Stepwork

Learn how the 12 Steps work. Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps of recovery together! We discuss each of the Twelve Steps In the order they are written, one step at a time, every two weeks.

Members Login
Username 
 
Password 
    Remember Me  
 
Miracles In Progress 12 Step Recovery Forums -> Step Work -> Step Work -> Step 10 for ACoA
Post Info TOPIC: Step 10 for ACoA
JamesCT


Senior Member

Status: Offline
Posts: 181
Date:
Step 10 for ACoA
Permalink  

10. Continued to take personal inventory and, when we were wrong, promptly admitted it.

In·san·it·y

1. Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result

-- Old joke

In computer programming, while in a logic loop, a way to exit the loop is through a break statement, where there is a change of condition that makes the loop stop.  Step 10 is our break statement, where we break out of the loop of damaging caused by our old behaviors by handling the present differently than the past, with new, adaptive behaviors.

We have a new tool, mindfulness, to be aware of what we're doing and stopping ourselves before we put ourselves back in the hole we just got out of.

It's wonderful we have a way out.  Let's take it.



-- Edited by JamesCT on Monday 20th of January 2014 07:24:44 PM



-- Edited by JamesCT on Monday 20th of January 2014 07:25:08 PM



-- Edited by JamesCT on Monday 20th of January 2014 07:25:26 PM

__________________

ESH (Experience, Strength, and Hope) for ACoA may be shared at http://acoa.activeboard.com .
Tasha


Member

Status: Offline
Posts: 12
Date:
Permalink  

I relate this straight back to step 3. I have to use these 2 steps together - and all the others can come in handy for this step too! I need to check myself and figure out what character defect has it's thumb squishing me down... then make it right. I grow the most when I'm able to throw myself under the buss for the greater good in the light of the spirit - busting up my ego and allowing the victim freedom. Sometimes that victim is me - sometimes others. If I see the situation honestly and speak honestly - there is release from living the life from the stand point of a victim and I become a responsible adult in today. Sometimes I need help to find the truth, but that is what prayer and support from my fellows is perfect for! Thanks James

__________________
Tasha
Sabin


Member

Status: Offline
Posts: 13
Date:
Permalink  

This step is something I try to work on, promptly recognising when old habits  due to thinking are at play. For me I recognise I am ok when I share at a meeting honestly and openly free from the 'voice in my head that says no say nothing' that is an old habit.  Not participating in life my life and blaming others for my fear my pain and my frustration. I can see my part in things so much clearer now. Failure, useless ,no good are labels that do not apply - when they come to mind which they do I give them no power I can now more readily see them as old programming by sick people that I took to be the truth about me , it so is not the truth, I am a  wonderful human being , I need to remember that it feels like the truth today.



__________________
Page 1 of 1  sorted by
 
Quick Reply

Please log in to post quick replies.
Miracles In Progress 12 Step Recovery Forums -> Step Work -> Step Work -> Step 10 for ACoA
Tweet this page Post to Digg Post to Del.icio.us

Alcoholics Anonymous (Big Book)

Al-Anon

Courage to Change

The 12 Steps 
For Adult Children

Miracles In Progress 12 Step Recovery Forums
Recovery Book Store
http://www.12stepforums.net/books.html

All Books in our bookstore are recovery related books, please visit the store and make a purchase for yourself or someone you want to shine some love on!

Alcoholics Anonymous Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions

 

 

Daily Affirmations for Adult Childern

When you buy a book you are helping support Miracles In Progress 12 Step Recovery Forums

We have over 100 recovery books in our bookstore which is affiliated with Amazon.com.  The fastest, safest and easiest way to get your new reading material sent directly to you.