Step 1 I am powerless over others..my life is unmanagable. I have been gone from alnon for a while..I had to come back

JC · Newbie

Step 1 I am powerless over others..my life is unmanagable. I have been gone from alnon for a while..I had to come back

JamesCT · Senior Member

I am glad you have taken the first step, JC. If you are seeking a sponsor or fellowship, please go to our AlAnon board at http://alanon.activeboard.com/. If you have questions about working an individual step, then please post them.

Davie · Member

Hi Hotrod
I've posted here before. Are you saying I should post somewhere else? I was posting regarding Step 1 on powerless to manage my life. Please advise. I am a member of ACA group. I guess I do not understand Thank you

-- Edited by Davie on Tuesday 19th of March 2013 05:47:03 AM

Davie · Member

Hi

I am a retred so to speak to online ACA/Alanon. I have found the truths of this program to continue whether I can come to meetings or not. It is so much better to come and participate.

Regarding, powerlessness and the inability to manage our lives. I wonder if I judged myself too harshly on what I could or couldn't manage. Is financial difficulty a sige of not managing right? Marital problems, problems with children? The list goes on and on. I think that how I deal with things and others when they do not go "right" is the signal I need to show me that I need help. My lack of management shows in my inability to find peace when things go wrong.

So the program, my HP has not fixed everything. But the peace and serenity I have when things go wrong (whatever that means) is the miraculous change I desire.

Here's to you and all you desire. Peace and joy in your life.

Sincerely, Davie (Gail)

hotrod · Guru

Hi Davie Welcome

This is a Step and Tradition Board and is not as busy as our Message Board If you would like to share and experience feed back please post to

AlAnon board at http://alanon.activeboard.com/.

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DavidG · Senior Member

Hi Gail,

You are welcome to attend Alanon here on the MIP board.

Here is the link to the ACA forum:

http://acoa.activeboard.com/

take care, see you there...

DavidG.

Davie · Member

thank you both

Lyne · Member

I also need help. I think it is healthy to admit this. I'm responding about step 1. I am also remarried and I used to tell people this was my first sober relationship. As time has gone on, 21 yrs now, I have discovered my spouse is drinking and lying, can go on scratch off frenzies at lotto, and has overeaten to a point that is life-threatening. My 1st sober relationship. What was I thinking? I guess I wasn't. I have to go over being powerless again and again and again. I have found a sponsor to help because what I have been doing isn't enough. Lyne

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