Admitted to God, to ourselves and another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
. C2C page 125:"Recovery is a wonderful word. It means getting something back. Today I will try to remember that, that something is me."
Quote Is from James Michener; "if a man happens to find himself. He has a mansion which he can inhabit with dignity, all the days of his life
.
My Share
Step Five is an extremely important step in the process of recovery. I had hidden from the world and myself for too long so that in taking this Step I was finally able to have the courage to present myself to the world wort's and all and trust that I would be accepted.
Once I was able to look at myself honestly and share what I found with another, I was set free. I no longer needed to blame anyone else or to feel less than because for the first time in my life I gave myself the permission to be imperfectly human. This step, restored me to sanity and to my humanity. It is important to note that this step asks for the; "exact nature of our wrongs." I had to dig deep in order to find why I did what I said what I said in most cases it was because of my ego wanting to be better than to impress others, wanting to make people like me or most of all because I felt fearful and did not know how to handle the situation
Step 5 Questions
if I have completed my fourth step, how do I feel about sharing details of my past with another?
In what areas of my past and by willing to be completely honest?
What are some of the advantages I might get from admitting my faults?
Can I see that I am not perfect? How can I quit trying to be?
With who will I share my fifth step? What qualities makes this person that I choose?
Do I have any of these qualities myself? Did I do this them under my assets?
How does my desire to perfect block me from believing someone could love me unconditionally even after hearing my first step?
In working my first step what have I discovered about the exact nature of my wrongs?
What have I discovered about fear? Honesty, trust and acceptance?
Are you in the habit of sharing yourself - who you are - with other people? When was the last time you called someone because you needed to talk about something?
Do you talk to people about what you're going through when you're going through it, or do you wait until you've resolved the incident yourself, then report it after the fact?
. The next time a big feeling strikes - hurt, fear, anger, joy, blessedness, pleasure - call another person and talk about what you're feeling while you're feeling it.
hotrod said
Nov 2, 2016
Great share on this important Step, Freetime. It is interesting upon working this Step I too discovered that I often only shared about a situaion that I had faced and handled-- Today, with program, I can share the journey easier.
Glad you are here.
Kim C said
Nov 22, 2016
If I have completed my fourth step, how do I feel about sharing the details of my past with another?
I feel good about sharing my fourth step with the right person. I have discovered some things about myself that I want to share and some things that I need to share.
In what areas of my past am I willing to be completely honest?
I feel that I am ready to be completely honest in all areas that I am aware of. I am ready to face facts.
What are some of the advantages I might get from admitting my faults?
I will grow and change in a positive way. I may discover that some of my faults are not as bad as I perceive them to be. I may also discover that some are worse and need more prayer and thought.
Can I see that I am not perfect? How can I quit trying to be?
Living with an alcoholic for 24 years has made sure I know I am not perfect. The question for me is how can I quit trying to be? I think the answer is to live in today. To get what I can done today, or to act instead of reacting. Prayer and reading on the topic are also helpful. I got my copy of C2C in the mail last week and have loved it!
With whom will I share my fifth step? What qualities makes this person that I choose?
In the absence of a group and sponsor, I have decided to share my fifth step with my sister in law. She has been a true friend for many years and lives in an alcoholic home too. The most important qualities I see in her are honesty, trustworthiness, and loyalty. I don't feel like I could ever tell her anything that would cause her not to love me.
Do I have any of these qualities myself? Did I list them under my assets?
I do have these qualities. Yes, I listed them under my assets
How does my desire to be perfect block me from believing someone could love me unconditionally even after hearing my fifth step?
I have worked for a long time to appear as if I have it all together. At least in public. It would be hard for me to believe that some people would love me after hearing my fifth step. That is why I have chosen carefully.
In working my fifth step what have I discovered about the exact nature of my wrongs?
I have discovered that many of my character defects are character assets gone wrong. God gave me an innate compassion for others and I have used it to enable and attempt to fix not only my AH but anyone else who crossed my path looking needy. In the process, I have neglected my family and my own needs.
I am also very decisive and outspoken. At some point in this process, that asset has been moved to the defect side of the page as I use it to beat people down and just in general be mean.
God has shown me my part in many situations and circumstances in my life.
What have I discovered about fear, honesty, trust, and acceptance?
I have discovered that fear will drive me to loneliness and produce more fear. Honesty may be scary for a time but always feels better that fear. Trust is something I give carefully to people but freely to God. Accepting the things I cannot change is a new thing for me. It feels good and a little scary. I am still learning to ask God when I am in a place where acceptance is the right approach instead of change.
Are you in the habit of sharing yourself - who you are - with other people? When was the last time you called someone because you needed to talk about something? Do you talk to people about what you're going through when you're going through it, or do you wait until you've resolved the incident yourself then report it after the fact?
I share myself with other people in a limited way. Mostly based of common ground. I do share my whole self with a few very close people. I do tend to call someone when I'm in the midst of a crisis. I want to talk it out. Sometimes to the extreme point of obsession.
hotrod said
Nov 22, 2016
Great share Kim. Keep on keeping on. Your growth is inspiring.
Step 5
Admitted to God, to ourselves and another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
. C2C page 125:"Recovery is a wonderful word. It means getting something back. Today I will try to remember that, that something is me."
Quote Is from James Michener; "if a man happens to find himself. He has a mansion which he can inhabit with dignity, all the days of his life
.
My Share
Step Five is an extremely important step in the process of recovery. I had hidden from the world and myself for too long so that in taking this Step I was finally able to have the courage to present myself to the world wort's and all and trust that I would be accepted.
Once I was able to look at myself honestly and share what I found with another, I was set free. I no longer needed to blame anyone else or to feel less than because for the first time in my life I gave myself the permission to be imperfectly human. This step, restored me to sanity and to my humanity. It is important to note that this step asks for the; "exact nature of our wrongs." I had to dig deep in order to find why I did what I said what I said in most cases it was because of my ego wanting to be better than to impress others, wanting to make people like me or most of all because I felt fearful and did not know how to handle the situation
Step 5 Questions
if I have completed my fourth step, how do I feel about sharing details of my past with another?
In what areas of my past and by willing to be completely honest?
What are some of the advantages I might get from admitting my faults?
Can I see that I am not perfect? How can I quit trying to be?
With who will I share my fifth step? What qualities makes this person that I choose?
Do I have any of these qualities myself? Did I do this them under my assets?
How does my desire to perfect block me from believing someone could love me unconditionally even after hearing my first step?
In working my first step what have I discovered about the exact nature of my wrongs?
What have I discovered about fear? Honesty, trust and acceptance?
Are you in the habit of sharing yourself - who you are - with other people? When was the last time you called someone because you needed to talk about something?
Do you talk to people about what you're going through when you're going through it, or do you wait until you've resolved the incident yourself, then report it after the fact?
.
The next time a big feeling strikes - hurt, fear, anger, joy, blessedness, pleasure - call another person and talk about what you're feeling while you're feeling it.
Glad you are here.
If I have completed my fourth step, how do I feel about sharing the details of my past with another?
I feel good about sharing my fourth step with the right person. I have discovered some things about myself that I want to share and some things that I need to share.
In what areas of my past am I willing to be completely honest?
I feel that I am ready to be completely honest in all areas that I am aware of. I am ready to face facts.
What are some of the advantages I might get from admitting my faults?
I will grow and change in a positive way. I may discover that some of my faults are not as bad as I perceive them to be. I may also discover that some are worse and need more prayer and thought.
Can I see that I am not perfect? How can I quit trying to be?
Living with an alcoholic for 24 years has made sure I know I am not perfect. The question for me is how can I quit trying to be? I think the answer is to live in today. To get what I can done today, or to act instead of reacting. Prayer and reading on the topic are also helpful. I got my copy of C2C in the mail last week and have loved it!
With whom will I share my fifth step? What qualities makes this person that I choose?
In the absence of a group and sponsor, I have decided to share my fifth step with my sister in law. She has been a true friend for many years and lives in an alcoholic home too. The most important qualities I see in her are honesty, trustworthiness, and loyalty. I don't feel like I could ever tell her anything that would cause her not to love me.
Do I have any of these qualities myself? Did I list them under my assets?
I do have these qualities. Yes, I listed them under my assets
How does my desire to be perfect block me from believing someone could love me unconditionally even after hearing my fifth step?
I have worked for a long time to appear as if I have it all together. At least in public. It would be hard for me to believe that some people would love me after hearing my fifth step. That is why I have chosen carefully.
In working my fifth step what have I discovered about the exact nature of my wrongs?
I have discovered that many of my character defects are character assets gone wrong. God gave me an innate compassion for others and I have used it to enable and attempt to fix not only my AH but anyone else who crossed my path looking needy. In the process, I have neglected my family and my own needs.
I am also very decisive and outspoken. At some point in this process, that asset has been moved to the defect side of the page as I use it to beat people down and just in general be mean.
God has shown me my part in many situations and circumstances in my life.
What have I discovered about fear, honesty, trust, and acceptance?
I have discovered that fear will drive me to loneliness and produce more fear. Honesty may be scary for a time but always feels better that fear. Trust is something I give carefully to people but freely to God. Accepting the things I cannot change is a new thing for me. It feels good and a little scary. I am still learning to ask God when I am in a place where acceptance is the right approach instead of change.
Are you in the habit of sharing yourself - who you are - with other people? When was the last time you called someone because you needed to talk about something? Do you talk to people about what you're going through when you're going through it, or do you wait until you've resolved the incident yourself then report it after the fact?
I share myself with other people in a limited way. Mostly based of common ground. I do share my whole self with a few very close people. I do tend to call someone when I'm in the midst of a crisis. I want to talk it out. Sometimes to the extreme point of obsession.