Step Ten Questions

dot · Senior Member

Step Ten Questions

EveB · Newbie

I am new here and have many things i do not understand. Establishing Al-Anon groups in my country is at the beginning and there is only maybe two ACoA groups that are far away from my town. I need this group very much and I am glad I found you. I hope my mail will be understanable, couse my

The one thing I have a big problem with, are my emotions. How can I standing up for myself? After I try it, i feel so bad- very guilty, shaky, nereveous,anxious... I know it is a part of my recovery-building the healthy boundaries, but i found it very difficult and unable to overcome the emotions and thoughts that come with. The other day I stood up for myself, i did not do something i was asked,couse i felt very tired and after that I felt as I should run away and never come back. Is this something you mean standing up for myself? But I want and will keep coming back, back to this board, to myself to understand better what is giong on in my mind and body, and back to others , even when I feel like this. I want to be healthy some much!!!!!!!!
Thanks for listening me. EveB

Vicky R · Senior Member

hi Dot and Eve , welcome. Yes I relate to that. Maybe it takes alot of practice to learn to stand up for yourself in different situations and some are easier than others I feel thanks for the share it's a good topic ,

llol Vickyr x

Davie · Member

Thanks EveB for your comments. I am from a large family. I am one of the youngest. We are all adults now, in our 50's but I've not become brave enough to stand up for myself with some of my older siblings. Sometimes I give myself a break, I'm gentle with myself and say I don't have to stand up unless I want. Some of my older sibs get very angry if I disagree. I mean disagree with a real attitude, belief. They feel threatoned. I don't fight every battle any more. I save my energy.
I wish you the best.

Blessed · Senior Member

Step Ten Questions

1. Pray first then open your mouth and TRUTH pops out. An Apology or asking Forgiveness
2. No, I needed to "REST." I Rested!
3. Set Boundaries. Stay away from Slippery people places and things. These may even be your own family.
4. I always need to take a look at "My Daily Inventory" from Step 10. Was I in Gods Will or Mine.

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