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Post Info TOPIC: Alanon Step 2 (1-31-2019)


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Alanon Step 2 (1-31-2019)


Step Two:  Came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity
 
C2C page307 the arrival of faithin my life has been a gradual process. This process continues and grow stronger each day. I keep myself open to it
Oliver Wendell Holmes states; "I find the great things in this world is not so much where we stand but in what direction we will are moving .."
 
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When I first entered program my concept of a power greater than myself, was overwhelming and disconcerting. I could never taken this trusting a power that I acknowledged at that time. In order for me to work step two, I first placed. The Al-Anon program and the meetings. As the power greater than myself. That worked wonderfully. Slowly but surely as they kept coming back, tools and the principles of this program, such as prayer and meditation. I found that the concept of my higher power and change greatly. I could see and feel spiritual guidance of this loving, compassionate power and regularly was willing to turn my will and my life over to it.
How grateful I am for this Step! It is here that I found a loving power greater than myself that I could trust.
 
 
 
 
Step two questions

what is my concept of a higher power at this moment?
 
What do I hope to gain from accepting the concept of power greater than myself?
 
Do I sense spiritual guidance in my life? Explain
 
What does let go and let God mean to me?

What to sanity mean to me?
 
Have I allowed the alcoholic situation to become my higher Power?
 
 
 
 
 
 

 

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Thank you Betty for your service! Step 2 gave me cause for pause big time. Simply because I was raised with organized religion, and really struggled with the teachings, the practices, my own failings, etc. As with most things in life, as the disease swirled around me, I over-complicated everything and got 'stuck' often.

For me, I simply had to break down the step as written into manageable chunks of action. "Came to believe that a power great than ourselves could restore us to sanity." I started with the back end first as I was in huge denial about who was actually insane.

My distorted thinking suggested I was sane and my A(s) were the insane ones. As I explored Al-Anon, and listened to others, trying to keep an open mind, it became more clear that many of my actions, reactions, words, and thoughts were indeed 'over the top' crazy. I had to realize that it's insane to believe the actions of another directly affect who I am, who I should be, etc. It was insane for me to expect rational behavior from those who were diseased with alcoholism. It was insane for me to assume life should be pain-free, fairy-tale-esq, etc.

Once I could own/admit/embrace/accept my insanity, I considered the front part of this step. I had a huge block in the concept of a HP. I had rejected my religious upbringing a long while before and felt a part from any concept of God, HP, etc. Others who came before suggested I just start with the first three words - Come to Believe. They were asking me to put blind faith in just believing I was not the end all/be all in my life - there were other forces at play beyond myself.

I too leaned into the literature, the group, the meetings, etc. I finally adopted the concept of Good Orderly Direction as my HP. By practicing what others suggested as well as working to focus on me and my needs, doing the next right things gave me peace - even if just for short amounts of time.

As I stayed diligent in practicing this program, I came to realize that many of my personal beliefs and conceptions about the God of my youth, organized religion and my 'resentments' were also a bit 'insane'. Over time, as my mind cleared, I came to believe and understand that I am loved by my creator (whom I call God now), and I have free will....I can choose to accept a higher power just as easily as I had rejected that in my youth. I do believe also that my creator wants me to be happy, joyous and free and all that stands between me and that is my own ego and self-will.

My accepting and embracing a power greater than I, a void has been filled in my heart. I no longer wonder if I will survive the affects of this disease - I am confident that no matter what is happening around me, I will be OK and I am not alone. I am willing each day to own my humanism, and to seek direction and guidance from a power great than I as this practice has served me well in recovery.

Let Go and Let God has allowed me to retreat from the front lines and the war. Before recovery, I really felt I had some level of control over others - what they did, when they did it, how it affected me, etc. With recovery, I know today that I have power over how I allow people, places and things to affect me and where I plant myself. Beyond that, my best course of action is to have the dignity and empathy to let others travel their journey in their own time/way. When I throw up block-aids, I am back to 'self-will' and am hurting self and others.

There is no doubt that this disease and those I love with it had become my HP before recovery. I spent most waking hours (and possibly sleeping hours) obsessing over them, a solution, a fix, a ............................. Recovery gave me the tools to not have to live like that any longer. I've heard many times that what we fixate on becomes our HP - I do believe that to be true today.

Sanity for me is an empowering understanding and practice of doing the next right thing no matter what's going on around me. Sanity suggests I don't take on the problems of the world, nor do I spend countless hours doing for others what they can do for themselves. Sanity means I wake up with a peaceful mind and a restful heart. For me, sanity has been restored and I am grateful!! I no longer expect perfection from anyone at any time - especially myself!

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**IAH(( Thanks so very much for sharing your wisdom on this important step. I am sure it is a stumbling block for many(including myself) Love that this is a Spiritual program

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IAH, I am new to the program and that resonated with me in ways you can not even imagine. Thank you so much.



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Syd888 - welcome to Al-Anon and welcome to our Step Work Board! Please be gentle with yourself as you begin this journey and know that you are not alone!

We also have a message board if you've not found it yet.   I don't know how to make a link here, but the address is at:

https://alanon.activeboard.com/

Just cut/paste into your browser and join in, read, whatever you are comfortable with.

Keep coming back!

 



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This is the step I have worked on for 6 YEARS and have been unable to get passed.
 
what is my concept of a higher power at this moment? Spiritually I am struggling, I believe in a God which is kind and loving and always open armed for the return of his lost sheep
 
What do I hope to gain from accepting the concept of power greater than myself? some sanity in knowing I don't have to juggle it all by myself, that I can give it God and not worry about it anymore.
 
Do I sense spiritual guidance in my life? Explain Like I said, I am struggling here. There was a times in my younger years God seemed so close. I don't know how I have drifted so far from Him, but I do have a sense of distance from God. It is a lonely feeling.
 
What does let go and let God mean to me? For the things I cannot control, to hand them over to God to manage as He sees fit

What to sanity mean to me? peace of mind, clear and rational thinking
 
Have I allowed the alcoholic situation to become my higher Power? It takes over your peace and distances you from your higher power


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Welcome Mel
Appreciate your honesty aand dedication Please do keep coming back

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