Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it
Paths to Recovery page 102
This step is the beginning of what many people referred to as maintenance steps others call them continuous growth steps . Step 10 helps us to keep principles and tools of the previous steps working in our daily lives to maintain our serenity and continue to grow, we continue to inventory ourselves and make amends to others.
MY SHARE
I love this step!! I review the happenings of my day just before I go to sleep. I make a habit of looking at all the positive as well as negative feelings that I processed during the day. It is amazing to see all the goodness and small tiny joys that passed through my mind each day and if I did not review them at the end of the day I wouldve probably missed them. I also review any negative feelings I may have had or expressed. I search for my motives, my part in the situations, look for the lessons and then resolve to change my behavior. Ask HP for help in this instance and then let go. I must be very careful in using the word and when I am wrong promptly admitting it. Before program I always thought I was wrong admitted there was wrong when I was right apologized when I did do anything wrong so that I must be careful with that word. Today I say when I feel wrong I admit it to myself. That is enough. I know that the steps are supposed to be worked in order but when I first entered program and reviewed the steps, they looked overwhelming. However I did look at step 10 and 11 and began to work them immediately. In Step 11 I pray for HPs will and the power to carry that out that seemed simple because if HP was going to give me the power I would be willing to act. Step 10 also gave me the opportunity to stop, keep the focus on myself, review my day, become conscious of what was going on around me, see the positive that I had been missing and then also see some of the negative that I had been disregarding. This tool really helps me to work the program
Step 10 questions,
What is the purpose of step 10?
What means of taking a daily inventory is comfortable for me?
What will help me continue to apply program tools when life gets tough?
What positive traits did I exhibit? What negative traits did I exhibit today?
What characteristics surface most often in my inventory?
Why do I resist having them removed?
pp said
Dec 19, 2014
I love this step, as it does help me to keep the focus on me. I am still tempted to dip my toe into blaming others for my suffering and giving them credit when I feel content/happy. When this temptation arises I recognize it right away and begin using my al anon tools immediately.
Betty, I like what you said about admitting the wrongs to oneself. If I am blatantly wrong, I do admit it to the person I have wronged, yet I have to watch that I don't erroneously admit I am wrong when I am not. Keeping the "rightness" to myself is a challenge, too, sometimes
hotrod said
Dec 20, 2014
Dear Paula Thank you for your powerful, honest reflection on this wonderful Step.
I am glad that we are sharing the journey
pp said
Dec 20, 2014
grateful2be said
Dec 20, 2014
Although I practice Step 10 at different times throughout the day, at night when things are bothering me, I find this Step to be invaluable. It helps me deal with those things that are troubling me in an effective manner and let go of them much more easily than I can without working this step. By the next day, I am much more able to let yesterday be yesterday and start with a clean slate for the new day. I also like Step 10 because it reminds me that I am not perfect. I won't be perfect. I don't need to be perfect. And its not all up to me. I have a HP who will do for me what I can't do for myself if I'm sincerely willing to make a necessary change. I also like this Step because it helps me keep things in balance. Growing up Catholic, I was taught to examine my conscience nightly for any sin/error/omission. I wasn't taught to look at what God and I had done well together. This step encourages me to think about my HP, my self and my day differently than the way I was trained as a child. I appreciate that.
hotrod said
Dec 20, 2014
Dear Catherine, I agree that looking at the day , the positive and not so postive does help to reinforce our assets and enable us to leave yesterday in the past and move into the present day without the burden of resentments or anger.
The Sanskrit poem says it well Yesterday is but a dream and tomorrow only a vision but today well lived makes every yesterday a dream of happiness and every tomorrow a vision of hope.
I love that we are human and do not have to be perfect. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and
Step 10
Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it
Paths to Recovery page 102
This step is the beginning of what many people referred to as maintenance steps others call them continuous growth steps . Step 10 helps us to keep principles and tools of the previous steps working in our daily lives to maintain our serenity and continue to grow, we continue to inventory ourselves and make amends to others.
MY SHARE
I love this step!! I review the happenings of my day just before I go to sleep. I make a habit of looking at all the positive as well as negative feelings that I processed during the day. It is amazing to see all the goodness and small tiny joys that passed through my mind each day and if I did not review them at the end of the day I wouldve probably missed them. I also review any negative feelings I may have had or expressed. I search for my motives, my part in the situations, look for the lessons and then resolve to change my behavior. Ask HP for help in this instance and then let go. I must be very careful in using the word and when I am wrong promptly admitting it. Before program I always thought I was wrong admitted there was wrong when I was right apologized when I did do anything wrong so that I must be careful with that word. Today I say when I feel wrong I admit it to myself. That is enough. I know that the steps are supposed to be worked in order but when I first entered program and reviewed the steps, they looked overwhelming. However I did look at step 10 and 11 and began to work them immediately. In Step 11 I pray for HPs will and the power to carry that out that seemed simple because if HP was going to give me the power I would be willing to act. Step 10 also gave me the opportunity to stop, keep the focus on myself, review my day, become conscious of what was going on around me, see the positive that I had been missing and then also see some of the negative that I had been disregarding. This tool really helps me to work the program
Step 10 questions,
What is the purpose of step 10?
What means of taking a daily inventory is comfortable for me?
What will help me continue to apply program tools when life gets tough?
What positive traits did I exhibit? What negative traits did I exhibit today?
What characteristics surface most often in my inventory?
Why do I resist having them removed?
I love this step, as it does help me to keep the focus on me. I am still tempted to dip my toe into blaming others for my suffering and giving them credit when I feel content/happy. When this temptation arises I recognize it right away and begin using my al anon tools immediately.
Betty, I like what you said about admitting the wrongs to oneself. If I am blatantly wrong, I do admit it to the person I have wronged, yet I have to watch that I don't erroneously admit I am wrong when I am not. Keeping the "rightness" to myself is a challenge, too, sometimes
I am glad that we are sharing the journey
The Sanskrit poem says it well Yesterday is but a dream and tomorrow only a vision but today well lived makes every yesterday a dream of happiness and every tomorrow a vision of hope.
I love that we are human and do not have to be perfect. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and