOMENT, AN HOUR, A DAY BUT NOT FOR An EXTENDED PERIOD.IF I WAS POWERLESS THEN IT WAS Easy TO BE HUMBLEI SIMPLY RECOGNIZE THAT I CANNOT, HE CAN SO I W ILL LET HIM.ASK ING HAS BECOME EASIER SINCE PROGRAM.BEING ABLE TO CALL ALANON FOLKS FOR GUIDANCE, ASKING MY SPONSOR FOR HELP ALL TAUGHT ME THAT IT WAS SAFE TO ASK AND IF SOMEONE SAID no IT WAS NOT PERSONAL AND I WOULD BE OK.IT IS IMPORTANT TO NOTE THAT WE TRUST HP TO RECOGNIZE THE DEFECTS THAT WE HAVE THAT MUST BE REMOVED AND FOR HIM TO DO SO.I KNOW EARLY ON IN PROGRAM I WAS SO CONFUSED THAT MANY OF MY ASSETS I CONSIDEREDDEFECCTS AND MANY OF MY DEFECTS I THOUGHT OF AS ASSETS.IT IS NOW EVIDENT WHY I AM TO ASK HP TO LIFT MY DEFECTS AND NOW I AM FREE TO HUMBLY ASK GOD TO REMOVE MY SHORTCOMINGS.
Step 7 questions
If in doubt about what character defects to work on now, ask God to show you clearly what issues in your life would be improved if you would work the Sixth and Seventh Steps on them.
What are your fears about becoming changed? Write about them. Or talk about them with another person.
17. What negative behaviors or traits are lessening or have been removed?
18. What slogan could remind me to find a substitute for a negative behavior I wish to release?
19. Am I able to see challenges as opportunities to practice new character traits?
20. Am I able to laugh fondly at my mistakes and not be devastated when I am not perfect? Can I love and celebrate my humaneness while working for balance?
21. As I turn my defects over to God, are new shortcomings coming to light? If so, can I continue to ask God for help?
22. As I work Step Seven, do I see a change in my relationship with my Higher Power?
f2fmember said
Feb 10, 2013
I think to start being humble I need to have less opinions and stop concentrating on other peoples inventory. I don't know how to handle judgement and my AH taking MY inventory constantly. I'm trying to let it go.... I've worked hard recently on step 6. and have learned to pray for the willingness to be willing to heal... That is allowing me to let go of obsessing over step 4....to let go of the past. I use the slogan Progress not perfection for a reason.... My Catholic upbringing insists on a perfection I cannot maintain. I don't want to be a saint or a martyr....and thanks to getting to know my HP, I know thats ok. Whats important is that I am working towards my serenity, one day at a time. I can live this day only.....and in this day only my HP can help me be the best I can be.
hotrod said
Feb 10, 2013
Hi f2f
I to stumbled on the act of being humble and of asking. Both very hard for me after being raised in an alcoholic home
It was explained to me that I could be humble with HP by simply acknowledging that I could not do it alone and that I believed He could.
IN ALANON WE BELIEVE LIFE IS FOR GROWTH-PHYSICAL, EMOTIONAL AND SPIRITUAL
STEP 7
HUMBLY ASKED HIM TO REMOVE OUR SHORTCOMINGS
ONE DAY AT A TIME IN ALANON 173
THE FIRST WORD IS THE KEY TO STEP 7
MY SHARE
AGAIN CONFUSION ON HOW TO DO THIS STEP.HUMBLE WAS A WORD I COULD NOT UNDERSTAND.I THOUGHT HUMBLEMEANT GROVELING,INSIGNEFICANT AND UNIMPORTANT.THE NEXT WORD ASK I NEVER KNEW HOW TO DO THAT.in MY FOO ASKING FOR ANYTHING WAS A SURE WAY NOT TO GET IT.AS SOON AS IT WAS FOUND THAT I WANTED SOMETHING IT WAS USED AS A WEAPON TO CONTOL ME AND NEVER DELIVER IT. I LEARNED EARLY NOT TO ASK OUTRIGHT FOR ANYTHINGthat IS WHY I Developed THE ABILITY TO MANIPULATE PEOPLE AND TO BE KIND AND SWEET IN ORDER TO GET what I WANTED.SO NOW I AM HERE AT STEP 7 AND MUST FIGURE OUT HOW TO GET HUMBLE.THANK Heaven FOR SPONORS
SHE EXPLAINED HUMBLE WAS SIMPLY ACKNOWLEDGING THAT I WAS POWERLESSS Over THESE DEFECTS and THAT TRY AS I MIGHT I COULD NOT REMOVE THEMI COULD NOT CHANGE PERMANATELYI COULD CHANGE BEHAVIOR FOR A MOMENT, AN HOUR, A DAY BUT NOT FOR An EXTENDED PERIOD.IF I WAS POWERLESS THEN IT WAS Easy TO BE HUMBLEI SIMPLY RECOGNIZE THAT I CANNOT, HE CAN SO I W ILL LET HIM.ASK ING HAS BECOME EASIER SINCE PROGRAM.BEING ABLE TO CALL ALANON FOLKS FOR GUIDANCE, ASKING MY SPONSOR FOR HELP ALL TAUGHT ME THAT IT WAS SAFE TO ASK AND IF SOMEONE SAID no IT WAS NOT PERSONAL AND I WOULD BE OK.IT IS IMPORTANT TO NOTE THAT WE TRUST HP TO RECOGNIZE THE DEFECTS THAT WE HAVE THAT MUST BE REMOVED AND FOR HIM TO DO SO.I KNOW EARLY ON IN PROGRAM I WAS SO CONFUSED THAT MANY OF MY ASSETS I CONSIDEREDDEFECCTS AND MANY OF MY DEFECTS I THOUGHT OF AS ASSETS.IT IS NOW EVIDENT WHY I AM TO ASK HP TO LIFT MY DEFECTS AND NOW I AM FREE TO HUMBLY ASK GOD TO REMOVE MY SHORTCOMINGS.
Step 7 questions
If in doubt about what character defects to work on now, ask God to show you clearly what issues in your life would be improved if you would work the Sixth and Seventh Steps on them.
What are your fears about becoming changed? Write about them. Or talk about them with another person.
17. What negative behaviors or traits are lessening or have been removed?
18. What slogan could remind me to find a substitute for a negative behavior I wish to release?
19. Am I able to see challenges as opportunities to practice new character traits?
20. Am I able to laugh fondly at my mistakes and not be devastated when I am not perfect? Can I love and celebrate my humaneness while working for balance?
21. As I turn my defects over to God, are new shortcomings coming to light? If so, can I continue to ask God for help?
22. As I work Step Seven, do I see a change in my relationship with my Higher Power?
I don't know how to handle judgement and my AH taking MY inventory constantly. I'm trying to let it go....
I've worked hard recently on step 6. and have learned to pray for the willingness to be willing to heal...
That is allowing me to let go of obsessing over step 4....to let go of the past.
I use the slogan Progress not perfection for a reason.... My Catholic upbringing insists on a perfection I cannot maintain. I don't want to be a saint or a martyr....and thanks to getting to know my HP, I know thats ok. Whats important is that I am working towards my serenity, one day at a time.
I can live this day only.....and in this day only my HP can help me be the best I can be.
Hi f2f
I to stumbled on the act of being humble and of asking. Both very hard for me after being raised in an alcoholic home
It was explained to me that I could be humble with HP by simply acknowledging that I could not do it alone and that I believed He could.
That worked
Thanks for sharing your heart.and