1. We admitted we were powerless over others - that our lives had become unmanageable.
2. Came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
3. Made a decision to turn our will and lives over to the care of God as we understood God. 4. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
5. Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being, the exact nature of our wrongs.
6. Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
7. Humbly asked God to remove our shortcomings.
8. Made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all.
9. Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
10. Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong, promptly admitted it.
11. Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood God, praying only for knowledge of God's will for us and the power to carry that out.
12. Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to other codependents, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.
DavidG said
Jul 21, 2020
I am just one of those people sitting on the CODA board.
It is really just sitting there- as a static display.
But that site, and this thread, gets looked at regularly.
We can never ever be sure what impact we can have on the lives of others.
In my journey members of our Alanon group- here in the highland valleys- decided to study
Robin Norwood's book "Women who love too much." and then they went onto Melody Beatty's
books. They stepped aside from our Alanon group for this.
I was fascinated and I studied these books too- on my own. I wasn't asked to attend the other study group.
We did not talk about codependency at our Alanon meetings at all.
However here- these combined groups were a part of John's vision.
It seems that the one person attending the NA group has left.
Issues pertaining to these groups can be bought up in the MIP Business board.
Also, as I found out the MIP Steps board was set up for each and every group.
There is provision for anyone to set up in there- and to do this work- if they want.
But my own focus there has been on the ALANON STEPS AND TRADITIONS.
Following on from the work of Betty, before she passed away.
At the moment another member has stepped up to take this one- which is really nice... ...
This spot is silent and invisible... so it requires a fair bit of goodwill to keep things going.
It is this sort of initiative that keep hope alive- all over the world!
The Twelve Steps of Co-Dependents Anonymous
1. We admitted we were powerless over others - that our lives had become unmanageable.
2. Came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
3. Made a decision to turn our will and lives over to the care of God as we understood God. 4. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
5. Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being, the exact nature of our wrongs.
6. Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
7. Humbly asked God to remove our shortcomings.
8. Made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all.
9. Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
10. Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong, promptly admitted it.
11. Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood God, praying only for knowledge of God's will for us and the power to carry that out.
12. Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to other codependents, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.
It is really just sitting there- as a static display.
But that site, and this thread, gets looked at regularly.
We can never ever be sure what impact we can have on the lives of others.
In my journey members of our Alanon group- here in the highland valleys- decided to study
Robin Norwood's book "Women who love too much." and then they went onto Melody Beatty's
books. They stepped aside from our Alanon group for this.
I was fascinated and I studied these books too- on my own. I wasn't asked to attend the other study group.
We did not talk about codependency at our Alanon meetings at all.
However here- these combined groups were a part of John's vision.
It seems that the one person attending the NA group has left.
Issues pertaining to these groups can be bought up in the MIP Business board.
Also, as I found out the MIP Steps board was set up for each and every group.
There is provision for anyone to set up in there- and to do this work- if they want.
But my own focus there has been on the ALANON STEPS AND TRADITIONS.
Following on from the work of Betty, before she passed away.
At the moment another member has stepped up to take this one- which is really nice...
...
This spot is silent and invisible... so it requires a fair bit of goodwill to keep things going.
It is this sort of initiative that keep hope alive- all over the world!