Step Nine - Made direct amends wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.

PLEASE REFER TO THE AL-ANON posting on this step as it has a very helpful definition about amends and apologies.

Further to this information I would like to add something from the Emotions Anonymous literature, paraphrasing from the book "It Works if You Work It"....an important aspect of making an amend is the careful, spiritual way in which we make them. We don't control the outcome but we 'own' our part and do it with our best intentions.

There is also a difference between owing what we are responsible for in an amend. Making sure an amend is necessary.  In some cases it is about our changed and continuously more 'sane' behavior that is an amend 'in action' too.