Step One Questions

dot · Senior Member

Step One Questions

dot · Senior Member

How do I feel when I'm alone?

When I came to Al-Anon I wasn't comfortable alone. I wanted someone to talk to or if not that I had to find something to do otherwise I worried about the alcoholic and what I could do differently that would somehow make our life happier.

Now, I like myself. I've learned through the program that I'm not perfect and I don't have to be - I'm ok just as I am and where I am today. I'm busy making changes in myself everyday - with the help of my Higher Power.

What a gift the program has given me - the self esteem and love for myself to be able to live just one day at a time knowing I'm going to be ok as long as I ask my Higher Power for help each day and listen for his guidance.

Love in Recovery - Dot

wallsal55 · Member

Ooooo...ouch! I must say now that there is nothing left to change.....life is certainly peaceful, quiet... however capable of being stagnant or boring if I let it. Yes...I find it easy to take care of others easily....me nope, what's that after raising the brood? How do I feel alone? Spiritually alone. Like a fish out of water sometimes. Some days are manageable, some still are unmanageable. Then it's the Step One, Two, Three, Dance for me!

mamasan · Newbie

#1.....Ihave been trying to change the A for about 5 yrs...no luck. It makes me frustrated and what I end up with is a watered down version of the son I love.

#2that's easy for me cause I can't sleep, can't focus, feel full of fear for his saftey, and then I feel like eating...overeating....

#3 I am always caring for others. My job is caring for others and it transcends to every other place inmy life.

#4 When I getthe chance to be alone I am miserable. I do have to add here that my house is full to overfull with people and I cant remember the last time I was alone. I guess if I found myself alone I would probably leave. I work at h ome and at times it is a problem for me.

MsgBo · Newbie

1. What would happen if I stopped trying to change the alcoholic or anyone else?

At first I had trouble with "Letting go and letting God". If God was going to do something for A, why hasn't he already done it? I also wanted my HP to do things my way(make A quit drinking).

Now I know better than to tell HP how to do the job. I have backed off, and (Surprise) things have improved. Not perfect but better.

2. How do I know when my life is unmanageable?

When I stopped and actually looked at my life it became obvious that I could not manage my own life let alone A's, soooo time to let HP take over.

3. Do I take care of others easily, but find it difficult to care for myself?

Like most of us here, I went out of my way to help often at the expense of my own well being.

4. How do I feel when I'm alone

After giving it to HP, I am now more comfortable being alone. I know now I am never really alone, there is HP and a whole lot of AFG members on my side and there to support me

Recovery for me is a long term process, and I now look forward to each new day.

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