Step Work

amanda2u2 · amanda2u2

from "The 12 Steps for Adult Children" "Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves" "Just as any business takes inventory of its stock, we take inventory of our lives in Step 4. With clipboard in hand, we walk down the aisles of our lives and note areas of weakness and strength. Whe...

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Step Four - Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves. 1. Am I willing to look honestly at myself? What stands in my way? 2. How am I tolerant? 3. Do I make friends easily? Why or why not? 4. In what ways am I resentful? Do I harbor grudges? Why? Love - Dot

lollyloopp · lollyloopp

Hi all! I am new here and been reading up on the step work. First, I'd like to introduce myself: I am a 28 year old married mom of 4, ages 9, 5, almost 4, and 3 weeks! I am also a professional and take pride in my accomplishments with my career. I work for a religious-based non-profit...

Carla · Carla

Hi acoa friends, Yep, step 4, 150 negative, criticizing thoughts did I find. I thought for step 4, I would make a list of fearless inventory items, so I came up with 152 negative realizations! Ha! You would think I could at least find 10 positive thoughts about myself! So, item 153 is: "a...

wille · wille

hello to all, Happy new year! The steps are so grounding and central to recovery. Heck I am still figuring out whut it means to recover. I have put up boundaries with or to some members of my family and open doors to other family members as they show their knowing to program ideolog...

pscsquint · pscsquint

Can anyone tell me if there are any meetings during the week and also during the daytime that are online? I live in Oregon and so I am PST time. Between 9:00 and 11:00 in the morning and between 2:00 and 4:00 in the afternoon would be super. Not sure how to get to the online meeting tha...

pscsquint · pscsquint

Hello, I am new to this site, and new to ACOA. There was no alcohol or drug abuse in my family. They were just so totally dysfunctional that I can identify with the Laundry List, the Problem, the traits and now am seeking the solution. I have just started to write in my journal about ever...

gsdgirl36 · gsdgirl36

This is a tough one. My A keeps telling me NOTHING is my fault, but I know that's not true.... I AM TOO CONTROLLING of others and situations In an effort to keep my life in one piece, I have become a control freak. I used to have the ability to be flexible and spontaneous, but that is gone. Everythin...

amanda2u2 · amanda2u2

from the '12 Steps and 12 Traditions' book: "Made a searching and fearless inventory of ourselves" "Creation gave us instincts for a purpose. Without them we wouldn't be complete human beings. If men and women didn't exert themselves to be secure in their persons, made no effort to harvest food...

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Step Four - Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves. From: Paths to Recovery - pg. 42 (copyright 1997, by al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc. Limited use by express written permission of Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc.) It is often said at meetings that the...

Carla · Carla

Hello Fellow Acoas, Well, I understand that you are on step 3, right? Well, here is my confusion. I was one who thought I had to earn love and approval with my deeds and my deeds were never enough, so, of course, it follows that I turned into a superachiever and everyone hated me eve...

barbara · barbara

What exactly is Step 3? I understand its a Letting Go, feeling like we have a safety net. But is it giving up obsessing over something we have no control over? or is it letting others decide the outcome?

Carla · Carla

Hi John/Oz, This would not be a proper holiday without saying thank you for all your work. It has and is making a tremendous change in my life. Thanks also for the hepful comments below. But, oh drat, how do I change my user name? Can I be toto123 instead of Carla, from whom I mor...

amanda2u2 · amanda2u2

Step 3 was the hardest of all of them for me. Trust is a big issue for me, as described in the ACoA Step 3. Having been abused in one way or another for most of my life, I trusted absolutely no one, including myself, and including God. My 'understanding' of God at that point was that he was like my father, slig...

amanda2u2 · amanda2u2

from 'The 12 Steps for Adult Children" "Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood God." "Imagine the insanity of trying to perform surgery on ourselves. At the first hint of pain from the scalpel, we would stop. Healing would never happen. It is just as ins...

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I stayed at Step Three for several years because I couldn't seem to turn anything over for very long - consequently without believing in a Higher Power I felt I was failing. Then one night at an AA/Al-Anon discussion meeting an AA friend pointed out to me that the only thing I had to do in Step Three wa...

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Step Three - Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood him. 1. How do I feel about turning my will over to a Higher Power for guidance? 2. How do I know who or what my Higher Power is? 3. How can I stop thinking, trying and considering, and actually make...

amanda2u2 · amanda2u2

from the AA '12 Steps and 12 Traditions' book: Step 3 - "Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him." "... In the first two Steps we engaged in reflection. We saw that we were powerless over alcohol, but we also perceived that faith of some kind, if only in A...

Carla · Carla

Hi all, This is a test. Which step are you on? Am new here. Actually it's really toto not carla, which is my user name, but don't know how to change it. Had trouble registering. Have done steps 1,2, 3 but got stuck on 3 cuz don't know will of HP and wanted to wipe...

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Step Three - Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to God as we understood him. From: Paths to Recovery - pg. 28 (copyright 1997, by Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc. Limited use by express written permissiom of Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc) We pften have to ta...

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	Step 4 - ACoA (Preview) from "The 12 Steps for Adult Children" "Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves" "Just as any business takes inventory of its stock, we take inventory of our lives in Step 4. With clipboard in hand, we walk down the aisles of our lives and note areas of weakness and strength. Whe...	amanda2u2	7	1819	Mar 19, 2013 by lostinoz
	Step Four - Questions (Preview) Step Four - Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves. 1. Am I willing to look honestly at myself? What stands in my way? 2. How am I tolerant? 3. Do I make friends easily? Why or why not? 4. In what ways am I resentful? Do I harbor grudges? Why? Love - Dot	dot	11	1946	Jun 14, 2013 by KayCee
	New here! Working the steps (Preview) Hi all! I am new here and been reading up on the step work. First, I'd like to introduce myself: I am a 28 year old married mom of 4, ages 9, 5, almost 4, and 3 weeks! I am also a professional and take pride in my accomplishments with my career. I work for a religious-based non-profit...	lollyloopp	10	700	Feb 10, 2006 by Pluto14
	150 negative thoughts! (Preview) Hi acoa friends, Yep, step 4, 150 negative, criticizing thoughts did I find. I thought for step 4, I would make a list of fearless inventory items, so I came up with 152 negative realizations! Ha! You would think I could at least find 10 positive thoughts about myself! So, item 153 is: "a...	Carla	4	1211	Jan 13, 2006 by wille
	It ain't 4 sissies (Preview) hello to all, Happy new year! The steps are so grounding and central to recovery. Heck I am still figuring out whut it means to recover. I have put up boundaries with or to some members of my family and open doors to other family members as they show their knowing to program ideolog...	wille	2	812	Jan 13, 2006 by wille
	Daytime ACOA meetings (Preview) Can anyone tell me if there are any meetings during the week and also during the daytime that are online? I live in Oregon and so I am PST time. Between 9:00 and 11:00 in the morning and between 2:00 and 4:00 in the afternoon would be super. Not sure how to get to the online meeting tha...	pscsquint	0	540	Jan 11, 2006 by pscsquint
	Online Meetings (Preview) Hello, I am new to this site, and new to ACOA. There was no alcohol or drug abuse in my family. They were just so totally dysfunctional that I can identify with the Laundry List, the Problem, the traits and now am seeking the solution. I have just started to write in my journal about ever...	pscsquint	6	966	Jan 12, 2006 by pscsquint
	Step 4 Inventory (Preview) This is a tough one. My A keeps telling me NOTHING is my fault, but I know that's not true.... I AM TOO CONTROLLING of others and situations In an effort to keep my life in one piece, I have become a control freak. I used to have the ability to be flexible and spontaneous, but that is gone. Everythin...	gsdgirl36	2	1634	Jan 29, 2006 by maresie
	Step 4 - AA (Preview) from the '12 Steps and 12 Traditions' book: "Made a searching and fearless inventory of ourselves" "Creation gave us instincts for a purpose. Without them we wouldn't be complete human beings. If men and women didn't exert themselves to be secure in their persons, made no effort to harvest food...	amanda2u2	1	1112	Jan 29, 2006 by maresie
	Step Four - Al-Anon (Preview) Step Four - Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves. From: Paths to Recovery - pg. 42 (copyright 1997, by al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc. Limited use by express written permission of Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc.) It is often said at meetings that the...	dot	3	1132	Jan 29, 2006 by maresie
	The Fine Line- Step 3 (Preview) Hello Fellow Acoas, Well, I understand that you are on step 3, right? Well, here is my confusion. I was one who thought I had to earn love and approval with my deeds and my deeds were never enough, so, of course, it follows that I turned into a superachiever and everyone hated me eve...	Carla	4	992	Jan 18, 2006 by lollyloopp
	Step 3 AlAnon - is it not obsessing or letting others walk over us? (Preview) What exactly is Step 3? I understand its a Letting Go, feeling like we have a safety net. But is it giving up obsessing over something we have no control over? or is it letting others decide the outcome?	barbara	4	1332	Jan 18, 2006 by lollyloopp
	reply to John: Danke! (Preview) Hi John/Oz, This would not be a proper holiday without saying thank you for all your work. It has and is making a tremendous change in my life. Thanks also for the hepful comments below. But, oh drat, how do I change my user name? Can I be toto123 instead of Carla, from whom I mor...	Carla	0	730	Jan 2, 2006 by Carla
	Step 3 shares (Preview) Step 3 was the hardest of all of them for me. Trust is a big issue for me, as described in the ACoA Step 3. Having been abused in one way or another for most of my life, I trusted absolutely no one, including myself, and including God. My 'understanding' of God at that point was that he was like my father, slig...	amanda2u2	5	1157	Jan 18, 2006 by lollyloopp
	Step 3 - ACoA (Preview) from 'The 12 Steps for Adult Children" "Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood God." "Imagine the insanity of trying to perform surgery on ourselves. At the first hint of pain from the scalpel, we would stop. Healing would never happen. It is just as ins...	amanda2u2	0	1816	Jan 2, 2006 by amanda2u2
	Getting past Step Three (Preview) I stayed at Step Three for several years because I couldn't seem to turn anything over for very long - consequently without believing in a Higher Power I felt I was failing. Then one night at an AA/Al-Anon discussion meeting an AA friend pointed out to me that the only thing I had to do in Step Three wa...	dot	3	1052	Jan 12, 2006 by bobl
	Step Three - Questions (Preview) Step Three - Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood him. 1. How do I feel about turning my will over to a Higher Power for guidance? 2. How do I know who or what my Higher Power is? 3. How can I stop thinking, trying and considering, and actually make...	dot	0	624	Jan 1, 2006 by dot
	Step 3 - AA (Preview) from the AA '12 Steps and 12 Traditions' book: Step 3 - "Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him." "... In the first two Steps we engaged in reflection. We saw that we were powerless over alcohol, but we also perceived that faith of some kind, if only in A...	amanda2u2	0	955	Dec 31, 2005 by amanda2u2
	Step ?? (Preview) Hi all, This is a test. Which step are you on? Am new here. Actually it's really toto not carla, which is my user name, but don't know how to change it. Had trouble registering. Have done steps 1,2, 3 but got stuck on 3 cuz don't know will of HP and wanted to wipe...	Carla	3	769	Dec 30, 2005 by amanda2u2
	Step Three - Al-Anon (Preview) Step Three - Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to God as we understood him. From: Paths to Recovery - pg. 28 (copyright 1997, by Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc. Limited use by express written permissiom of Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc) We pften have to ta...	dot	5	1371	Jan 6, 2006 by bobl
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