the Step Work board

amanda2u2 · Senior Member

the Step Work board

Stacy · Newbie

My apologies, it was not my intent to mess up the order of the steps on the boards or to step on the toes of those organizing this forum.

As I had stated, we had discussed placing the information I had here on working the steps with the q&a on the main discussion forums and it seemed like a good idea to start at number one with it as it is a different format then the one established.

Stacy

GammyRose · Member

Stacy, Glad you are here posting and I really like the Step One questions you posted. I guess it would just be better if you posted on step one below.Please keep posting , they add a lot to the board. Welcome my friend.

(((Hugs)))

GammyRose

amanda2u2 · Senior Member

hi, Stacy.... This is actually a main forum also,, just a different one. The format for all the forums has been designed by the webmaster to be based on the 12 Steps, from the various perspectives of AA, ACA, alanon and CAS. The other boards are for topical discussions and are broader in scope than this one which is specifically focussed on the Steps themselves. Beginners often take awhile to get oriented and make some mistakes in the beginning because they haven't yet learned the format of the program and group when they start taking leadership roles. John is a good guy who has been working very very hard to design and run the closest thing to a real 12 Step program online as possible,,, and is in pretty good standing with the actual 12 Step real life organizations. Attending face2face 12 Step programs that are a part of the world organizations does help to understand them and to carry over to this one, and it is recommended to all that they participate in the appropriate face2face groups whereever and whenever possible. A good group does topical sharing that is very helpful for newcomers by the 'elder statesman' who themselves were once newcomers. Newcomers have very good energy sometimes that just needs to mature and develop in the program to be able to put to its wisest use once it is learned what the programs are all about and how to be a harmonious team member.

Thanks for that desire and intention to pitch in in constructive ways,,, and we hope that you don't lose that, but that, as you grow in the traditions of the 12 Step programs, it blooms and bears much fruit.

love in recovery,

amanda

jemco518 · Newbie

amanda2u2 wrote:

hi, Stacy.... This is actually a main forum also,, just a different one. The format for all the forums has been designed by the webmaster to be based on the 12 Steps, from the various perspectives of AA, ACA, alanon and CAS. The other boards are for topical discussions and are broader in scope than this one which is specifically focussed on the Steps themselves. Beginners often take awhile to get oriented and make some mistakes in the beginning because they haven't yet learned the format of the program and group when they start taking leadership roles. John is a good guy who has been working very very hard to design and run the closest thing to a real 12 Step program online as possible,,, and is in pretty good standing with the actual 12 Step real life organizations. Attending face2face 12 Step programs that are a part of the world organizations does help to understand them and to carry over to this one, and it is recommended to all that they participate in the appropriate face2face groups whereever and whenever possible. A good group does topical sharing that is very helpful for newcomers by the 'elder statesman' who themselves were once newcomers. Newcomers have very good energy sometimes that just needs to mature and develop in the program to be able to put to its wisest use once it is learned what the programs are all about and how to be a harmonious team member. Thanks for that desire and intention to pitch in in constructive ways,,, and we hope that you don't lose that, but that, as you grow in the traditions of the 12 Step programs, it blooms and bears much fruit. love in recovery, amanda

Hi I am new to this site as well and although I would like to send out loud and boisterous kudos to everyone involved in getting it set up and keeping it going I am a little confused by this posting. As I said I am new here but I have been in Al-Anon f2f meetings for 5 years. What I am confused about is this posting feels a little harsh and even demeaning to me. If I was new to the program and someone in the meetings had said to me that

Newcomers have very good energy sometimes that just needs to mature and develop in the program to be able to put to its wisest use once it is learned what the programs are all about and how to be a harmonious team member

I would have been humiliated and embarassed and would likely never have come back. Perhaps it is only me but having heard a number of newcomers share on their first experiences of walking through the doors for the first time any perceived put down or use of condescending terminology would have sent them scurrying back to that lonely place in their lives where no one was available or willing to share their ESH.

Newcomers are the backbone of any 12 step group. Without them we could not do 12th step work. Without them a lot of us would become complacent in our journey and might just decide to ride it out with no effort. Newcomers, god bless them, come to us with questions that keep us working our program. Maybe we think we have heard them all but we will never know when the question they ask will resonate in someone else's life at that meeting....new or veteran.

Now I could be entirely wrong about the tone of this posting but it certainly struck some very "iffy" chords with me.

I think my biggest concern is that you speak about :

Beginners often take awhile to get oriented and make some mistakes in the beginning because they haven't yet learned the format of the program and group when they start taking leadership roles.

Perhaps if there was a place we could go to on this site that explained the "steps" and "traditions" of this particular site that would help those of us who are new here learn how to properly post. I am not being sarcastic here. I truly would like to know how to do a few things here such as posting, etiquette, if there is anyone regulating the posts that go on this site etc. Another suggestion I have would be to have a list of choices such as Step 1, Step 2, Step 3...Step 12, Miscellaneous, Introduce yourself etc. That way we could click on the topic we wish to discuss and there is a possibility that the site would be a little more organized and make it easier to find things.

These are just suggestions and I cannot claim to be a computer whiz so I have no idea how to set that up

Thanks for listening

Jo-Ann

Learn how the 12 Steps work. Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps of recovery together! We discuss each of the Twelve Steps In the order they are written, one step at a time, every two weeks.