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jillian


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Need your help and support and advice regarding my husband.  His drinking  is affecting our children.  He yells, is impatient, and yet wonders why they are losing respect for him.  I too am naturally frustrated.  Am trying hard to accept Step 1 but my stomach churns when he is so nasty to the kids.  If I interfere I take the brunt of his ugly behavior.


I will not accompany him to many social events due to his drinking, and he gets mad at me for not going places with him.


Thanks for hearing me out.



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Hi jillin - Welcome - I have no kids so can't say what worked for me - but I can share with you what worked for one of my Al-Anon friends.

When the shouting started she took her kids away from the situation. She wouldn't argue with the a - she would say to the kids - lets go (for a walk - for a ride - to grandma's - for ice cream) whatever could work for you. When he realized he would be left alone he stopped shouting.

For me, the First Step was the hardest. I didn't want to be powerless but nothing I did had worked for a lot of years so I accepted the fact that I was powerless. Acceptng was one thing - actually doing was not easy because it meant changing a lot of things about me.

So keep coming back - it will get better.

Love and hugs - Dot


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