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Post Info TOPIC: Gurl25, Step 1 (Al-anon)


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Gurl25, Step 1 (Al-anon)


I am powerless over my sister's and my husband's addictions, I am powerless over alcohol and drugs being in my loved ones lives -- my life has become so unmanageable.

1. Do I recognize that the alcoholic is an individual with habits, characteristics and ways of reacting to daily happenings that are different from mine? I definitely do recognize the individual ways they handle life, and I find it very hard to relate to, more so in my husband's case - but I'm trying at least.

2. Am I attracted to alcoholics and other people who seem to need me to fix them? I don't feel that I'm initially attracted to them but I do definitely have the tendency to always want to help, save, or fix someone.

3. Do I trust my own feelings?
with my husband I do not, because I love him with all of my heart, but the person he becomes when he drinks - that person I really hate and I don't trust my feelings when they're like that

4. Do I know what they are? I think I do most of the time: anger, resentment, dissapointment, shame, saddness, depression


-- Edited by Gurl25 at 21:37, 2007-06-11

-- Edited by Gurl25 at 21:39, 2007-06-11

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Gosh, am I ever happy 2 b here!
Step one ~ powerless over the a

  My a-s gone, however, my being here has
enabled me to see the a behaviours I am
surrounded by.

  Today my readings are from the odaat
for - er in alanon actually. The message
from there surrounds my and a friend's
here interactions and me deciding to re-
invent me as me - my mmottooo - that
is to getoverit.

  'To overcome my faults I must first know
what they are.' p 171, and from here, I
am reinvented now. I have faults from
being a good little acoa to drunks, rage
addicts and sexual abuses, etc. Then
that not is to pretend I was coded by
the lies and learned how to lie then in
turn.

  Yucky poo - however, I am powerless.
this knowing puts the pow into power-
lessness for me, and helps me to free
me from that past, those acts and then
the reactions in turn.

  Yahoo is all I have to say about step
one. I am doing the lp (long play) version
of 28 days, the movie. I get codes of not
being honest from someone and I get
a gut level response I have to honor, I
have learned, or to pay the price of not
listening..

  The honesty is priceless and helps me
to ensure me the priceless gift of serenity
as mine to hold to, and to share with
those who are open to that sharing and
not with those having a to 'no honor'
response as their behaviour.

So gentle paths n light n love to all who
enter here. The program works if ya
work it!

Oceans of love,

getoverit
 

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