Anonymity is the spiritual foundation of all our traditions ever reminding us to place principles above personalities.
C2C reminds me that It is important to express my ideas and it is also important to accept the outcome. I can acknowledge myself for taking the risk to speak out knowing that the results of my actions are out of my hands. Today I choose to trust the results to my HP
You're quite proper concern is the action of duty not the fruit of the action. Cast away all desire and fear for the fruits and perform your duty the Bhagavad-GITA
My Share
I truly love the principle of anonymity-as it suggests that I leave all my titles, what I think I am, my opinions outside the rooms-- and discover who I am. I honestly thought I was my opinions and my titles, but when I could no longer rely on them and had to go inward and discover my truth I was amazed .
Placing principles above personalities was also a challenge. When I went inward, I discovered that I had many principles, that I expected you to live by. However, if I liked you, or if I felt like it. I did not hold myself for you to those principles. Love how working the steps and attending meetings, as enabled me to establish a set of principles that I will live by regardless of whom I am interactingwith.
These principles are simple I will treat everyone with courtesy and respect, trust a higher power, eliminate blame, judgment and criticism from my interactions, meditate and pray on a daily basis. These have helped restore me to sanity
Tradition 12 questions
How can I use gossiping to perpetuate my resentments?
How has the tradition 12 help me to gain clarity in a situation and explore my feelings?
In what ways can I practice and an imitate without becoming invisible?
What character traits that Don't like in myself and I'm more aware of in others?
What spiritual lesson does anonymity teach me?
How can focusing on personalities hinder my spiritual growth?
Melly1248 said
Jul 6, 2015
How can I use gossiping to perpetuate my resentments?
Ah. Do this frequently. Great excuse to harp on and on about resentments. For example its very easy to take up a conversation with my mother/grandmother about my ex husband and his wife and their bizarre and wasteful spending and how he refuses to contribute to his child's own needs. The intrigue of the gossip takes their interest leaving me free to list my woes and hurts for the 17 thousandth time, with impunity.
Within al-anon, offering my opinions on the plights of others as a way to vent even more about my own woes.
Resentments are so sticky and hard to put down!
How has the tradition 12 help me to gain clarity in a situation and explore my feelings?
When I discovered that I had no need to "present myself" in al-anon or impress anyone with a facade I started to become able to accept and care about myself rather than hate the real me and try to furiously paint a better me over top. So that helped me with everything, really.
What character traits that Don't like in myself and I'm more aware of in others?
Oooh. There's a minefield.
I am repulsed by laziness in others yet am chronically lazy myself. I have zero tolerance for hyperchondria yet I am often suffering from one malady or another. I hate it when people do not listen to me yet listening is something I am only learning how to do myself.
What spiritual lesson does anonymity teach me?
For myself- to be open, trusting and in the "right now" instead of projecting how I might appear or what people might think about me. In my dealings with others, to also be with them in the "right now" instead of looking at what i have heard, who they remind me of, what I think they think or represent etc. To me it's a lesson that comes back to staying in right now.
How can focusing on personalities hinder my spiritual growth?
Forming opinions about people and wasting time on those opinions stops me from connecting with people and learning what they truly have to say. Focussing on projecting my own "personality" inhibits me from seeing myself honestly. If I cannot see myself honestly then I cannot grow at all.
Thanks for posting these Betty
hotrod said
Jul 6, 2015
Thanks for your clarity and honesty Melly as that is how this program works .
So happy to be sharing the journey with you
Tradition 12
Anonymity is the spiritual foundation of all our traditions ever reminding us to place principles above personalities.
C2C reminds me that It is important to express my ideas and it is also important to accept the outcome. I can acknowledge myself for taking the risk to speak out knowing that the results of my actions are out of my hands. Today I choose to trust the results to my HP
You're quite proper concern is the action of duty not the fruit of the action. Cast away all desire and fear for the fruits and perform your duty the Bhagavad-GITA
My Share
I truly love the principle of anonymity-as it suggests that I leave all my titles, what I think I am, my opinions outside the rooms-- and discover who I am. I honestly thought I was my opinions and my titles, but when I could no longer rely on them and had to go inward and discover my truth I was amazed .
Placing principles above personalities was also a challenge. When I went inward, I discovered that I had many principles, that I expected you to live by. However, if I liked you, or if I felt like it. I did not hold myself for you to those principles. Love how working the steps and attending meetings, as enabled me to establish a set of principles that I will live by regardless of whom I am interacting with.
These principles are simple I will treat everyone with courtesy and respect, trust a higher power, eliminate blame, judgment and criticism from my interactions, meditate and pray on a daily basis. These have helped restore me to sanity
Tradition 12 questions
How can I use gossiping to perpetuate my resentments?
How has the tradition 12 help me to gain clarity in a situation and explore my feelings?
In what ways can I practice and an imitate without becoming invisible?
What character traits that Don't like in myself and I'm more aware of in others?
What spiritual lesson does anonymity teach me?
How can focusing on personalities hinder my spiritual growth?
Ah. Do this frequently. Great excuse to harp on and on about resentments. For example its very easy to take up a conversation with my mother/grandmother about my ex husband and his wife and their bizarre and wasteful spending and how he refuses to contribute to his child's own needs. The intrigue of the gossip takes their interest leaving me free to list my woes and hurts for the 17 thousandth time, with impunity.
Within al-anon, offering my opinions on the plights of others as a way to vent even more about my own woes.
Resentments are so sticky and hard to put down!
How has the tradition 12 help me to gain clarity in a situation and explore my feelings?
When I discovered that I had no need to "present myself" in al-anon or impress anyone with a facade I started to become able to accept and care about myself rather than hate the real me and try to furiously paint a better me over top. So that helped me with everything, really.
What character traits that Don't like in myself and I'm more aware of in others?
Oooh. There's a minefield.
I am repulsed by laziness in others yet am chronically lazy myself. I have zero tolerance for hyperchondria yet I am often suffering from one malady or another. I hate it when people do not listen to me yet listening is something I am only learning how to do myself.
What spiritual lesson does anonymity teach me?
For myself- to be open, trusting and in the "right now" instead of projecting how I might appear or what people might think about me. In my dealings with others, to also be with them in the "right now" instead of looking at what i have heard, who they remind me of, what I think they think or represent etc. To me it's a lesson that comes back to staying in right now.
How can focusing on personalities hinder my spiritual growth?
Forming opinions about people and wasting time on those opinions stops me from connecting with people and learning what they truly have to say. Focussing on projecting my own "personality" inhibits me from seeing myself honestly. If I cannot see myself honestly then I cannot grow at all.
Thanks for posting these Betty
So happy to be sharing the journey with you