Alanon 12 Steps and 12 Traditions page 1

                              IN ALANON WE BELIEVE LIFE IS FOR GROWTH

     -PHYSICAL, EMOTIONAL AND SPIRITUAL

Step 3

Made a decision to turn my will and our will and lives over to the care of God as we understood Him

Path to Recovery page 35 Working Step 3 not only changed my concept of God, it changed my life.  I found a friend who will always be there for me.    Once I understood this I had no problem turning my will over to the care of HP

MY Share

Step Three was a logical progression from my initial surrender in Step One and the acceptance of a Higher Power in Step 2

In Step 3 I  am asked  to finally accept the world, the pain, the injustice, the sickness, the uncertainty   of life and  say in my heart- "OK HP I will stop fighting for my way, my rights, my desires, my ideas and I will let it all go and accept what is !!!!!!. So that whatever My Higher Power wants I also want.    The decision to turn my will over - is what this step asks of me. THAT is ALL --make a decision   

As I reflected on this  thought I discovered I made very few decisions in my life  I mostly REACTED to life and did not thoughtfully reason things out and actually  decide that going forward this is the path I will take. Instead I jumped from one action to another this did not work then I must try something else and on and on.

. Now how to turn my will over has been revealed by working Steps 4 thru 12.

Making a decision means I have decided there is no other choice or option that I need to choose.  I have looked honestly at my options and accepted that this is the way I MUST go and live a successful life. No more waffling., questioning-- I decided to give alanon a real chance and work every part of the program to the best of my ability.   I was always concerned about turning my will over because I was afraid that HP would ask that I do something very hard that I would definitely fail at and that I would not get what I really wanted in life. I was defeated at this point of my life and knew that my way could not work and I needed to trust that HP's way, which may not be what I wanted, would be something that HP would give me the power to handle. And so I decide every day to ask for guidance so as to be able to conform my will to Gods. In reality His will for me gave me my dreams and then when each had been accomplished according to His will, He changed the direction of my life by taking my son and husband life and asking that I trust my life and career to him I had to make a complete new life alone one day at a time It has been hard at times, I had fear but HP sent a new relationship into my life where we love and respect each other, travel, enjoy life together and bot trust HP.  I know that I am not alone and know that one day at a time I can go forward.

Thanks for letting me share

Betty

Step 3 Questions

If I am unable to make this decision what hold me back?

Do I trust my HP to care for me?

How do I turn a situation over and let go of the result?

How can I stop myself from taking my will back?

How can I express Gods will in my treatment of others?

What can I do to try to see others as HP sees them?