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johnnyb


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I recently used step 8 to prompty admit my wrongoings to my girlfriend and her   son.  As   a result I was tossed from house and living in a motel. Should I have lied?



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hotrod


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Hi 

Step 8 asks only that we make a list of the people we have harmed and become ready to make amends  This step follows the fiirst 7 that proceeded it and should have been worked with a support person.

 No you should not have lied about your situation.  If your partner could not accept the harm you spoke to her about---  that is unfortunate,  There are no guarantees that relationships will last after recovery. 



-- Edited by hotrod on Sunday 22nd of December 2013 04:54:14 AM

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johnnyb


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I am trying maybe step 9 is where you make amends. dosnt matter...im toast

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DavidG


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aww Hmmm. Hi Jack blankstare

In Step 8 we are merely willing to make amends... would it pay you to look at the second part of step 9?

Mostly here we go to a trusted third person first- before we share issues with our loved one... huh?

David G.

Alanon and ACA member.



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I agree with Betty and David...a sponsor can determine if your motives are honest and the delivery of your amends is kind and compassionate and with the best timing.



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