Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character
Paths to recovery page 65 the key principle of Step 6 is readiness
My Share
Again I was not too sure how to approach this Step How do I become entirely ready to have HP remove my shortcomings?My sponsor advised me to Keep an Open Mind, attend meetings, read my literature, stay focused on myself and HP would show me clearly the result of keeping these destructive behaviors and attitudes in my life. I would feel the pain, the negative emotions and would then be willing to ask for them to be lifted in Step 7
I did see that. I lived in the past or the future never the present (where true change can occur) and I did not want to take care of myself!!! These issues were deeply ingrained within my being and I could no longer afford to "Blame" others for causing them or being responsible.HP did not disappoint me I did feel the intense pain of my holding on to anger, resentment etc. I may not have been fully responsible for the actions that caused them but being out of denial I could own the fact that these were now ingrained within me and were very hurtful. They were fully mine and the only way to accept them was to think, know and feel the pain caused by retaining the anger.
When the pain of holding on to my Way", my "Anger", "my Sadness, my Fear" was too overwhelming I became entirely ready to move to the 7th Step and ask HP to remove them.
You see I had tried many times in the past to remove these defect but my efforts never worked on the very deep level where they lived. . When I surrendered to this program I became willing to recover and use these tools to grow and change.I stopped trying to do it my way and although I loved some of my defects (my anger, my critical way) I was willing to let them go in order to grow.
That is when I surrendered my defects to HP.
I have done many other 6th steps but none have been as powerful as my first
Thanks for letting me share.
__________________
Betty
Step 6 questions
As a result of working step 5 am I glad that there is a step 6
How do I know if I am ready?
What fears block me from being entirely ready?
Am I willing to let go of all my defects If not way not?
What defects also contain assets?
IN addition to Let Go and Let God what other alanon slogans will help me with this step?
r
-- Edited by hotrod on Sunday 16th of June 2013 05:41:00 PM
Jerry F said
Jun 18, 2013
How similar our awakenings are in recovery. My mind had to be shocked awake by the fellowship and the meetings and the literature in order for me to even enterain that I had a part in the problems in my life. I had to be defenseless to the question "What was your part in it" and my sponsors version "So what did you do?....Why did you do it that way?" I wanted to stop being sick and crazy...I WANTED TO BE WELL!! DAMIT! and so I went searching...thinking...remembering...writing...looking in every nook and cranny to find out "my part in all of this insanity". I gave up the protection of my denial and "kept and open mind" and I listened, asked questions, listened more and started to go after the answers to the question my HP asked me..."So who are you?". I found good and it wasn't the good I had to identify and give up...I was looking for the stuff that got me and kept me sick and in trouble with the world around me.
I didn't have to work hard at the "were entirely ready to have God remove all of these character defects" I WAS READY if this was the process that would free me from the insanity of my disease mind, body, spirit and emotions. I didn't bother being shocked at what I found...I wasn't alone...I was with hundreds of others who had walked this walk and who would mention "yep that was me also" I was human and flawed and I could stop being flawed. When I had my first list I was entirely ready to have God or anyone else that God personally assigned to the task, to remove all of the defects and I was entirely ready not to repeat or else feel the soul sickness I was being rescued from.
I have done 6 4th steps...each one more searching and fearless. With each one I was accompanied by those of more awareness and experience and at the last inventory I was looking for the "tap root" of all of my character defects and I found it, admitted to it, owned it, accepted it...discussed it with my sponsor giving him the inventory paper with one word on it and then turning it over to the God of my understanding who sits with me now at this computer. Mahalo Al-Anon and the fellowship...and Akua always...Okay gotta go to work. With Aloha Nui ((((hugs))))
hotrod said
Jun 18, 2013
Hi Lyne
You are correct When we are willing to let go of our defects HP lifts the destructive responses that we use to protect ourselves and replaces these defects with constructive tools to use in our life. We are not left to be a victim of others. We are given powerful new tools to live by The defects just keep us stuck in destructive behavior
Keep on taking care of yourself
-- Edited by hotrod on Saturday 22nd of June 2013 03:39:45 AM
hotrod said
Jun 18, 2013
Thank You Jerry for you invaluable ESH.
It is indeed an honor the share this journey with you
Lyne said
Jun 18, 2013
I guess I'm too new at Alanon to be fully ready for Step 6. I start my F2F meetings a week from tomorrow. But my thoughts on the questions are a yes, yes, yes, I am ready for God to remove my defects. But somehow I think I have to do it and I am certainly not ready to let go of my hurt, mistrust, and resentment of my A. The reason I am not ready is because she has just started recovery and doesn't get any of it yet. I believe she is showing up at her meeting to appease me, and I'm not sure she recognizes that she needs major HELP. So I can't let my guard down because she will just hurt me and lie more. So if God can remove my defects I'm all for it. For me to voluntarily do it, I don't think I can. And in re-reading Gerry's post, it's probably all these emotions I won't let go of that are keeping me sick. Is that correct? I won't let go but it keeps me sick. Maybe I just got it? I hold onto all this garbage and I stay sick. If I could let it go I would feel better and be healthier. I think I understand this. But living with the A makes it hard. Giving up the junk would allow me to feel better but I think I'll also feel vulnerable to her. I feel like I'm running around in the same circle. Lyne
Lyne said
Jun 22, 2013
Hi Betty-I wrote a response here yesterday but I don't see it. I'll try again. I thought alot about what you said and I realize if I see my A as very, very sick, I may be able to let all the negative emotions go. This is what I will try. I know they just harm me and aren't doing any good to anyone. I'm starting my F2F meeting on Tuesday and I still can't wait to go. I appreciate what you and everyone else share, Lyne
hotrod said
Jun 22, 2013
Good Work Keep coming back Lyne
Allenwood said
Sep 4, 2024
HP did not disappoint me I did feel the intense pain of my holding on to anger, resentment etc. I may not have been fully responsible for the actions that caused them but being out of denial I could own the fact that these were now ingrained within me and were very hurtful. They were fully mine and the only way to accept them was to think, know and feel the pain caused by retaining the anger. Azure AI Fundamentals AI-900 Exam Questions
Step 6
Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character
Paths to recovery page 65 the key principle of Step 6 is readiness
My Share
Again I was not too sure how to approach this Step How do I become entirely ready to have HP remove my shortcomings? My sponsor advised me to Keep an Open Mind, attend meetings, read my literature, stay focused on myself and HP would show me clearly the result of keeping these destructive behaviors and attitudes in my life. I would feel the pain, the negative emotions and would then be willing to ask for them to be lifted in Step 7
I did see that. I lived in the past or the future never the present (where true change can occur) and I did not want to take care of myself!!! These issues were deeply ingrained within my being and I could no longer afford to "Blame" others for causing them or being responsible. HP did not disappoint me I did feel the intense pain of my holding on to anger, resentment etc. I may not have been fully responsible for the actions that caused them but being out of denial I could own the fact that these were now ingrained within me and were very hurtful. They were fully mine and the only way to accept them was to think, know and feel the pain caused by retaining the anger.
When the pain of holding on to my Way", my "Anger", "my Sadness, my Fear" was too overwhelming I became entirely ready to move to the 7th Step and ask HP to remove them.
You see I had tried many times in the past to remove these defect but my efforts never worked on the very deep level where they lived. . When I surrendered to this program I became willing to recover and use these tools to grow and change. I stopped trying to do it my way and although I loved some of my defects (my anger, my critical way) I was willing to let them go in order to grow.
That is when I surrendered my defects to HP.
I have done many other 6th steps but none have been as powerful as my first
Thanks for letting me share.
__________________
Betty
Step 6 questions
As a result of working step 5 am I glad that there is a step 6
How do I know if I am ready?
What fears block me from being entirely ready?
Am I willing to let go of all my defects If not way not?
What defects also contain assets?
IN addition to Let Go and Let God what other alanon slogans will help me with this step?
r
-- Edited by hotrod on Sunday 16th of June 2013 05:41:00 PM
How similar our awakenings are in recovery. My mind had to be shocked awake by the fellowship and the meetings and the literature in order for me to even enterain that I had a part in the problems in my life. I had to be defenseless to the question "What was your part in it" and my sponsors version "So what did you do?....Why did you do it that way?" I wanted to stop being sick and crazy...I WANTED TO BE WELL!! DAMIT! and so I went searching...thinking...remembering...writing...looking in every nook and cranny to find out "my part in all of this insanity". I gave up the protection of my denial and "kept and open mind" and I listened, asked questions, listened more and started to go after the answers to the question my HP asked me..."So who are you?". I found good and it wasn't the good I had to identify and give up...I was looking for the stuff that got me and kept me sick and in trouble with the world around me.
I didn't have to work hard at the "were entirely ready to have God remove all of these character defects" I WAS READY if this was the process that would free me from the insanity of my disease mind, body, spirit and emotions. I didn't bother being shocked at what I found...I wasn't alone...I was with hundreds of others who had walked this walk and who would mention "yep that was me also" I was human and flawed and I could stop being flawed. When I had my first list I was entirely ready to have God or anyone else that God personally assigned to the task, to remove all of the defects and I was entirely ready not to repeat or else feel the soul sickness I was being rescued from.
I have done 6 4th steps...each one more searching and fearless. With each one I was accompanied by those of more awareness and experience and at the last inventory I was looking for the "tap root" of all of my character defects and I found it, admitted to it, owned it, accepted it...discussed it with my sponsor giving him the inventory paper with one word on it and then turning it over to the God of my understanding who sits with me now at this computer. Mahalo Al-Anon and the fellowship...and Akua always...Okay gotta go to work. With Aloha Nui ((((hugs))))
Hi Lyne
You are correct When we are willing to let go of our defects HP lifts the destructive responses that we use to protect ourselves and replaces these defects with constructive tools to use in our life. We are not left to be a victim of others. We are given powerful new tools to live by The defects just keep us stuck in destructive behavior
Keep on taking care of yourself
-- Edited by hotrod on Saturday 22nd of June 2013 03:39:45 AM
Thank You Jerry for you invaluable ESH.
It is indeed an honor the share this journey with you
HP did not disappoint me I did feel the intense pain of my holding on to anger, resentment etc. I may not have been fully responsible for the actions that caused them but being out of denial I could own the fact that these were now ingrained within me and were very hurtful. They were fully mine and the only way to accept them was to think, know and feel the pain caused by retaining the anger. Azure AI Fundamentals AI-900 Exam Questions