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Step Five - Admitted to God, to ourselves and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.

1. What may block me from trusting someone with my truth? Can I share these fears with another person?

2. How can telling someone else the exact nature of my wrongs enhance my ability to see myself?

3. How does my desire to be perfect block me from believing someone could love me unconditionally, even after hearing my Fifth Step?

4. What have I learned about fear? Honesty? Trust? Acceptance?

Love in Recovery - Dot

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Vicky R


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hi Dot yeah finding someone to share with that doesn't judge us is a difficult process ... but that's where it's at ,

From: Paths to Recvery pg. 55. (copyright 1997, by Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc. Limited use by express written permissio of Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc.)

''We are not looking for someone to tell us how to handle our problems , but rather for a loving witness who can provide perspective on our spiritual journey ; one who can appreciate what we are doing and how we are growing."

still the programme helps you to awaken to your growing load of responsibilities ...

llol Vickyr x




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1. What may block me from trusting someone with my truth? Can I share these fears with another person?
My past experiences with trusting someone who wasn't worthy of that trust.  In learning to trust my fellow friends in recovery, I can share that my trust has been broken and that I am afraid of trusting again. 


2. How can telling someone else the exact nature of my wrongs enhance my ability to see myself?
Sometimes admitting those wrongs can put them in perspective, see my part in the episodes of my life that have affected me greatly.  Did I contribute to some of the insanity in my home life?  At what lengths did I go to pursue my obsessions? This may help me to clarify my defects of character - to know what in me may need to be adjusted.


3. How does my desire to be perfect block me from believing someone could love me unconditionally, even after hearing my Fifth Step? This is such a great searching question - I always believe I was so unloveable, so unworthy which is probably why I chose those relationships with people who were emotionally unable to love me.  I believed I had to be perfect for you to be able to love me - I still struggle with that - accepting me as human, full of flaws, character defects, and damaged by this disease makes me imperfect - and even like that - damaged as I am - I AM LOVEABLE - thanks to this program and the love of my Higher Power.


4. What have I learned about fear? Honesty? Trust? Acceptance? Fear - that the majority of all my emotions are tied to some deep rooted fear - fear of failure, fear of pain, fear of not being accepted, fear of financially insecurity, fear of fear itself. 


Honesty - do I even know how to be honest with myself - have I justified my actions because of the actions of the alcoholics/addicts in my life for so long - can I even be honest - I want - I need to - no - I have to -


Trust - Before I can trust anyone, even myself, I must develop a trust, a simple reliance upon a power greater than myself - that is all trust is - relying on a power greater than ourselves to take care of things that our way beyond our control. 


Acceptance - I struggled so long with acceptance - because I thought acceptance meant agreement - they may begin with the same letter but that is about all they have in common.  Acceptance means simply that I accept that my Higher Power is not surprised by anything that happens in my life - He may not have "planned" for these things to occur, but He is not surprised or unprepared - He will and does have a plan.  He does not, however, have to reveal that plan to me at all times.  He promises to let me know what I need to know when I need to know it.  That is acceptance for me.


Thanks for letting me share,


Rita


 



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