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Step 1 Al Anon

Happy new year to all who come here. I love starting over. I love new opportunities. I love new beginnings.

Step 1 - We admitted we were powerless over alcohol - that our lives had become unmanageable. 

I'd like to share some questions from Reaching For Personal Freedom

1. What keeps me holding on to the illusion that I have the power to change someone else?

In one simple word, my ego. When I first heard the word "illusion" I got angry, very angry. I was not at all willing to admit that all the control I thought I had, had been an illusion. But slowly, one person, one thought at a time, I realized that denial kept me from admitting that control absolutely was an illusion. Today, the word illusion is very much a part of my vocabulary and keeps me grounded and in reality about what I do and don't have control over.

2. How does step one change my perspective about the disease of alcoholism?

When I came into Al Anon, I hated alcohol, absolutely hated it. I was asked by a long timer why I hated it and I didn't really have an answer. The truth is I drank it from time to time. Did I really and honestly hate something I did a few times a year? Over time, I came to understand that alcohol is a liquid. I didn't hate it at all. What I strongly disliked was how alcohol affected some people. I disliked how cunning, powerful and baffling the disease was. I also came to embrace that alcoholism is what brought me to Al Anon and for that I'm grateful.

Anyone else want to answer either of these questions or share their own step one story here?

In gratitude,



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Audrey wrote:

 I also came to embrace that alcoholism is what brought me to Al Anon and for that I'm grateful.

 Whut? Me grateful...? For that! blankstare

Hi Audrey- and thanks so much for your service here. smile ...

I wanted changes this new year. And it includes changes in the role I presumed on these Mip boards.

So it is a good point in my life to dig deep. Grateful for all that hell on earth? !!!

Okay- so it is a part of our journey- a part of our healing. To not regret the past. "What does not kill us, makes us stronger."

It did kill my spirit. I was not confused- far worse than that. hmm

I was very embarrassed that my journey took so long. There was so much I had to let go of.

I am so grateful for the company- all the way along... ...every one of you people- and each and every occasion made the difference. 

Thanks. aww ...


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