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hotrod


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Step 10

Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.

 

Step 10 suggests an honest appraisal of ourselves on a daily basis. This step reminds us that we are human and are likely to make mistakes. In taking a daily inventory of our actions and behavior, we are able to free ourselves from the unnecessary burden of misplaced guilt and shame.

Step 10 also encourages us to make amends promptly when we were wrong. In making amends quickly, we can prevent or minimize problems that might otherwise become worse. We discover that working a daily step 10 can strengthen us to space our lives with courage and confidence.

Uncover discover and discard are the keywords to understanding the step

My share

How wonderful this program truly is! I have dealt with the wreckage of the past and have developed new constructive tools to live by but Im still human.  Al-Anon acknowledges this fact and asks that I reflect on my behavior, my thoughts, my motives  my actions each day in an effort to live a life free from guilt and shame. The step askss that I look at my day, see how I acted and behaved and evaluate if I need to make and amend to anyone. Quite  simple and straightforward. The step keeps me current and I do not have to worry about ancient history any longer. What a gift!!

Step 10 questions

 

How does working step 10 on the daily basis improve my emotional well-being?

What feelings or behaviors make me aware that a character defect continues to affect me?

How can I use step 10 to increase my awareness without applying negative judgment?

How can I remind myself to make step 10 a part of my daily routine?

How can I recognize when Im harming myself would feelings of resentment or fear?

How does step 10 help me to become aware of behaviors and attitudes that I did not recognize previously?

 

 



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Thank you for this Step study.  I'm grateful to be here.

Step Ten is a critical a Step for me.  It's what keeps me from slipping back into old behaviors.  By checking in with myself and my HP daily, I am better able to stay strong in working my program.  It helps keep things from spiraling out of control.  It's scary how quickly the insanity can return if I get lazy working my program.

When I take a daily inventory, I focus on the four M's because they are my downfall: managing, manipulating, mothering and martyrdom.  By regularly taking a personal inventory in these areas, I can see where I'm growing and where I need to work harder.  

Right now I'm backsliding into martyrdom.  I'm letting my resentments cast me in a victim role.  This is serving no good purpose and is only making me sicker.  Because I'm aware of this, I can make a plan to address it.  I need to deal with my resentments by setting stronger boundaries and learning to detach.  If I can let go and let God - and emotionally detach from my husband - I can step out of the victim role.  I can stop feeling like a martyr if I pick up some Al Anon tools.

Taking a regular daily inventory also helps me see patterns in my behavior.  Sometimes I'm not really aware that I'm doing something until I start noticing it over and over again.

Step Ten is how I stay on top of my defects.  I believe strongly that it's one of the Steps that can be done out of order.  I practiced taking a daily inventory even before I tackled my big one in Step Four.

Thank you for listening.  :)

BeingStill

 



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Dear Being Still, Thank you so much for your clarity and insightful ESH. I too find this Step to be crucial in my daily recovery practice. I am glad you are here.



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Step 10 has helped me keep the focus on me in a healthy way.  When I feel out of sorts, first I identify my feelings and accept them, I then review Halt and when I have a conflict with someone I look at my part and make amends, if needed.  Before al anon I overly blamed me, overly blamed others and overly blamed my circumstances, leaving me disempowered and confused. Step 10 is freeing and helps me to begin fresh.



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Dear Paula Great insight into this Step and our ability to free ourslves from negative self talk. I find this Step very powerful and use it each night.
Thanks for your ESH.

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Hi All, my home group is a Step Group. Im in the Chair for the next 3 weeks, great that i could pop in and have a look at how others are working Step 10....will pop in again sometime xx ty xx

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Welcome Des I love Step meetings Why not share your thoughts here as well.

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I am working on my fears of lonliness and fears of financial insecurity. Relying on my HP, that if my heart is in the right place, he will never abandon me. Managing my emotions by remembering why I have them helps me to keep those fears in check. I believe that for the most part I have them because, for years I allowed AH to threaten them for me, not realizing that the disease was working on me through him, in an attempt to control me. As I have worked through the Al Anon steps and program I DO realize that this was the disease process and maintain that thought process daily. But I find that I still carry some fears still.

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Daily working this step helped me to identify any negative activity I was still engaged in (that hurt me) own it to myself, and look for a positive way to replace it. Keep up the good work Debbie.

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