in need of gudiance in getting a sponsor

BUFFALOSMOMMY · Newbie

in need of gudiance in getting a sponsor

tlcate · Veteran Member

Welcome to MIP!

Finding your first sponsor can be a bit of a challenge. What program are you in? Are you attending meetings regularly?

At first I wanted to find someone "like" me - looked like me, worked like me, drank like me . . . someone who would "understand" and co-sign my bs. Finally I realized with some guidance that I really wanted to find someone who "had what I wanted". Those people in the rooms that exhibited true recovery - the calm, understanding, non-judgemental, follow the steps kind of people. Didn't matter age, job - none of it.

Then all I had to do was walk up and say these words . . . "Would you sponsor me?".

Now - don't take "No" personally. Some folks are busy with sponsorship or don't feel ready. Move on to the next. The right one will come along.

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Welcome, please keep coming back.

Tricia

abbyal · Newbie

I was one of those people who thought I didnt need a sponsor , if mine hadnt volunteered herself at the time I was in crisis I probably still wouldnt have one . she is so invaluable to me I can only thank her for what she has done for me by doing it for others ,she listened , shook my up when i needed it , a foot in the rear occasionally but always loved and cared for me .
I stayed with her because she had what i wanted , she staying in her marriage , laughed alot and attended alot of meetings every week , where she went I went .. her fav saying was call me before you shoot .
Look for someone who has what you want ,someone who talkes about the steps , who continues to attend meetings f2f someone u feel u can trust with the real YOU. you may have to go to different meetings to find her but there is someone out there waiting to be asked . sponsors are a guide they dont tell u what to do they show us we have choices and we get to choose which way to go , if we choose the wrong solution they love us anyway. Stick with the winners is what i was told and for me those were the ones who laughed alot , mostly at them selves , who were at meeting s even after yrs of recovery they chose to stay and help others , if they went to conventions so did I ..take your time u will find who u need . good luck Louise
One thing that helped me was an oldtimmer AA said oncethat alone in his own head there was no adult supervision .. so that is not a good place to be .

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