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Brand new 12 Steps just begun in December so come on in and join us!
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Hi all

Step 1 and 2, have just began if you want to join in, add your experience, or give us some hope and share what makes you strong? 

You will see step 1 (started by Tlcate) and Step 2 (started by Desirae) on the topics board, so come on in and join us today.

failte

-- Edited by failte on Tuesday 7th of December 2010 11:05:53 AM

-- Edited by failte on Tuesday 7th of December 2010 11:08:45 AM

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Hi all,
I need to continue with the steps as unfortunately my sponsor and I do not seem to be on the same page anymore. I am on step 4 but have not moved for some time with them and do not feel that I am doing them properly. We rarely discussed step work and I feel that I need to move on with the steps. I understand that we are on step two on this board at present, and it is a step I particularly like as one of the features of sobriety for me was a restoration to sanity or at least a belief that this could be so. The insanity of alcoholism was detrimental to me for some years before stopping so the calmness that sanity brings is what this step means to me at times.

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Welcome Grainne!

So glad you are here to join us!  Please feel free to read through previous posts and share with us or ask any questions.


Tricia

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It works if you work it; so work it you're worth it! So glad you are here to share with us and learn with us. keep coming back

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Good Evening.
thank you for this forum and it is a long time coming for me.  First, I want to say that this is very hard for me, just to talk about the things I experience an suffer
daily.  There has been no one to discuss this with, my parents died many years ago now. Most of my family have been through AA years ago.  They don't seem to want to revisit those mad days.  I am just one living in the world of an alcoholic. I am not a drinker. Because "i know" I must never go there.  My Dad was an AA leader once.
The first step is acknowledge I am powerless over this addiction my spouse has..
I have given in to my higher power to say, Im done. You take over. I cant do it.
I open my bible up, dust it off and read two pages to myself.  no longer do I sleep fitfully in anger over drunken arguements, his mudslinging, or foolishness running through my head.  I sleep better.  Peacefully.  Thanks.  I rest in that step for now.
New challenges arrive daily, instead of anger, I get busy doing good things.  It helps.  Letting go is the hardest.  The watchmen here just feels numb over his bad choices. I experience alot of his raw and crude emotions in a short period of time, happy, sad, confusion, anger, circling all around me in quick time. I used to get so caught up in it...now i know none is real.  Thats all.  Goodnight. May you sleep in peace tonight.

-- Edited by sarie on Tuesday 14th of December 2010 04:56:12 AM

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Sara welcome, and thanks for sharing, remember the parable where Jesus is calm in the storm? that really helped me to cope with the torrents and raging storms in my life, when I couldnt see through the mist or hear because of the noise of the waves crashing, when I got soaked in disapointments and hurts, and when we continuoulsy hit rocks and sandbanks, and yet Jesus slept peacefully through all of that.

someone once said to me to remember the saying "Be still and know that I am God" and what it said to me was that when these storms are raging, God is still, he doesnt change, though everything around us is changing and chaotic, he is still and peaceful, he is there to approach, I try to go to him at that place where he is still, and waiting for me, my rock, remember he lifted us above stormy waters onto a rock of safety, god bless you,

failte

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Thanks so much for your reply. Yes, actually a reminder of this is on the Christmas Cards I bought for the pretty pine tree with snow on them. I like that very much, that saying.

What I look forward to this christmas, is that he wont drink while we have company.
It takes him a couple days to calm down, but with his gastritis kicking in pretty good
the rest from it will do good. I wont look forward though, but be still where I am now.

God bless Failte.

ps. how do i get that signiture out of my profile? its not a real name, but I dont like it.

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Hi Sarie

try going into user details at the top right hand corner and see if it will allow you to edit your user name? am relatively new on here so not too sure myself, wishing you a peaceful Christmas, God bless you!

failte

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Hi there,
I just registered here on the step board. Do we have a group that is currently discussing the first 2 steps? I will do some more surfing here... but since I don't yet have a sponsor who can work with me on the steps I'm ready to just take a go at it here and on my own. I'm working every angle I can to manage this insidious disease and just knowing I can come here when I can't get to a meeting or even after I have already been to a meeting is amazing. The internet is a great thing (sometimes!) wink.gif

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me too new at this on line stuff.. No ACA meetings in my area to close.. thought i would give this a try.. I have attended other 12 step meetings such as alanon.. Looking for people that are struggling with the "Laundry list" issues... But want to be in solution of working the steps... Any pointers would be greatly appreciated..





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Hi My name is Rachael,
After being two years clean, I relapsed , I am not sure why, perhaps I was just overwhelmed by circumstances, or I did not take the steps as seriously as I should have, I just don't know, but I am working very hard to find out why..this board is just one way that I am working to find out the  reason for my relapse and I am seriously attending my meetings, I really appreciate this board being available to me, I know that as an addict, the more support that I have the easier it will be to stay in recovery, but I also know that staying clean is never easy


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Hello

Glad that you could join us here.  You know i have read that sometimes three's a charm.  Also, I don't know your faith backround, but there is great power in the Word.  Reading it every day brings heaven to you, so to give you much strength.
I do hope, that you stay with us.  then  help  us.

God is within us, around us, every where. 

Cme on back and tell us how your doing.

All the Best.

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Its been awhile, I have just been reading alot, an I heard some good news this month. My dearest friend tells me her husband has now been sober and without drugs for over 60 days now.  He seems to be well on his way. This is his third try.
I do believe, he is on his way to perm sobriety.   AA takes up alot of his time, but its worth it to her.  Im so happy.

Ok..I guess this step of Letting go is like the toughest of all and I might be stuck in this step awhile.  The thing is, I think I need to be stuck in this step awhile?  When your married as long as I have been married, its tough.  I dont even know what Im supposed to be doing with it.  I got busy, but only to be reigned in by him.  NO..you have stay with me (watch me kill myself)  Misery loves company. ?  I am also not too sure how to deal with that.  Balance I guess. 

there is no answer to why a person gets hooked on the alcohol, but then there isnt a warning on the bottle either. Caution, continuous use may cause severe addiction, and health issues.  Im sure if every young person today would read this, they might think twice.  I dont know.  Good people from all walks of life get caught in this trap, thinking they can control this, when eventually like a lasso, it controls you.  They never see it coming.  Sad.

Another time, another night. 

Sarie



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Hi Sarie,
I have a great deal going for me, for over a year I have been seeing this guy who is very religious,  after my relapse, he asked me to marry him, a little over a month ago, we tied the knot, He really does support me in my recovery, in fact, he has downloaded recovery speakers, and we listen to them together, and at least once a week we go to meetings together ..thanks for the response.


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where do i find the topics board i am new to site?



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Im so glad to hear that you have been blessed with a helper. You know, I don't know how this AA works, but Im pretty sure that it does for millions of people. I guess its the answer.

When I first came here, I thought this was for family members that live with alcoholics only.
But I see that its a combination? I dont know.

If I am in the wrong area, someone let me know.


Thanks.
Sarie

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This was my share at my Al-anon meeting this morning... it was really a lightbulb moment for me and I am posting it in hopes that someone else may be as inspired as I was.
<Desirae> first... thank you all for being here
<Desirae> every time I log into a meeting I am so grateful
<Desirae> this morning I was thinking about  the 12 steps as a whole
<Desirae> when I came to Al-anon
<Desirae> I took the 12 steps the wrong way
<Desirae> I thought of them more along the lines of the 10 commandments
<Desirae> like I had to accomplish them all... all the time 
<Desirae> I don't know how to explain it other than that...lol 
<Desirae> but in talking to a fellow al-a-sister :) 
<Desirae> I was informed how importantly it is to follow them and really change your life with each step 
<Desirae> from the top
<Desirae> taking the first step... (I have learned)
<Desirae> is mot a mat5ter of reading or saying the words "admitted we were powerless..."
<Desirae> but believing and impressing them so deeply
<Desirae> on our conciousness that 
<Desirae> admitting it becomes
<Desirae> established as our way of thinking and feeling 
<Desirae> someone said to me "fake it till you make it"... and I lol
<Desirae> but like an earlier sharer (idk who)
<Desirae> said
<Desirae> her sponsor is inspiring her to take one moment at a time
<Desirae> for 20 days (is that what it was)
<Desirae> and it will instinctually become a habit
<Desirae> I've heard that somewhere else before
<Desirae> and I did just that
<Desirae> I told myself that I am going to admit that I was powerless
<Desirae> and at first I still didn't believe it
<Desirae> but eventually as I came back
<Desirae> and got hit with bombshell after bombshell of esh (
<Desirae> ^esperience/strength/hope
<Desirae> it the shairs that I read
<Desirae> I had a lightbulb moment
<Desirae> and to my surprise
<Desirae> I really was powerless over alcohol
<Desirae> that is when I moved on to step two...
<Desirae> waited for the lightbulb moment...ding!... I get it moment
<Desirae> that I moved on to step 3
<Desirae> and now stuck on step 4
<Desirae> and it makes me proud of myself again
<Desirae> to know that have the willpower to accept the things I cannot change 
<Desirae> and actually move on to take care of me
<Desirae> but step 4 it is... and I been told, that for every negative thought in this process that I have... to think of a positive one
<Desirae> before I move on to the next thought
<Desirae> my words may not be coming out clearly to you guys this morning
<Desirae> but they sure are filling in the blanks for me...lol
<Desirae> thank you for letting me ramble
<Desirae> done

 



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Thank you Des for your thoughts. You are each teaching all of us what it means to be addicted, yet I don't read anything that relates here to al anon people. People that live with alcohol or drug abusers. Is there a place for that or are we all mixed together? Failte?

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Falite... I think it is quite a mix around here. I regularily attend online al-anon meetings at www.12stepforums.net

I currently live with my husband who is an active alcoholic and learning how to detach with love and not abandonment at this time. Yet, I am also a sober methadone/opiod addict. I love a mixed crowd but some don't. I also have a sight at www.dailystrength.org  (I go by dezyre1980) that has truely been a blessing. It is easier for me to find specific help and understanding for certain things htere... there is public support groups for things I have never even heard of and more. I urge you to check it out.

Peace to you

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Just join this step forum. What step are we on?

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