Step 10 - Continue to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.
I am so grateful to have many program friends. Most I know practice this step in the evening. I actually practice it in the morning. I am very much a morning person. I'm alert, clear headed and enjoy my mornings very much.
My practice is to think of the previous day. What am I grateful for? What might need some work? What might need to be taken to my sponsor? What might I be able to offer to others? Do I need to look at a specific previous step?
These questions allow me to continually take my own inventory and if something needs to be corrected to work on a plan of correction.
If you have a step 10 practice, I'd love to hear about it.
In gratitude, Audrey
DavidG said
Oct 3, 2020
Thanks Audrey.
There were old people in our community- who seemed to have it all together.
I found out later that they all had there joys and sorrows like everyone else.
But they had found a way through- and I did want to be like them!
Getting into Alanon served this purpose. We all had similar experiences.
We could relate and learned to trust and to bond. I began to find some balance.
Gratitude came hard for me. I had a whole heap of stuff I was not grateful for!
But I know that these old people had a place to go to. In their hearts. Some had a faith,
and some seemed to have none. But they all seemed to go beyond that. A place that I needed.
Now, today I am that old person in my community.
Thanks for getting me there, Alanon.
Thanks so much, for your service to us, Audrey. ...
Audrey said
Oct 3, 2020
What a wonderful share David,
My first sponsor and I texted our gratitude daily. Some days I just had to make something up. When she and I ended our sponsor/sponsee relationship, I chose a new gratitude partner. When she left the program, I chose a new gratitude partner. Today, I love to surprise my Ala Family with "so what are you grateful for right this very minute?" Ah the joys of being in my Ala family :)
Albion said
Oct 30, 2020
I was brought up in a faith and doing an examination of conscience was something we were encouraged to do.
In Al-anon I review my day before going to bed. Sometimes I can think I have had a really good day and then something comes back to me from earlier in the day that appears like a blemish in what was otherwise a lovely day.
Had I been really snappy when a colleague asked for help as I had enough of my own work related matters to deal with ?
Had a bit of office gossip been taking place and I had taken part ? Even if I didn't actually say anything was it a case of guilt by association ? Could I have walked away but instead stayed as I was taking some form of pleasure from it ?
These are things I have dealt with and on occasion I have gone into work the next and apologised to a colleague because of something I did the day before.
Mostly that person has no idea what I am apologising for but I set my own benchmarks and know when I have behaved in a way that wasn't nice.
I don't use it as a means to beat myself but instead to look for improvement in myself.
In the mornings I focus on my gratitude. Not always easy but before any negative thinking creeps in I do a mental list of all the many wonderful things I have in my life.
John
Audrey said
Nov 1, 2020
John,
Thank you so much for this wonderful share. I'm so glad you're here.
My "thinking" time is in the morning, where I look back at the previous day and take my inventory and see how I did. I love my morning meditation time.
Step 10 - Continue to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.
I am so grateful to have many program friends. Most I know practice this step in the evening. I actually practice it in the morning. I am very much a morning person. I'm alert, clear headed and enjoy my mornings very much.
My practice is to think of the previous day.
What am I grateful for?
What might need some work?
What might need to be taken to my sponsor?
What might I be able to offer to others?
Do I need to look at a specific previous step?
These questions allow me to continually take my own inventory and if something needs to be corrected to work on a plan of correction.
If you have a step 10 practice, I'd love to hear about it.
In gratitude,
Audrey
There were old people in our community- who seemed to have it all together.
I found out later that they all had there joys and sorrows like everyone else.
But they had found a way through- and I did want to be like them!
Getting into Alanon served this purpose. We all had similar experiences.
We could relate and learned to trust and to bond. I began to find some balance.
Gratitude came hard for me. I had a whole heap of stuff I was not grateful for!
But I know that these old people had a place to go to. In their hearts. Some had a faith,
and some seemed to have none. But they all seemed to go beyond that. A place that I needed.
Now, today I am that old person in my community.
Thanks for getting me there, Alanon.
Thanks so much, for your service to us, Audrey.
...
What a wonderful share David,
My first sponsor and I texted our gratitude daily. Some days I just had to make something up. When she and I ended our sponsor/sponsee relationship, I chose a new gratitude partner. When she left the program, I chose a new gratitude partner. Today, I love to surprise my Ala Family with "so what are you grateful for right this very minute?" Ah the joys of being in my Ala family :)
In Al-anon I review my day before going to bed. Sometimes I can think I have had a really good day and then something comes back to me from earlier in the day that appears like a blemish in what was otherwise a lovely day.
Had I been really snappy when a colleague asked for help as I had enough of my own work related matters to deal with ?
Had a bit of office gossip been taking place and I had taken part ? Even if I didn't actually say anything was it a case of guilt by association ? Could I have walked away but instead stayed as I was taking some form of pleasure from it ?
These are things I have dealt with and on occasion I have gone into work the next and apologised to a colleague because of something I did the day before.
Mostly that person has no idea what I am apologising for but I set my own benchmarks and know when I have behaved in a way that wasn't nice.
I don't use it as a means to beat myself but instead to look for improvement in myself.
In the mornings I focus on my gratitude. Not always easy but before any negative thinking creeps in I do a mental list of all the many wonderful things I have in my life.
John
John,
Thank you so much for this wonderful share. I'm so glad you're here.
My "thinking" time is in the morning, where I look back at the previous day and take my inventory and see how I did. I love my morning meditation time.
Audrey