Step Three - Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood him.
1. Am I willing to try to tun my problems over? What could help me be willing?
2. Have I had a problem making decisions in my life? Give an example.
3. If I am unable to make this decsion, what holds me back?
4. What can I do when my loved ones make decisions I don't like?
Love and hugs - Dot
dot said
Jun 25, 2006
Have I had a problem making decisions in my life?
When I came to Al-Anon my decisions were all based on what the a thought, wanted or believed. I had long ago stopped making decisions on my own feelings and felt a lot of guilt because the a sometimes felt differently about right and wrong than I did.
My sponsor told me that to start with all I had to do was be willing to make this decision - to ask my Higher Power to help me become willing and to listen to how others used this Step in their lives.
Love in Recovery - Dot
Vicky R said
Jul 17, 2006
hi Dot , I had to think a bit about this one. My decision making is alot better now partly thanks to the programme I can make one and commit myself to it. Usually with sound advice from more than one person in recovery or from my sponsor. But it's difficult sometimes as you say to feel comfortable with that when other people are interfering or disagreeing with what you've spend time and thought deciding. Or when other people keep changing their minds about what you ought to be doing when they feel they want to give advice . Rather than facilitating or being there for you or allowing you an opinion. There's alot written about interference and cliqueyness the literature ... so at least you get less of it in Alanon itself the programme recommends that we keep ourselves physically safe and surrender major decisions to life or the loving HP of our choice or whatever it is that we believe in. Rather to another person's will. Also another refreshing thing is that most people are sober in Alanon at least when they are in the meetings so that helps you to get a clearer perspective of things and the policy of non interruption allows us to try to reach our own inner guidance about what we want to do. Hope the color sticks this time I wrote it all in purple so if anything is highlighted in another color it wasn't by me ! will get onto step 5 soon , hope you're having a good holiday ,
hi Dot , I had to think a bit about this one. My decision making is alot better now partly thanks to the programme I can make one and commit myself to it. Usually with sound advice from more than one person in recovery or from my sponsor. But it's difficult sometimes as you say to feel comfortable with that when other people are interfering or disagreeing with what you've spend time and thought deciding. Or when other people keep changing their minds about what you ought to be doing when they feel they want to give advice . Rather than facilitating or being there for you or allowing you an opinion. There's alot written about interference and cliqueyness the literature ... so at least you get less of it in Alanon itself the programme recommends that we keep ourselves physically safe and surrender major decisions to life or the loving HP of our choice or whatever it is that we believe in. Rather to another person's will. Also another refreshing thing is that most people are sober in Alanon at least when they are in the meetings so that helps you to get a clearer perspective of things and the policy of non interruption allows us to try to reach our own inner guidance about what we want to do. Hope the color sticks this time I wrote it all in purple so if anything is highlighted in another color it wasn't by me ! will get onto step 5 soon , hope you're having a good holiday ,
llol Vickyr x