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Alanon Step 5 (5-1-2019)


Step five:" admitted to God to ourselves and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs
 
C2C reading page 50:  I am learning the nature of my nature by working the 12 steps. . I trust that I will uncover what I need to know for now and uncover the remaining in  time. I am learning"that  as I keep working the steps  I am   demonstrating a willingness to change"

My share : I have completed many Step 5s during the course of my many years in program. I must admit that the first was the most difficult as I was not familiar with looking at myself with such honesty and an open mind, thanks to program I have developed both and readily approach this step to uncover the negative tools that I still implement an living life..  i also found that the exact nature of y wrongs was that i thought myself perfect and everyone else at fault ---  Not so as I look deeply at my motives. 

Step5 5 questions
 
 Have I  completed my fourth step and learned about sharing my past ?

What area of life can I be  honest?
 
What are the advantages I might achieve in admitting my faults?
 
Do I understand  the healing  admitting my faults can bring?
 
What expectations do I have about how I should feel or what I should experience what I meant my thoughts?
 
Am I afraid to live by. the  program?
 
Can I call a alanon friend  for support/t?
 
Do I see I  am not perfect?


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Step five:" admitted to God to ourselves and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs

Step 5 questions

Have I completed my fourth step and learned about sharing my past?
   No, but I am about half way through the Blueprint workbook. 

What area of life can I be honest?
   I can be honest in any area of my life that I have examined and come to terms with. I also need to feel supported rather than judged. most of the judgment comes from me. 

What are the advantages I might achieve in admitting my faults?
   Leaving them behind would be nice but I don't know when that would happen, It is in my HP's time and not mine.  It is great to feel strong enough to admit mistakes.  I am not sure if I so much lose my faults and let them go.  Still researching that one. Perhaps I only lose my belief that the behaviour gets me something I need. 

Do I understand the healing admitting my faults can bring?
    Not sure.  When, like today, I just feel generally unhappy about my behaviour I  can only recall the times I was able to say I am sorry in a meaningful way.  I want to do that.  

What expectations do I have about how I should feel or what I should experience what I meant my thoughts?
    Expectations? Premeditated resentment, you mean?  I know I will think thoughts that are horrible as well as neutral or nice ones.  I just work on not acting on them.  I try to accept my feelings though right now they seem jumbled.   This too shall pass. 

Am I afraid to live by the program?
    I  am afraid to live period And I am going to keep living so I appreciate life when I can get it right.   I just don't expect me to get it right.  I wish I could get to a point of thinking I get it OK most of the time.  I am angry with myself because I have been so awful at times.  I will get to self-compassion. I am very much afraid of losing the people in my life for I have spent most of my life in isolation. 

Can I call an Al-Anon friend for support?
   Sometimes. And sometimes I can't force myself to do it.  Progress is being made but I take those little steps. 

Do I see I am not perfect?
    Yes, and I see I am not totally imperfect either. I am trying for human now which is mostly shades of grey. I have a book named the perfection of imperfection in my library.  Someday I will finish reading it.  

Thank you, Betty, for posting this and Thank you to the group for being here. 

 

Love, Nora G



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Thank you NOra for sharing your honest thoughts on this powerful Step. I found that once I exhibited the courage to do this step, program felt so much easier keep on keeping on

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