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JamesCT


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5. Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.

This morning, I woke up with this feeling
I didn't know how to deal with
and so I just decided to myself
I'd hide it to myself and never talk about it.

from the song "I Think I Love You" written by Tony Romeo, performed by David Cassidy

While not talking about something doesn't make the reality of it go away, it does allow you to pretend to yourself that it isn't real.  One of the things you're striving for in recovery is honesty to self.  And so it's time to talk about it.  It's time to say what was done to you, time to say what you've been doing because of it, and time to admit that you hurt people in the process.

Part of recovery is to tell someone else, to be free of the secrets and the shame from carrying secrets.  You're trying to hand this over to your Higher Power.  But first you have to be honest and you have to make it real by telling someone else.

When you do this step, make sure you're at ease with the person hearing your 5th step.  If you'd rather it be a different party than your sponsor, you and your sponsor can work that out.  But find someone to hear what you have to say.



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flopadopilus


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Steps four and five took me a lot longer to get through then the other steps and I needed a live in person sponsor and a workbook to get my head through how to manage it. Now that I have gotten through it, I feel cleansed and free. I know I am jumping in later here, but I want to say how important working these steps have become to being the healthier version of me that I am now!

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FLOP,

"Recovery isn't winning, it's not playing" and "Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional"

F.E.A.R. = false evidence appearing real

INSANITY = doing the same thing over nad over again and expecting different results.
JamesCT


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flopadopilus wrote:

Steps four and five took me a lot longer to get through then the other steps and I needed a live in person sponsor and a workbook to get my head through how to manage it. Now that I have gotten through it, I feel cleansed and free. I know I am jumping in later here, but I want to say how important working these steps have become to being the healthier version of me that I am now!

It's never too late to share good news.  Thanks for posting this.



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Bumping for a new round of steps.

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I think I spent more time procrastinating doing step 4 than I actually spent doing it. Once I started it flowed pretty good although I don't have a lot of memories of growing up and my memory continues to be poor as an adult so I am going to consider this a working step. As part of my Step 5 process I am putting my step 4 steps upon my blog as well as here. I also have found a temporary sponsor, we say temporary because he is male and I am looking for a female one. I have sent him the link to blog admission, not sure, he may want to do a live chat thing which sounds more terrifying to me. I have counselling tmo I think I am going to bring it there as well and read it to her.

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