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Post Info TOPIC: Al Anon Step 6

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Al Anon Step 6

It looks like a step 6 post did not get made this month and I'm happy to put up a post.

Step 6 - Were entirely ready to have god remove all these defects of character

When I came to Al Anon, I was full of anger. I grew up in a home with a rageaholic so it stands to reason I was very good at showing my own anger.

When I came to step 6 the first time, I knew exactly what I wanted removed....anger.

I asked my sponsor, "what do I do?" she suggested I meditate and pray about it. I woke up the next day and it was still there. I prayed again that day and guess what? The next day it was still there. Miraculosly, over time, my anger decreased. When I look back, I can not define the day it changed, but I can look back and know with certainty that my anger was removed, at least a good portion of the time.

Fast forward to today. I have wanted my judgement of others to be removed. I've begged, pleaded, sworn I'll do better yet that judgement still is/was a huge part of me.

I was on the phone with my daughter and asked her an innocent question "what's for dinner tonight?" It led to her telling me something I hadn't known. I said "how come you didn't tell me?" Her answer left me speechless. She said "I was afraid you would judge me as you judged so and so" She was 100% right. I had judged someone else who had dome the exact same thing. I knew in that moment I was ENTIRELY READY to have this defect removed. I would NEVER want to hurt my child and yet I had. My judgement of another had hurt my own child (she's an adult)

I'm pleased to say that being entirely ready was what it took to move forward with having this defect worked on and slowly removed.

Does anyone else have a step 6 story they'd like to share?


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 aww Thanks A. 

For me, both fear and anger were not defects of character. But whenI had to deal with fear- and anger I chose the words terror, and rage.

These for best described my emotions. My goals in Alanon were actually joy and pleasure.

I felt like I had an emotional brewery in my body. Not too far from the truth.

And i was the one in the family who did not drink!

"one day at a time" one moment at a time -one time at a time- kept me focused on the goal.

It is really great to see how this fits together in step 6.

The serious and the desperate might be skip over some of the steps- to get relief!

"Were entirely ready." Maybe the half-way point from Step 1. ???

Time to breathe deep, sigh... biggrin ...


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