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JamesCT


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7. Humbly asked God to remove our shortcomings.

Let's parse this brief sentence.

Humbly -- We become so relentlessly self-reliant that we get very good at making things happen and we begin to believe we can handle anything. We develop hubris and contort our reasoning or logic to keep from admitting that we don't have things under control.

asked -- We cannot just expect help to come to us. We must seek it.

God -- Your Higher Power. If you have a problem with God per se, see the discussion of Step 2.

to remove -- Freedom. You want to be free of the maladaptive behaviors and the pain they can bring.

our -- Taking ownership. Accepting that this is us, that it is our problem and not the world's.

shortcomings. -- They're not flaws. They're fixable. Things can be made better.

This is the action step.  This is the time to ask for help.

The Beatles:

Help!

You know, I need someone!

Help!

- John Lennon and Paul McCartney



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I spent a year on the first word in step 7.

I read that is is about humility, not humiliation.



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I took a look at this step and honed in closely on humility being the key principle - someone offered me this guidance though I didn't consider myself religious, it helped me.
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JESUS: THE HUMBLE
(Matthew 5:3)

HUMILITY:
An outstanding quality of the life of Christ is his amazing humility. Why would anyone come from so high to descend so low just to rescue us from our certain destruction? Why would the Holy One stoop to wash the feet of the betrayer, the denier, and the coward?


Pride says: "Don't tell me anything. I already know it all."
Humility says: "Thanks for your advice and help."

Pride says: "I need, I want, I deserve."
Humility says: "He needs, they want, you deserve."

Pride says: "God, I am so much better than my fellow man."
Humility says: "Lord have mercy on me, a sinner."

Pride criticizes others to tear them down.
Humility praises others in order to build them up.

Pride exalts himself but God resists him.
Humility humbles himself before God and God lifts him up.

Pride says: "I can do all things."
Humility says: "I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me."

Pride says: "I want to be served."
Humility said: "I did not come to be served but to serve and to give my life as a ransom for many."

Pride says: "Look what I did."
Humility says: "See what God has done in me!"

Pride stood in the streets and shouted: "Crucify him! He became more popular than we are".
Humility, hanging on the cross, looked upward and prayed: "Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing."

Pride seeks the glory but does not find it.
Humility receives glory and honor from others without seeking it.

The difference between pride and humility is the difference between light and darkness. When "The Light" came into the world, the perfect example of humility was revealed to us.

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Bumping for this step cycle.

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