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Step 4 Al Anon

Step 4 - Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.

This step scared me the first time I faced it. I remember seeing a meme of a skeleton saying "come out, come out" I also knew that in step 5, I would be sharing my step 4 discoveries. Again, this scared me silly. Yet I had willingness. Somewhere in steps 1, 2, and 3, I had developed willingness. I wanted relief from the pain I came to Al Anon with. I was willing to do what it took to move forward. My first time through I used Blueprint for Progress. Something miraculous happened. I discovered I was not such a bad person after all. I learned that many of the character traits I had were developed when I was a child growing up in a very dysfunctional home and that they actually served me well back then. By the end of the book, I felt so much relief knowing I was not the horrible person I had come to believe I was.

Today, I work step 4 with my own sponsor the column way. In this way I'm able to pinpoint exactly what or who is troubling me =, identify the feelings and the defects of character present and get to work on them.

Who else would like to share on step 4?

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Hi Audrey, I just want to share that I had your same feelings of fear about Step 4 -- but I was such a mess that I was willing to do anything. My sponsor had me use the book "Paths to Recovery" and that has worked well for me. I also got that same sense of relief and freedom from working that step.

Awhile back I think I promised to come here and share some step work ... but since then, I have gained a wonderful new sponsor and am working the steps with her -- which takes all my mental effort for step work at this time, so I probably won't go into those details here on this board for now.

I just wanted to "come clean" and explain what I am doing. But I will say, to anyone reading, that working on Step 4 is very rewarding, so jump on in -- the water's fine.

And thank you, Audrey, for keeping this step work board going.


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thank you so much for sharing with us :)

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