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hotrod


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 STEP 7

HUMBLY ASKED HIM TO REMOVE OUR SHORTCOMINGS

Paths to recovery page 72

On the surface Step 7 looks fairly simple.In admitting we need HPs help to remove our shortcomings, this does not mean inferiority, weakness or submission that would mean we are still resisting our need for help

When we are humble we are completely ready to receive Gods help knowing without it we cannot proceed further. Humility is a state of strength.

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I am working Step 7 again. In Step 6 I did become entirely ready to have HP remove my many shortcomings. I saw how much pain my anger, resentment, self pity and fear caused ME. I also saw how judging others and, gossiping and blaming everyone kept me isolated and angry all the time. I slowly developed new coping tools so that I was acting in a positive fashion and not reacting with my old defective tools. I wanted these all defensive tools lifted and humbly ask my HP each morning to remove them. One day I awoke and the pain of the anger and resentments were gone never to return Thank you HP.

I am now doing another round of the steps and am again peeling the onion a bit deeper and am at the place where I have to again trust that HP will free me from my new defects that of being always wanting to be right, entitled to be sad (my son died after all), entitled to be mean and on and on. I am again asking HP to help. I cannot change me I can pick up my wonderful alanon tools and go forth and know HP will remove them in His time

I am so grateful for this program

On to Step 8 making that list of all that I have harmed. I intend to place myself on the top of the list and make direct amends to myself for all the negative things I have told myself for so many years.

 

 

Step 7 Questions

What defects am I ready to have removed?

Am I ready to ask God to remove my shortcomings?

What can I do to cooperate with my HP to be ready to have my defects removed?

What positive changes can I make in myself?

What can I do this week to practice a positive trait?

What slogan can help me to release a negative trait that I would like to release?

As I work Step 8 do I sense a changing my relationship with my HP?

 

 



-- Edited by hotrod on Saturday 29th of June 2013 05:12:29 AM

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smile As i keep going to meetings I realise I need a routine, and a way of soaking in the sharing of others. It improves my bonding, along with caring detachment.

Sometimes issues emerge that I can't take directly into a meeting. Do I do the steps all over again? Well this time I go back to the "sorry" steps and check that out.

Just recently I learned that Step 7 is about humility, not humiliation. Our HP loves and cares for all of us. What has come up for me is that i have applied for a bursary. Not sure if I will get an interview. But I have to be prepared, just in case.

Just tonight I looked at barriers to this- my attitudes. I may have to sit in a room and convince the panel that i am the one for the award. I need to be honest and humble. And relaxed.

In Alanon my issue is that I missed out on opportunities because of my family background. Some things were my own stupid fault- but not all, of course.

I can apply the serenity prayer to this, and then the steps.

I know that I have a big advantage because I can sit in the rooms along with people I have never had to hide from, with people who love and respect me.

I feel that I deserve this break- if it comes to that.

 

What defects am I ready to have removed?

Anger, impatience [with some good examples].

Am I ready to ask God to remove my shortcomings?

Yes.

What can I do to cooperate with my HP to be ready to have my defects removed?

Be patient, listen, wait and be ready to act from faith.

What positive changes can I make in myself?

Be more in the moment, day by day...

What can I do this week to practice a positive trait?

Hum, look outwards to the sky sometimes, prepare for changes in my life, and my routine.

What slogan can help me to release a negative trait that I would like to release?

Progress, not perfection...

As I work Step 8 do I sense a changing my relationship with my HP?

Moving closer to the will of our HP, and learning and trusting to act on that.

 

Thanks Betty and y'all... smile

DavidG.

 

 



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Dear David

What a humble powerful share.  Thank You for being here and sharing with such widsom and honesty.

  Good luck on the award. 



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