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Audrey


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Concept Three - The right of decision makes effective leadership possible.

One of the questions in Paths to Recovery asks Do I ever ask someone to do a task and then try to direct the details of how it should be done? If so, how can I change this pattern?

Pre Al Anon I was very guilty of asking someone in a work situation to do something but then wanting it done my way. As a mom I was also guilty of doing that to my kids. The first step of changing this behavior was becoming aware of it. I needed to accept that there is often more than one right way to get from point A to point B. Today, I try to catch myself when I do this and then back pedal to give the other person the opportunity and dignity to do things their way.

In gratitude,

Audrey



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 smile Oh yes, we do need to delegate authority where ever possible. There are always other roles to tackle. [Notes to myself, mainly!] 

     Thanks Audrey. aww ...



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 Audrey- my share, on this topic- on the Alanon message board was closed, sadly.

             I was told to pin it up here:-

 

 Alanon Concept 3.

The right of decision makes effective leadership possible.

Basically in Alanon everyone just pitches in. Someone bring coffee- if we have coffee. [Or tea]

Someone brings the key and opens up. At our F2F meeting we select our chair on the night, usually.

In our inland valleys we rotate the chair. This is if we have enough members to do so!

We respect service at every level!

In business Concept 3 would be called an executive decision.

 

Part of Tradition 9 says that:- "Our Groups, as such, ought never be organised."

That does seem like a recipe for chaos. In our area just having enough members is enough of a worry!

But the committee who overseas the meetings- pays for the venue, buys literature, donates to assembly... etc etc.

Coming from a rural area we all have direct contact with the hierarchy- because we are small.

I sense that members big city groups have very little contact? I might be wrong.

Our minutes and literature in a cardboard box, our finances a pickle jar. Well at least it gets to be visible! 

 



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Audrey


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David,

 

Wow, wow wow.....that share just provided me an answer I was looking for.

 

thank you my friend

 

In service,

 

Audrey



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